Your opinion please.....

Is it stupid to wait on someone who is already taken at the moment?
Assuming that they will eventually break up, I still think I don't have any chance because I'm a bit weird in terms of my lifestyle, attitude, and choice of clothing.
In short, my personality is whacked!. A best friend of mine said that if I want her to be interested in me IF EVER their relationship ended, I should change the way I dress because it's kind of holding me back. Should a guy be vain of how he looks to be presentable for his ideal girl?
By the way, I'm 18 and she's 20. I really like like her that much(let's not jump into love that early).

There are so many things wrong with what you just said, that I'm not even sure you're completely functional.

1. Never, ever, EVER, should ANYONE change for someone else. EVER. Not only is it hugely disrespectful to you that she even MENTIONED how you dress as a 'reason you're not getting dates', but it also reflects on herself as an individual that she was all 'oh, so you want me? well, your attire is totally holding you back'. Why on earth would you want someone who treats you with that much disdain?

Oh.. hmm, you're not one of those, are you? The types that enjoy punishment and disdain, then crave their approval that you in turn pervert into a kind of emotional longing? Just cut that shit out. You're not doing yourself any favors by lusting after someone who treats you like shit. You'd be miserable should they ever, in a blue moon, decide to be with you. TRUST ME.

2. THIS BITCH HAS A BOYFRIEND. WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING? Waiting on her when she's a. Not displayed any reciprocation of your feelings, b. Made it clear she does not respect you as a person. [No, I don't want or need to hear about all the 'good times' you've had, or how 'she gets you in all other aspects', or how 'good of friends' you are, because if ANY of those meant ANYTHING at all, she would SIMPLY NOT TREAT YOU THE WAY SHE HAS. PERIOD.]

She is TAKEN. IT'S. NOT. HAPPENING.

You've neglected to mention how well you know this girl. Is it a crush? A friend? A best friend? and has she shown any interest in you? Because if not you're on a wild goose chase.



If you wait for her to break up with her boyfriend you could be waiting a long time, and even then she might be too hung up on her ex to even want a relationship, especially if she's given you no signs of attraction. I suggest moving on, because it's probably not going to happen anytime soon and nobody should keep themselves hanging over someone they like.

But if you change the way you dress to be more fashionable you might attract positive attention from other girls. Taking his advice might not be such a bad idea.

Actually, he clearly stated:



Meaning, some other asshole probably told him he has no chance with her unless he changed how he was (among other reasons). Also, he didn't really say anything about having "good times" with the girl. For all we know, OP might just be some unhealthy stalker who thinks he might have a chance with this girl just because he saw her and her boyfriend have one small row, hence they'll probably break up soon.

OT: But yes, Kittie is dead right about one thing.

i honestly think you should take a good look in the mirror and if your not happy with what you see or you think you need to change because you want to and not because of her then do it. let me just remind you that their "is a lot more fish in the sea" meaning there is tons of hot girls out there so don't get stuck on one girl. i understand you like her and all but im sure another girl will come along. i mean like if your going to change your life style a bit don't do it for her, do it for yourself. if your always trying to impress girls, or be like your friends, your just gonna end up forgetting who you are. i also think its a bit dumb to wait because if they break up what if she gets with someone else and not you? i think you should toss her aside and move on. sorry if my advice isn't good but its for your own damn good!

She has a boyfriend. Move on.

Lol. No. It's NOT going to happen, EVER. It doesn't matter if he thinks there's something there or not, if she returned his feelings, she would have broken up with him or taken a break. Neither of these things have happened.

There is NO chance.

MOVE. ON.

Well, the truth certainly butthurts!. Even though you guys are harsh(especially Lollikittie) you are also right.While reading your comments, it came to me that what I was doing all along was wishful thinking, hoping that the day they will break up will be pretty soon and neglecting the fact that they really are going strong. I will consider all of the advice and stop this waiting shenanigan for my own personal well being.I thing it's time to move the fuck on!.
Although I will consider my best friend's advice to change my looks, but I'm not doing this for any girl, I think I just need some re-inventing.
I've also realized that changing yourself for someone violates self respect.
Thank you very much guys!!!

Basing my answer from experience, I believe you should move on and don't ever give a fuck about her again. This may sound easy, but it's really a hard thing to do given that you have developed feelings for her (but she doesn't).

Just. Ignore. Her.

Just a lil something that I memorized back at college.

Definitely move on. If she eventually comes around, great, but for the mean time, look for someone who appreciates YOU

It wasn't any harsher than your 'best friend' telling you you needed to change yourself to 'get girls'.

And, the fact I was harsh to begin with was because that shit is pathetic, and only hurts you. It doesn't hurt them. It doesn't affect them. It won't change anyone else's mind about you. It's futile. And doing something that's futile ultimately only shreds you inside.

Then one day you wake up and you want to kill her and wear her like a suit.

Should have went for it before she had a boyfriend
ur lucky the girl u like doesn't think of u as somewhat family fuck my life

Dude stop whining about your cousin, get over it.

K I will

That bold text is disturbing. Are you pmsing atm?

A few things.

1. That was incredibly offensive.
2. The bold text was to stress to the OP to drop it and move on. Just like how men most often won't leave their wives for their mistress, girls often won't leave their steady boyfriend for some guy outside who's pining for them, and hasn't even made their feelings known to begin with.
3. It'd be one thing if there was a noticeable reciprocation of his/her feelings. There's not.

It had to be said. Yelled. Bolded.

It's pretty normal though.

I wasn't undermining your point. Op looks like a guy who'd succumb to tactics like that. Still it looks pretty forceful for your inner psychiatrist. So I thought your woman side took the dominance for a sec.

I try to seek and meditate on rationality when my hormones surge, but this sounds like just a wordy 'bitches be crazy' joke. :/

Either way, it has nothing to do with the fact that the forceful nature of my post was intended, to cut through the self-pitying or piney bullshit and make it clear that this just isn't happening. There are undoubtedly many reasons, but the end is the same, and the end is all that matters.

I feel your aura dude.