So i got raped this weekend...

if youve read my posts im kinda mixed about it. im not gona just cut her out but im kinda scared to ask. and im pretty sure had she just said something i wouldve helped her. and the rope was a little unneeded.

btw you really have me pegged all wrong, you just haven't read any of my positive posts where I've provided insightful information/opinions.

Either way, it might just have been her way of finally telling you, she probably thought you didn't think of her that way before that happened.

Well im fine with starting over [man that sounded straighter in my head]

AND THATS CAUSE I DIDNT!!

wasnt aware I had a negative image in your eyes.

It was more of a ususally an asshole but has meaning behind what he says kinda thing

Rape her back.

i'm alright with that; though I would feel bad if i angered you or anyone else when I wasn't trying to (as I often don't).

lookin back on most of the topics i kinda took it out of context. that or your controling my mind.

im good at making people angry/not like me.

If you enjoyed it, it wasn't rape.

If you said "no" to her and she kept going anyway - that was rape [I skimmed through some posts I don't remember you saying anything about saying no].

and honestly, if you really did get raped you wouldn't take it so lightly. I mean, you wouldn't be posting it in a forum for everyone to see. [You wouldn't make a thread in a forum saying "WELL, I just got raped". <_<]

I think it was just shock of something new happening.
[as you said "it's your first time you didn't have a say in anything"]

no, i actually hide nothing in my life. every bit of my existence is somewhere on the internet. and i did say no up until i actually saw who it was. then i couldnt speak.

If you say so, even if your part of existence is everywhere on the internet, I just think something as personal as rape should be kept to yourself and should be told to people you trust - not random people on the internet.



If that's what happened - then yes, you were raped and you should talk it out with her. You should tell her you got scared at first and if she plans on doing anything like that again, that she needs your consent on it first, beforehand.

ok 98 percent of what random people tell you is useless bullshit. but .5 is really good advice. thats what im goin for.





that fits in to that .5 percent.

Rayne just because people can lie on the internet is no reason to assume they are. Even if someone is making something like this up just to see what people have to say we still might as well respond as if it's the truth.

Well an important question is if you're interested in having a relationship with this girl. Either way you should talk to her about it. If you're interest in her you should tell her so. If you're not you should make it clear that continuing to have her way with you in her sleep is damaging to your friendship. Of course you might just wanna fuck her with no strings attached....and that's something you should tell her too. There's pretty much no good reason to avoid talking to her about it, you'll just make/let things get worse and there's no reason to do anything particularly abnormal either. You should probably also mention being tied up hurt you.

Thanks for defending me and for the good advice. and i can get over the rope burns. pain doesnt really bother me anymore. the shock it was her was worse.

Oh I should have elaborated on that more. I meant that you should mention the tying up hurt just so she knows it's not something you particularly enjoyed. If you're going for one of the 2 sex options I mentioned I figure you'll want to expand on that and then tell her what you actually do like.

I just think that it's a bit too personal, is all. I never said he was lying about it. I just said he should of asked his personal / close / trusted friends about it first.

But yeah, whatever. I'm the bad one for being honest. W/e.

Did you ever tell her you wanted her to take charge? Because if you did she then ignored you saying no, thinking that you were just playing along with her being dominant and all. It's something you really need to talk to her about though. Ask her what were her intentions that day, if she can't really explain herself all too well then she was forcing herself on you - but if she thought it was something you might of liked because she never took charge of anything [or something along those lines] then maybe it was a big misunderstanding.

Ill elaborate on who she is so you can understand better.I met her my senior year of high school. she was the school nerd and i never really talked to her until i ran into her after school. i had just got out wrestling practice she just got out of the library [see the difference]. i offered her a ride that she accepted and we became friends after that. she kinda started hanging around me and i didnt mind. even after i graduated she kept in touch and ended up going to the same college as me. over time we actually became great friends, and she was like my confident for the longest. i talked to her about my girlfriends [the few i had] games, illness, or anything and she was always there for me. she was the nicest person ive ever known. its been three years now. and then this shit happens. so there ya go.

Yeah I'm kinda thinking she liked you for a while and thought you probably wouldn't be interested in her and ended up doing that out of desperation or something. Though it's not like I know her or anything so that's just a guess.