what do you do to stop frustration and anger?

I go out and start beating random people.

I'm not really a person who likes to just seat and watch when you see that some people are being used by some organization that isn't even using the one and only thing that defines that they are a christian religion. for me, a christian organization that is not using the holy scriptures as a guide shouldn't be even be called a christian organization because for me the bible is the one and only thing that is left for Christians to obey. I would rather obey the bible than any man in this earth no preacher no pastor not even a pope that uses idols of people in the bible and picture of Jesus in their churches which I believed is a malpractice and blasphemous. but when it comes to religion this is just my thoughts of it. please don't get me wrong this is just my opinion

marriage isn't really what I think I should be doing it's just that I just envy from time to time my friends who's already married. but marriage is not really my priorities I just want to have the feel of getting married. it just makes me feel like that when seeing there videos in facebook.

I do really care about what is my status in the school I don't like people talking at my back that the one thing a really loath. I'm a person who will confront any person who's slandering or even gossiping about me even in court I'm not kidding.

I really want to just ignore them but when they go in our classroom and hear them talking about how cool the loud concerts and you'll have fun is really so wrong.

I do know I'm in control in my life. it's just that I don't really find the solutions on how to have a happy life or what is really my main goal why am I living : ) I don't even what I need to do differently to be honest.

I always do cardio exercises such as jogging every off and night after going to school we have a sport center here. I always go out with my friends we even go to puerto galera just past few weeks but sometimes I just feel that what we are doing is really repetitive I just feel to tired traveling these days. I always talk to my friends but my friends are not really in to these type of things and I've known them ever since I was in high school so I know what will be their reaction. I do like what you said about showering but when I'm in the shower my mind thinks of what I need to do tomorrow or what will happen tomorrow if I won't do this and that but it's good :) I will try cooking thanks : ) I love playing games it's just that I don't have time for it. I like playing games with someone but no one is around the house to play with me and I don't like playing games when I'm just alone I do play a little clash of clans from time to time. can you suggest anything good to eat? : ) thanks : )



I did yoga before on fitness first and yes it's really good.



I just tried to check what bboy is lol I thought like smashing things up. I like to try that though. : )



I see..

I just feel like when people talks bad things about me I just have the need to defend myself. since I already worked I just feel like I don't fit in a school anymore. just my what im feeling though.

I'll try that. thanks : )



yes I do go out with my friends to a bar resto. but I would rather drink inside the house but I can't : ) I don't really like partying these days I feel so tired.



hahaha I do try my best to write properly. will try better next time. : )



I'm not that crazy! :D

Usually I get frustrated from League, either I'm doing poorly or my teammates are flat out retards.

When that happens, I just turn up the volume on my music and then sit down comfortably and stare at the wall, usually calms me down. I guess it's the mixture of a nice gray and some good music really that calms me down.

yeah I love listening to music too.. : )

Everyone has there own view on religion and as you said yours is your opinion. To be angered by how others decide to live there lives is the pot calling the kettle black. You hate when people push there religion onto you, but you feel anger towards how others live there lives? In the end it doesn't matter. You'd probably disagree with how I view Christianity, but I know I don't care if you or anyone does because how I view it makes me happy and that's all that matters. To feel anger over how people decide to live there lives does nothing good for you and is wasted energy.

If your envious then it matters to you. You're just pushing out of your mind because it's something you want that you can't have at the moment. Just work on finding someone special if you want it. It doesn't have to be now, but there's no point in getting jealous over something like that. Some people have what you want so if that's the case make it yours and enjoy what you have in the moment. That simple really.

Why does the opinions of others matter that much to you? Honestly I doubt people are talking that much about you behind your back. Back in school I had it happen to me, but my mind put more into it then was really there. Even if people do talk trash that doesn't mean jack shit. They don't know you and if they have that much time to waste talking shit they're pathetic. It also doesn't do any good to confront people on this since it only makes matters worse. The more you bitch the more you are fueling there fire. In the end just get pissed off when they do it and just let it go. The only time confrontation should happen is when you are being harmed as a result. I had to do so when my ability to stay in college was on the line, but it all worked out. Realize too that years from now none of this shit will matter.

For the last bit life is about figuring out your purpose and what will make you happy. No one can answer those questions for you. What I can suggest is to find a way to just let all of this go. I deal with anxiety personally and it sounds like you have a touch of it yourself. I know it was hard for me to deal with people; I over-thought everything and I was scared to put myself out there/change. In the end I either had to sink or swim so I swam. I learned to stop caring about how others thought and decided to just enjoy life and all of the small things that make me happy. Still a work in progress though lol.

You just need to find a way to do that too and that will come with age and time. No use bitching over spilled milk, make the effort to find things that make you happy. Better to work on being happy then complaining about what's not good in your life and over-thinking things.

ignoring things and keeping a blind eye when you know that the teaching is wrong is like your doing the same thing as the people who is doing this act I read that on the bible once i think. but as you say I can't really change other peoples mind it's just that I just feel it's my second nature to stop these kind of people. I know I don't have the right to tell them to not go there but it's just what I'm feeling is like ignoring a person right in front of you who is being stab multiple times while you just go idle and watch. and yes I can live with that and already live like that since i'm young. I want to see if change is better. which I believe i cannot do to this world. I don't have the right to stop them I do know that for sure. it's just it feels bad or I feel really sick just sitting idle. I know you won't understand me but it's just what I'm really feeling about that.

maybe it's just world doesn't work that I want it to be. and I respect that. :)
it's just that when I look back and see what my family has gone through I can't live like that. and that's what I think about marriages sometimes and at the same time hoping will be better.

I'm not really sure how was your school but rumors and gossip is everywhere even with my family,friends and classmates. I do know they are talking about me because my friends talks about someone who isn't with us when we hang out. but don't get me wrong they are the one who is doing it but I don't spread rumors or talk bad about them. I personally caught someone who is talking at me at my back at school and yes I did sometimes talk about people who I don't really like but I don't spread nasty rumors I just tell my friends what is the truth about them. even with my cousins on my father side I can hear them whispers about us and I do know they are talking about us since when I'm staring at them you'll see on there eyes that there is something off about them. I was even there when my aunt was saying bad stuff about gambling issues with my other relatives and many more.

I'm not really sure what change I have to make. I do know that I need to really change to myself I do think that all the other people needs to change too. I just can't take the fact that ignoring is the best solutions I know it's logically right but it just feels so wrong to me like a gut feeling.

I've been trying to find out what it is but when you mean finding to be happy like, finding a new hobby or going to a trip? or finding a special someone? I done all of this what I mentioned here. it's just that I'm not really satisfied on what i'm doing anymore. I might just want to sleep : )

I see.. I don't like meat. but looking online by myself just feels not right for me. but i'll try that. : )

I know I can feel better after 3 days or so I just want to see the different view of others thanks for replying : )

Still missing the bigger picture to all of this.

In the end who cares?

Who cares if other's have different belief's then you, who cares if people are talking shit about you, who cares if your life is shit or not. The main thing I am trying to say is to find happiness within yourself. The biggest issue isn't the things in your life it's you yourself. You are getting all worked up over petty things that the easiest solution is to just let go of that anger and frustration.

You can do this by realizing that you need to take care of yourself first and then you can work on the world one step at a time. You're not ignoring anything by doing this, it's just simple rationalization.

I get angry about the healthcare field, but that anger is not going to change anything so I let it go and think what can I do to make it better. For me it's education and working my way up into a position where I can make change happen.

Anger and hate are ignition emotions, but they are not good fuel. The fuel comes from using your mind and to use critical thinking as to how you can make change happen. There's other ways as well, but this is a good start to make change come about.

Anyways the answer to letting go of anger and frustration is to work on finding another way of looking at life and another way of thinking. It's not easy and it takes time, but it can happen.

My day actually got a little bit brighter reading this. Thank you, and I mean truly thank you.

please don't get offended but using the word who cares just not feels right. I know where you are coming from. but, since I'm a person who actually believes in the bible (but I'm not claiming to be a expert I just believe on it) it's really hard to explain I'm not really sure I can get through you on what I really want to tell you misaki I'm really stupid but it's just it's a matter of faith and for me to like turn my back and tell the truth since this type of organizations is being used by people who would like to run as politicians to get more votes. even here when it comes in voting politicians the person who isn't in favor with the catholic or other religious organization will surely lose. I really want to tell you more misaki but I think you are not really interested I believed that we are not on the page when it comes on religion. I respect what you said here really thankful.

It's not that I really care it's just that gossips really travel fast even my cousins on my fathers side or friends of my friends gets to know it and being embarrassed and being a topic in family gatherings is really hard since some of my cousins in my father side are in the government.

I see..

I always hated politics

ok. thanks for the advise

salamat po talaga(thank you) misaki-san

Say what you want to say, but as you said I don't have to care. You have a belief that your way is right and other's are wrong which I don't agree with. Even if you could recite the bible 100x over that doesn't mean that your interpretation is correct. What I believe in may not be right either, but I'm okay with it. I'm just happy with what I know and what I believe and if that changes over time so be it. Don't say you respect my beliefs when you really don't, because it's contradictory to say "I have so much to say on the matter to you, but I respect you". You may respect me as a person but I can already see the religion subject has caused some butthurt for you.

You do care if you're still talking about gossip. Stop denying this and get over it. I know you don't understand why I say this or what that truly means, but again look at the bigger picture of life. You have your health and they are just words. You have nothing to prove to these people and by just being happy within yourself you are already ending the anger and frustration as well as showing your family how a real man acts.

I make it a point not to talk about politics and religion with people till I really get to know them. They're sensitive subjects for most and I have my own thoughts on the matter, but I'll challenge them when I see the time is right.

I just have the belief we are all human and we are all different. I think it makes life a pain in the ass sometimes, but also enjoyable since a fucked up world is better then a mundane one. I just want to be happy be able to give that to others, but I make sure I am happy within myself first. My words may make sense at some point to you, but for now just I'll leave it at that.

>Dealing with frustration and anger

Here's my remedy:





I like your perspective and reasoning.

Beer! That's my answer. But probably not the answer for everyone. I'd also recommend fapping.

So you put blind faith in the Bible but don't fully grasp its contents and the history surrounding it?

Preface: I'm not a religious person. I don't really understand everything that goes on in religion so I may have some things wrong.

If it makes you that uneasy then I think this is what you should do.

Stop judging others first of all. You don't necessarily know why other people's faiths are different. Some of them may in fact be lazy believers. But some definitely don't see things the same way you do. Some people are simply taught to be religious. They might not actually be thinking very deeply about how they should behave and how their faith should reflect in their lives. There may be other possibilities but the point is you probably don't know what any particular case is and more important it doesn't matter.

I don't think this is as much of a matter of religious principle as it is one of society. It's really none of your business what another person thinks or does unless you are personally involved or that person asks you. When you pay enough attention to anyone, including or perhaps even especially loved ones, you're going to notice things you don't like. And when that registers in your brain you will notice every time you see it. You will pick up on it even if you're not consciously trying to. This almost always leads to trouble unless you're good at keeping a lid on it.

And more importantly when you feel that things are amiss around you and you feel strongly about the matter, then you should step up and not step in. Do the best you can do without imposing on others. Be a model citizen, be a model worshiper, let others catch on to your proper behavior. I'm someone who believes in leading by example rather than by force and I think you should take the higher road. It doesn't pay to be angry or frustrated in the first place.

Now I realize telling you things doesn't necessarily help you get anywhere. It's on you to decide how you want to handle things and even if you agree with what I said it probably wouldn't be that easy to just abandon all those negative thoughts. But I think you already know that religion is difficult. It takes effort to be faithful as with almost everything else in life. It also takes effort to change how you look at things. Do whatever you have to do. Chant to yourself "I will not judge" or "I will lead by example" or whatever it is. Pray for guidance and/or consult your spiritual leaders. But don't sit here and let your emotions pile up. You have better things to do, I'm sure.

I didn't claim I can recite the bible but I do believe in it. It seems religion is seen different in each country.I think westerner people sees the world more physically and self happiness is there main goal in life as for us most of the Asians we see the world in a spiritual level and us here in PH we do have a large family clan here which we always check our statuses even if you do something that will cause trouble in the family name your in a big trouble. I think different culture is a problem here. I'm not really sure if you are understanding that but this is my last reply on this thread. 90% percent of the people here are Christians or catholic so religion is really a big deal here. here as a family,friend or neighbor all of them will always ask you about something and how you are doing and how is your studies and what is your business is doing so I'm not really sure if it's like that there but here it like that.