Gambler Posts

1. Mistrust
- It's a vunlnerable position to put oneself in, you can get hurt. I mean physically, in this case. I'd like to think myself as a person not too hung up on gender, but I think that I might feel more often threatened by males than females. This really dawned me when I was talking online with people (all girls) about blind dates. I was pretty surprised how they can just go out there and have fun without stunguns. While I intellectually understand that men (unlike in hentai) don't usually rape people just because they can, it seems like my minds eye exaggerates agressive behavior in males.

2. Fear of pregnancy
- In my case to the point of being a bit ridiculous. Yes, there is contraception, but it doesn't work with 100% accuracy. Being 'forced' to have a child in my life might not be the worst thing that could happen to me, but I think it's in the top ten. That would end up in an abortion, and I would really much want to never go through that, either. It won't keep me from having sex, but it almost certainly will be there at the back of my mind.

3. The 'slut' thingy
- While I personally don't have anything against women with active sexual life, I know if I had one I'd like to keep it more or less secret. In theory that would efficiently cross out friends, co-workers etc. from "to do" - list. Ironically, these are most often people that you could trust. The 'slut' thingy also has a bit to do with fear that if something goes wrong, it will be my fault or at least labeled by society to be my fault. Again I intellectually know that rape victims and people who have had an abortion are shunned only by a minority, but that's one damn loud minority. There is this nagging thought that if I agreed to have sex or even acted too provocatively, it was really my fault.

4. Period
- speaks for itself really :D

5. Hair insecurity
- This is a bit ridiculous, but if I haven't shaved recently enough, I'd like to keep those clothes on.

Also, there is a thing that doesn't personally bother me but I have heard it from a few sources: some women seem to be put off by such terms as "get some" and other phrases or behavior that imply man to be a subject and a 'taker', while woman is passive object and a 'giver'.

Some of those are true for both sexes and men probably have their own insecurities, but as a whole I'd like to think that while horniness is more of a personal trait than gender related, women have more risks or at least perceive themselves to have more risks when deciding to have sex.