Do we really need love?

I've only ever been in two relationships..At the end of each, I was happy it was over..Is it weird that I find being alone better than having a loved one?

Well i have been single in reals for a few years now and i've been doing just fine for myself, maybe its society that wants to get married and have babies?

Sex is fine with me. I just like the idea of having someone who will be there encase i need some or blame the dead hookers in my attic on.

Really i find it nice to just have someone who has my back and cuddle with... i technically a woman anyways.

No, but someday (maybe many many many years later) you'll want somebody.

I work for many hours almost for 6 day a week, so that pretty much distracts me of wanting a relationship, but in my case I would like to get married and had a family on my own, but that something that im in not hurry to have right now, because im perfectly fine for now.

I'd say it's less a matter of need, and probably more a matter of want.

I for one love being in a relationship but its not for everybody.Different strokes for different folks, what i will say is if you KNOW your not the relationship type dont try to force it because you think its something you need to have.

It all depends for me.. I like being in a relationship, as it means i have somebody to care for, and wake up to in the morning.. also gives me something to do..
But the downside.. i'm now paying for rent and food, when i could be living with my parents buying car audio parts/ saving up for a car... saving up when you are on a maccas wage and are renting, is nearly impossible..

Why? because maccaswage

syn, you just had it tough. if youd have a wonderful lover im pretty sure you wont feel that way.

its just like my ex bf, he complained that he hates persimmon coz it tasted like paste. like everytime he ate it it was so horrible. then i told him its coz its not freakin ripe yet if it tastes like that... if he ate real deal he mightve liked it. i think he really wouldve.

"Love is all you need" -The Beetles =p I still find that to be true. I've never been in a relationship in my life, but I would still like that feeling, to be with someone you care about. But i suppose it would depend on one's opinion, but I say yes we do ^_^

I do think we need love in our lives, but I don't think we need it at all times. A lot of people run around jumping into relationships, because they don't want to be "alone". That's foolish - take time to know yourself, grow as a person, feel complete on your own, and then think about what you can offer for another. The two of you should aim to become better together - as individuals, as a couple, in all ways. If there's a lot of drama (needless fighting, excessive jealousy, etc) then is that person really making you a better, happier person? If not, then that's not the person for you. Love doesn't come easily for a lot of people. You have to be wise about who you choose to have in your life... especially in a romantic relationship, there's an intimacy to having that person around so often. Share your strengths, your weaknesses, and your life with someone deserving... but don't fall into the arms of someone else with the expectation that they'll carry all of your burdens for you.

There is no way for me to reply to this without sparking a philosophical discussion. The real, honest-to-goodness truth is YES, We -really- need love. Sit yourself down and imagine a world without it. Truly. TRY. At first you may feel okay with the idea, but it is a very basic, deep-seated need. The need for each other. The need to be absolutely sure you're not alone.

love is temporaly you love someone and eventually get boring of that person

I am actually in the same feeling right now. I was seriously about to go post on this idea when I saw this thread.

Here's my situation:
I've been dating this girl for 6 months. She is absolutely, "Heads over heels" in love with me. And she is beautiful, seriously, shes a Viet model for a local magazine down in S.CA. But the problem is, I don't love her. I mean, I seriously have tried my best to harbor real feelings for her but I can't. And although we do everything together, even sex which is amazing, I still don't have that feeling of love for her. I've been contemplating how I plan to break up with her but after 6 months and all the things we've done together, its just getting harder and harder to cut the tape. Especially when she is super kawaii sweet.

But I really do have that feeling that being alone is better. Especially when I'm a full time college student and already I can see that if I had been alone instead of being with her, I could have up to 36 more hours of study time or work time at my job instead, and thus, get farther in life.

Depends on your definition of "love"

I've had that happen to me a lot. I'd be dating this person, and I couldn't come up with a reason why I wasn't in love with them - they were what I had idealized, they were smart, they were good looking, they were X, Y, Z, but even with all of that I wasn't in love with them. Sometimes, you just know when someone isn't right for you. That doesn't mean love is hopeless or not out there... it just means that this person isn't the right one. Maybe it isn't the right time, etc. For me, it was just a skin-crawling feeling of "this isn't right". I couldn't ignore it. I had to break up with them eventually.

The definition of Love is entirly personal, i can say truthfully that i have never felt it for anyone before as in the romantic love ofc i love my mum...(sorta have to i guess xD). But Ifs not a question of Need its more Want, i would like to experiance love one day, but i know that i would live if i never did feel it.
And the whole you were glad your relationships were over... are you sure you really loved them?

No, but it makes partnership and frankly, any relationship, far more enjoyable!

Well now the question is, how do I break up with her. Or do I continue this relationship in hopes that one day I do feel something for her.

I've heard of stories of people having arranged marriages where they hate each other at first. But over time become lovers.

Do you imagine your everyday life without her? Would you be happy? Sit down and think about this for a bit. If you really know that you dont love here, end the relationship. Maybe its not the right time for you two.


Back on the topic:I think we do need love. Without noticing, you start caring about people, you dont want to see them hurt, want to spend more and more time with them.. It's in your nature, you cant help it. You cant avoid being loved and love.

Love does not only applies for couples; friends, family.. where would we be right now without their love and support?

So I had a friend of mines ask her the question of what she'd do if I broke up with her. Her reply was 200% yandere.......gaah scary, she even has a concealed firearms license >.>