Dating Guide for Dummies!!!

all of this is very good advice, now to find a girl around here who is NOT a slut. Seriously almost every girl I cross here is a freaking slut.

So...almost all of the guys are getting sex, but not you?

I'm not looking for that, I'm looking for an actual relationship, not a one-off night f*ck

Just join some celibate/chaste religious group. Christian youth group, etc...tons of them everywhere on this earth. Lots of chaste girls that are looking for chaste guys.

yeesh, a religious youth group?
*shivers*
no way I'm going back to the house of God.

I'll be bound to find the right type of girl somewhere, just gotta keep on looking. But I swear, those sluts are incredibly annoying.

That's not my point, I'm not telling you to join a christian youth group, I was pointing out a possibility. My point is that most guys are full of excuses. Instead of looking at what they're lacking to get the girl they want...they look for faults in others, their environment, society and themselves.

I agree with you but sometimes I can't help but look at the faults of people.
I don't know, maybe I should lower my standards of what I should expect from people.
well, I've got nothing else to add to this thread(not that I added anything productive anyway).

1)A way to date is to have a big ambition.Having a big ambition actually shows the girl that you actually have a life, and not some nerd who spends all of their time on your computers

2)Matching and Mirroring.People as a whole likes people who are similar to them.Therefore by agreeing with what they are saying and copying their movements, you will bound to leave a good impression on them.

More will be coming next time..

do you realize how hard it is to actually go out and search for a girl to have a relationship with? I speak as one who has been one of the no life attached to your computer guys, i sorta still am. I am 23 years old, i am a virgin, have never had a girlfriend, have never even been kissed. in high school i did try pretty hard to meet girls and to develop relationships, but you want to know something, girls are scary. as you probably guessed i am pretty nerdy so naturally people liked to bully me. by the end of my 9th grade year the people i were most scared of weren't all the jocks that would push me around. It was all those girls that i had tried to befriend. Why? because these girls would plot and scheme their hot little asses off. they were always so two faced and said the nastiest things about people behind there back. If a guy didn't like me he would come up to me call me a name and push me, no mystery there. If a girl doesn't like me she will act at nice to my face then turn around and say the worst things about me. How are you supposed to deal with people like that. Now whenever i talk to girls i am always paranoid that even if they are nice to me they might actually hate me. so even though i have no intentions of becoming the next 40 year old virgin, its not that simple. I don't even know where to look for girls half the time, lets not even get started on being friends with one. *sigh* i guess i have said my peace.

If you want it enough, you'll get it.

I was in the exact position as you, but I got fed up with all the shit I was getting. I thought I was small and weak...but man was I wrong. With some dedicated training, I was able to destroy every guy in wrestling during high school. No one messed with me after the next tournament (actually, one guy tried...but I smashed his face into the wall and that was the end of it. Told him that if he did anything else to trouble me, I would handicap him for life).

I was still paranoid that girls were fucking with me...this was my biggest problem and it took me over 2 years to get over. On my quest to get what I want, I picked up a lot of girls and burned them hard. It took a few very special girls to help me get over my own shit and realize that I became a man that attractive women fell for.

I love the quote from Robin Hood, "Rise and rise again, until lambs become lions." If you don't have the drive to rise...then you will keep getting the shit you've always gotten.

i'll add some things here that apply to me.

- believe it or not, if you're trying to crack a joke but it comes out lame-sounding or goofy, you'll still probably make her giggle and she'll think you're cute.

- girls are even harder on themselves than most guys are, so a sincere compliment or two won't hurt - just make sure you mean it! even if it's something like, "that colour looks good on you," or, "you're really cool," she'll appreciate it, even if she tries to brush or play it off.

- remember that she's probably just as nervous as you are. she might just be better at hiding it. look for little signals that might give it away - fiddling with her hair, looking down a lot, adjusting a piece of her outfit a few times, playing with her hands - it might seem like she's uninterested, but most likely she's just shy or nervous.

- not every girl is like the ones aforementioned in this thread. they may come off as sluts who just want a good time because that's really what's expected or wanted a lot nowadays. sure, a lot of them probably are like that, but don't assume every single one is. just talk to a girl. if all she wants to do is party and take her top off, then move on. at least you found out for yourself. there are a lot of girls out there. trust me. not all of them can be exactly the same.
(btw, those types of girls who are like that are usually the ones who are the root of all evil. nice to your face, but that's it.)

- don't just agree with everything she says, if she's asking you something or giving her opinion. be honest, but don't be a dick. if you do agree, say something more along the lines of, "you're right, i (reinforcing same point of opinion)" rather than just saying "yeah" in a nonchalant way. it makes us feel ignored. girls like to see guys who actually have an opinion rather than just letting them always decide on things and not getting any input on their thoughts.

One thing to remember is to always focus on the positives even if you strike out. Hell I did jack in High School and started for scratch when I got into College. It was discouraging at first but after a few screw ups you shake it off and keep going. You may not win, but you do better every time you try. lol my first try I went on my first date, didn't work out but I accomplished that, and another time this girl AND her twin sister followed me all the way back to my house, didn't work out either, but I got better and better at carrying on conversations and being less nervous. Oh and one important thing to remember is to just go out and talk to people, could be anyone just talk. It helps a lot with the conversation part.

I think the situation here is the lack of confidence.Well to start first, you would have to accept your weaknesses. For starters, try and think about the situation where you think that is the most embarrassed time of your life.After that, when you get to tough spots which requires you to speak out, think about that time.You would find that it gives you that confidence and motivation you needed to do things.

A veterinarian once told me that dogs see us humans as superior therefore they respect us and obey all our orders.Humans are the same; they are all insecure creatures.If you bring out the confidence needed, they will all flock to you, regardless of male or female.

All of this comes from my personal analysis of how the human environment works.

PS:How about killing those girls in Kara No Shoujo style?I am sure I could provide you some morphines! Haha:D

I know and freely admit its me thats the problem lol

Be yourself, be social and don't try to hard and things tend to fall into your lap.
The hardest things to find are the things you found when not looking.

A good way to build up confidence is to befriend girls even if your not interested. It's a good way to build up contacts and i did make a few good friends. It did help my confidence and know what not to do and what not to say ^^'

Just follow your heart bro. You don't need guides or etc. Do things that you are comfortable of doing and spread the love. :3