Need advice about Quitting Job

Dear Fakku'ers ,
I desperately need advice about quitting my job.
Here's the problem :

I've been working for a relative of mine these last 15 months. The salary's fine but the job's rather boring.
The main problems are :
1. I become the enemy of my fellow employees , since I'm still a relative of their employer , let's say they're jealous of me , although sometimes I mentions that I am treated just the same as they are , but it turns out they don't care.
2. My relative's wife treats me a little unfairly , she's arrogant too , and she likes to arbitrarily order the others , including me.
3. The job's rather boring , I need something more fun and more challenging.
4. I'm in my late 20 and I'm still single , and at my workplace there's no prospect for me to find someone special , none at all !
5. The work hours so tiring , 12 hours a day , 6 days a week , I have no time to enjoy myself lately.

Judging from those facts , I just can't help but feeling I have to quit my job. But actually my relative says he needs me so bad and will surely have difficulties finding someone who can replace me.(But I'm quite sure I'm not really essential to his company)

So a few days ago I told him that one of my friends offered to give me a job in a bigger company out of town , and I said I really want to accept it , I said "I want to try to work in other company , but I hope someday I can get back here helping you again."
But he said some arguments that led me to feel guilty if I leave him.
I couldn't say that I want to leave him because of his wife , I couldn't say that it was because of the employees either.
Up until now I still haven't the slightest idea how to give some reason to him without having to hurt his feelings or others ....

Please enlighten me everybody >_<
Thank you very mucchhhhh ~~~

Punch his wife.

Seriously tho, its your choice. Tell him the real reason, telling him lies will just be... not good. If you want another job, don't let your guilt prevent you from doing so. That'll make you dislike your current one more.

Its impossible to not hurt anyone

Just got that summon all the courage to face your relative that you want to quit and move on you know,expand your horizon,experience a new workplace etc.

Your relative should understand as a boss.He will be hurt but he will come around it someday.

Same thing happened to my mom lol

If only I could do that T_T ,
but I really don't want to hurt anybody at all , I'm indecisive and hypocrite. A man with a weak heart.
It already happens though , the fact that I'm hating my current job. Still , I can't manage to leave him after hearing all of his arguments.

I was joking at the punch part... -_-
Well, you must have the guts to argue with him. If you don't you'll really be stuck with that job.

Oh you mean this quitting thing also happened to one of your mom's worker ?
I doubt my relative's gonna come around it quickly , I forgot to add , my older brother used to work for him too , and my brother left him quite ungracefully.... Now I'm trying to do the same damn thing !! But I will be damned if I stay there any longer , nooooooooooo ~~~~

err actually it was my mom was the worker.Same situation as you except she wanted to quit due to her health was getting worse and she couldnt stand working long hours anymore(my relative has a food stall operation)

She just said one day she couldnt stand it anymore nicely and after a few heated exchanges,they let her go.Although relationship with them have deteriorated though.

Its your future,so got to make full use of opportunities that are presented to you

This is the most fearful one to me ......
But yeah perhaps I should sacrifice the relationship for my future I guess ?

not so much so sacrifice,i am sure they will understand,you being young and all lol.

Maybe a few months down the road you guys meet up for dinner or something.

How about you mess up and resign because you messed up? know what I'm saying? Or maybe like purposely get hurt around some people than the next day, come in with like a fake cast or something and tell them your gonna quit cause your quite embarrassed about what happened...Or the cast will get in the way of work?.... But I'm just throwing some ideas out there. or actually this is probably more used for sparking some other idea...?

But in all seriousness, I'd say go for the better job. Did you only say you like to come back and help him again so you wouldn't feel guilty? Or do you actually want to come back someday?

Gahahaha that makes sense , if only I didn't follow in my older brother's footsteps ....
And yeah , we will surely see each other pretty frequently , we're quite close relatives after all ....
That makes it harder to do it ......




Ummm I have messed up once , but he let it go , saying things like "Don't mind it , try harder next time" ,
and he won't let me go just because of some physical injuries , ohhhh it's quite hard to deal with it , but thanks anyway , I hope it will spark some good ideas later hehehehe ~

Hummm yeah I did say I wanted to get back to helping again someday , at first I was just doing it to ease my feelings of guilt (Later I was scolded by my older brother for saying it) , after I heard my relative's arguments I truly felt like helping him again someday , given the conditions that his wife won't interfere with my job again plus hoping that the workers' attitude will change somehow (Oh of course I haven't told him this wife and workers thing)....
Now , could you see that I'm a really indecisive bastard ???

If you tried to "let him down easy" and he just made you feel more guilty, Then why go back to help him? If worse comes to worse, then tell him that his wife is being a bitch and that he should talk to her about it. It is after all his wife, so he should do something about it.

His arguments were not something to let me down , it's something like that he planned to promote me the next year , and if I leave him he will be quite devastated since he don't trust others easily....
I don't care about the promotion , it's his seemingly desperate words that made me feel guilty .....
Arrgggh I don't know , people says he's a smooth talker so I'm not really sure whether he really mean it or not ~~~
Ohh and I won't ever mention his wife's attitude , we're quite close relative after all , however bitchy she is , I still feel indebted to them ~

Then I don't see where the dilemma is. Take the other job, if you don't like it, then come back to this one. Doesn't seem like you've burned any bridges. Any if he really trusts you, you should be able to come back without much strife. Just say so him that it's for the better of your career. He'll understand.

How about if you leave a little note saying that you quit. and block his calls and texts and from anyone that he is related to that you think will try to to get to to get to you.

I think everyone and anyone is understanding when you need a more challenging and satisfying job than the one you currently have. In the end it is your daily life it is your time you spend there, not theirs.
In other words, if he is a relative that you know good enough, he'll accept it. If he doesn't accept it, he most likely doesn't care about your future either.
Regarding the letting him down part. Just tell him early on that in the next "x" weeks you are going to switch jobs / going to look for a new one so that it won't come out of the blue for him. That way you can give him time to find a replacement and take your own time to find a new job, incase you don't have another offer already.

Just quit. Choose a job you like and you'll never work a single day in your life.

1: Mass murder.
2: Flee to Mexico.
3: Work as Mexican fisher for awhile.

Worked for me countless times.