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Kaiyou wrote...
How did you get your partner to have sex with you?I mean like, my Gf is one of those none horny- types.
so any advice?
I met my gf online. We talked to each other for about a week or so, before i asked her out. But she's the perverted kind, and when i asked her out, she knew that the date was all about sex :p
And that was how i had sex with her for the first time.
now
Vio wrote...
By non-horny, do you mean she's too shy to have sex with you, or does she have no interest in sex?
If she's shy...
1) Build up to it with innocent touch, leading to semi-sexual touch. If you're kissing or cuddling, start rubbing her arms. If she's wearing a t-shirt, slip your fingers juuust under the hem of the sleeve and rub there. Push up the sleeve slightly. For some reason, that sort of touch makes me feel an intense desire for the person to play with my boobs. I'm not sure if that's a common reaction, but hey maybe it'll work on your girlfriend.
2) Sit down and talk to her about it. Not when you're horny and want it, but some time when you're completely calm and open. Ask her when she'll be ready for sex, how far she's willing to go, what you could do to make her want it more, etc.
3) Ask if she's afraid of getting pregnant or contracting an STD. If she is, offer to get tested together or take her for an exam to get birth control. Help pay for birth control.
If she's uninterested...
1) She may be asexual. Ask if she's okay with an open relationship. Some asexuals realize that their unwillingness for sex upsets their partners, and understand their need. They may let their boyfriend/girlfriend have fuck buddies on the side, as long as they're the only ones with a romantic connection with you.
2) She may be going through a stressful or upsetting period in her life. Ask if she is happy overall, not just with your relationship but in all aspects of her life. I find that when I'm having the blues, I have no. sex. drive. whatsoever. Try to find a solution to these issues, and she may gain an appetite.
All in all... don't pressure her into it. She may come to resent you for it, or she'll pretend to enjoy sex when really she dreads every minute of it. Some girls don't know how to say no, and will spend months or years faking arousal and orgasm. You don't want that!
Also: spontaneity. Being aroused is different for guys and girls. From what I hear, for guys, arousal is a physical state. It's also a "dominant" emotion that overrides sadness, stress, etc. For girls, however, arousal is much more mental and emotional. Most girls cannot become aroused if they are upset or stressed. Making a big production of sex => pressure => anxiety => non-horniness. Don't do stuff like "we're gonna have sex for the first time on my birthday", etc.
Holy shit, that was one hell of a complete answer. I even showed it to my gf, and she said she wouldn't add a thing.
My advice for you buddy, follow Vio's advice.
Are you sure? Married she is, but I didn't know it was with someone from here.
Anyway, she's the kindest person i've ever met in this forum.
Anyway, she's the kindest person i've ever met in this forum.
And to think i wasted my precious time writing him a kind pm teaching him that not everybody has all the beautiful fonts he have installed on his computer :/
Do you know that 90's movie, Ghost, with Patrick Swayze?
If being a ghost was like in that movie, i would be able to also feel up the girls i'm stalking and would never get caught, yay!
If being a ghost was like in that movie, i would be able to also feel up the girls i'm stalking and would never get caught, yay!
Idk, i'm kind of a cetic guy. I think dying might be something like 'the end' you know? Like, no nothing, no afterlife, no ghost, no nothing, it just ends.
But i'd like if i became a ghost : D
I already haunt ppl while alive. Being a ghost would be funny lol
But i'd like if i became a ghost : D
I already haunt ppl while alive. Being a ghost would be funny lol
I do, unfortunately :/
I'm a convicted addicted smoker, the kind who says "i'll quit someday".
Anyways, just answering the poll,
started at the age of 14. The girl i was going out with thought me how to smoke. Dumb yes, i now, but i like the taste.
Also, red marlboro only, about one peck each day and a half, making an average.
I'm a convicted addicted smoker, the kind who says "i'll quit someday".
Anyways, just answering the poll,
started at the age of 14. The girl i was going out with thought me how to smoke. Dumb yes, i now, but i like the taste.
Also, red marlboro only, about one peck each day and a half, making an average.
