Losing loved ones...

Lost my Grandpa the day after my 6th Birthday. Lost my other Grandpa who I did not know very well, and my Great Uncle was murdered. Hard not to lose people in my family, since everyone of them are life time smokers.

I'm extremely sorry for all of your loses...But I have found out something recently my mother has cancer she has come to agreement with it. But I haven't I want her to have the surgery but she refuses. And now I must lose the most loved person in my whole life and I feel like I will go insane because she will never see my first child, or see me graduate college, or go to the Marine Corps.

I am sorry about your loss.

Did you mean the Marine Corps or the morskaja pihota?

Marines

I lost a grandmother and a grandfater, also a good friend. The grandparents due age and weaknesses, my friend in a car accident where his boss sent him home with his car while he had high fever, and he drove into a truck...
I did cry on the first person i lost, but that made me change for some reason. Instead of sadness i felt anger and hate against the boss of my friend even more than being sad about his death. From that day on i couldnt cry anymore.
I pay my respect to their graves and remember the good times from time to time, thats the only thing i can do now.

I've lost both my grandpas and one uncle. I cried for my first grandpa since I was at a young age, my uncle I cared greatly for, but I held back tears because I hate crying in front of my parents, especially when they just tossed the news at me in the middle of the afternoon and it hit me like a sack of bricks. Other grandpa I was never that close to.

I've been fortunate enough not to lose any friends yet and I would say losing my friends would hurt a ton more since I'm much closer to a lot of them than I am to my family.

Oh hell, I've lost a lot of loved ones. I'm quite happy for one though. He deserved it. But yeah, it's tough. I lost my uncle. He was a drunk and a smoker. He didn't die because of that though. he died of a car crash.

There's a certain human instinct to feeling hurt, hurt about the death of a loved one (and even a complete stranger in some cases). Some people try to stay strong, to inspire courage. Some people let out their feeling, understanding that there's is nothing left to do; nothing left to say. I don't know what type of man your father is, but I wouldn't hold it against him nor be troubled by his lack of emotion. I have a feeling that he's definitely troubled, but just doesn't want to show it.

I’ve got no clue whether or not it’s appropriate for me to share this but meh nothing ventured nothing gained. My loss especially sucks: 5 years ago i was at a family reunion. It was fun seeing distant relatives, my cousins running around like insane chipmunks, the adults catching up on old times. My uncle Grey was in charge of the grills, the standard charcoal grill the park has cemented into the ground plus a large propane powered party sized grill. That’s where the problem was: a hot coal fell onto one of the spare tanks sitting beside the grill, a minute or two passed then: BOOM! When the first tank blew the other 4 were soon to follow In that instant 17 members of my family were dead the rest, me included, were dying or grievously injured.

Emotions will only make you weaker. The loss of a loved one does take its toll on the heart, but that's not going to end the world. You can choose to crawl into a state of depression, or take the experience as a life lesson and become a stronger individual. I've lost many friends in Iraq, but I don't cry about it. They would come back and haunt me if they knew I couldn't let go of the past.

Some have the will to move on, others allow grief to overcome them. Either way, you have one life, don't waste it.

if you mean lost for that someone died, no I just loosed the contact to my very first love and that made me really sad for months.

i have a aunt that was so wacky and cheerful but passed aways due to a sickness (TB or Tuberculosis and hepa (i don't know the type but i think it's A or B) yep. she was a real smoker she died young and I saw her in pain when I visit her she was really healthy back then but when i came again to visit her. she was frail and thin as in very thin. my mother said we should put her to a ospital but her husband said no he will be okay the doctor said. back then we had a big financial crisis in our family because of my fathers business that's why my mother only did like giving medicine and making the doctor go to there house few months had passed they said my aunt died in her bed, eyes open while her hand in the air like catching something in the air they say she died due to lost of breath like someone is choking her. back then i can't even go to her room to see it even though her body was gone i was too afraid to go in there and even back then i was afraid of there house because no sunlight passes through to that house so in the afternoon it's dark and creepy when we were in the funeral i was like just sitting and feeling nothing but i feel the gloomy atmosphere when i go and when to see her for the last time i felt nothing it was like nothing as in stone rock i want to cry but i can't as if my heart was turn off then i saw the husband cry (tito ereneyo) he was like saying it's not my fault that she died! then my mother burst into tears and curse him and said he left my aunt all alone in the house so that's why she died and cursing and she should have live if you agreed to me to take her to the hospital it was a total chaos and my sister and i decided to leave first then when we arrived home i slept and i don't know if this is a dream or not but i saw her in my dream she way so bright and happy and kinda pat my head softly as if saying she's okay then after that i came to school i was really silent not like the normal silence that a did to school like smiling and then talk to the person talking to me and reply politely i was like silent the house 3 hours i want to talk about the incident but it just was my heart was so turned off i feel nothing then recess arrived and my bestfreind ask what's wrong she look at me to the eye she was really worried and there i simply talk and said my aunt just died like it was nothing then suddenly i felt the ache and tears was gushing out of my eyes i just cried to her and hug her she pat my back lol when i remember this i feel really happy to have a friend like her even though she's a cosplay freak and attention cam whore (sorry dainne ahaha ganti to sa pag kain mo sa pagkain ko nung friday ;p) so there i felt really great when i let it all out it was so refreshing and i felt alive again i know my aunt is in a good and happy place so i don't need to worry. :D

I've had a few family members who have died (just the generation before my dad). but i never really 'loved them'. i barely even spoke to them.

But if and when one of my close family members dies- like my grandma, grandpa, dad, mom, etc.- then i bet i will be devastated.

But the world won't stop for me.

People die. People cry. Life goes on.

Having spent a number of years in a warzone I've seen many people leave this earth, truly there's nothing worse than war. Although it has opened my eyes to much of the decadence that those who live in peace enjoy blissfully. Once you know the truth its difficult to return to all of it. The truth is people die everyday, they die brutal inhumane deaths at the hands of fellow humans whilst we sit and party and speak of self righteous bullshit like human rights - sorry for ranting I just had to get that out there.

I feel like nobody understands me, they wonder why I sit and stare into space or why I lose interest in their banal discussions why I don't want to get drunk every night (because thats only running away from it all) why I take things seriously a lot of the time - They call me a bore but do they really understand anything themselves? War isn't the only thing thats wrong with the world though, unbridled capitalism is equally destructive but a lot of people would rather shrug their shoulders and go out clubbing.

My grandpa passed away. I missed him so much. He's a great guy.

first off, don't think of your dad as evil by any means. He may be hiding his pain or was never really close to this person either. For example, when you hear someone died on the news most wouldn't care because it has nothing to do with them or anybody close to them. It's sad but true.

It's often best to be with other people when feeling sorrow for the loss of a loved one. Don't tackle this alone, you need the comfort of other people.

I lost a dog once and I'm not gonna lie, I cried my heart out.

Be aware that it doesn't matter if you're male or female. It is best to let it out. Even if you have to do it alone. You need to let the emotions out before they consume you.

My grandma died and my whole family on my mother's side went awry. I did not cry on the funeral nor when we buried her on the burial site on my mother's side but after a couple of years after she died, I had a bad dream about my grandma, then I woke up really sweaty and realized something really horrible and cried really hard. I used to hear her stories, mostly surviving world war II, and she is really nice and very religious. If only she would had been w/ us longer...

Late but sorry for your loss.

Yeah I've lost grandparent and it was a sad time for us but we got through it. You can always find a way to move on.

This may seem fucked up to some of you, and I'm not some crazy PETA person, but losing my dog has hurt more than losing any of my relatives combined.
I really miss her =(