Why does this always happen?

So I've been out of a relationship for awhile now and have been looking to meet new girls. The new girl I like now is really nice and talks to me and we have become more or less friends. She is in my art class and is really talented and pretty. But of course she is already in a relationship with a person I never met...

Then I started thinking back to all the girls I had a crush on or liked. All the girls I have ever liked have been in relationships. What the hell? Why am I attracted to these kind of girls? Anybody have any explanations?

I'm thinking that I am attracted to the idea of attaining the unattainable, or maybe I like how most girls in relationships don't seem so high strung and are more relaxed because they are content with their situation unlike single women who are trying to get noticed and impress guys.

My hope is I don't end up turning into a netorare villain trying to steal away someone's girlfriend (using mind break tactics presumably).

Mm...it's always a sad situation, isn't it? I think that people tend to like others who are already in relationships because, in the back of the mind, you just sort of...notice. I'm sure that you've heard of stories where a girl or a guy is invisible to someone until they get a girlfriend/boyfriend. Let me put this in terms of Yelp. If you see a restaurant you've heard of before, you might want to check the reviews. If there are none, you might keep that restaurant in mind for a little while, but not for long. But once you see that the restaurant gets good reviews, you'll want to go there. Somehow, I think relationships aren't very far off from this.

I know a bunch of girls who wonder why guys "never" like them. Maybe they ARE one of those high-strung types that are desperate to get noticed, but that can't be the case for everyone. Try expanding the circle of people you know. You'll be surprised if you meet someone who is single and still awesome and hopefully, looking. (And I don't know if you know the feeling, but it is so awesome giving the first review on that restaurant that no one has discovered yet.)

People like others in a relationship for a relationship themselves on similar reasoning that employers like to hire people who already have a job.

It's a good indication that you have something to offer.

I know how you feel. I'm like that too. It's not as if I'm attracted to the girl because she was in a relationship but I was attracted by her charms THEN I found out she has a boyfriend.

It sucks I know........... TT^TT

Same goes for me, I've always like girls that are already in a relationship but right now I've fallen for a girl who isn't going out with anyone else, so....hooray for me :D And she looks quite receptive to me, great stuff :P

HA! interesting logic.

Honestly, this might be TOO logical.

just a excuse to say you no thanks

Did you have feelings for them before you found out they had a bf?

i noticed that i get hit on much more when i'm in a relationship. i read that women subconciously see the fact that a man is already in a relationship as proof that he is a worthy mate. i've seen proof of it too. a friend of mine used to put on a wedding ring and go to bars. he got hit on way more with it than with out it.

I had that feeling also. When I was going out with my ex for the first time in my life I was less introverted and more confident because I felt that even if people thought I was weird it did not matter because I had somebody at home who likes me for who I am. Sadly she does not feel that way anymore about me and I feel like I have no confidence or self esteem now.

Also, I liked the girl before I knew she was in a relationship.

Also one more interesting fact. Since I have been out of a relationship my artwork like my drawings and paintings have gotten so much better.

I had a friend who I liked as a person, but then another friend asked her out. Then I began to notice and like her more as a girl than just a friend.

so there is this other girl in my art class I kind of like, she was sick for the last week. we made small talk yesterday and she liked my painting. Anybody got any tips on how to tell or ask if she is in a relationship?

I'm thinking of trying to invite her to go painting with me. Then I will spill stuff on my shirt, and will have to take it off to dry it then, BAM! Peck Muscles will do all the talking.