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Do we really need love?

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kitty93
13 years ago
gamerrehab wrote...
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kitty93 wrote...
gamerrehab wrote...
HappyDia01 wrote...
gamerrehab wrote...
I am actually in the same feeling right now. I was seriously about to go post on this idea when I saw this thread.

Here's my situation:
I've been dating this girl for 6 months. She is absolutely, "Heads over heels" in love with me. And she is beautiful, seriously, shes a Viet model for a local magazine down in S.CA. But the problem is, I don't love her. I mean, I seriously have tried my best to harbor real feelings for her but I can't. And although we do everything together, even sex which is amazing, I still don't have that feeling of love for her. I've been contemplating how I plan to break up with her but after 6 months and all the things we've done together, its just getting harder and harder to cut the tape. Especially when she is super kawaii sweet.

But I really do have that feeling that being alone is better. Especially when I'm a full time college student and already I can see that if I had been alone instead of being with her, I could have up to 36 more hours of study time or work time at my job instead, and thus, get farther in life.


I've had that happen to me a lot. I'd be dating this person, and I couldn't come up with a reason why I wasn't in love with them - they were what I had idealized, they were smart, they were good looking, they were X, Y, Z, but even with all of that I wasn't in love with them. Sometimes, you just know when someone isn't right for you. That doesn't mean love is hopeless or not out there... it just means that this person isn't the right one. Maybe it isn't the right time, etc. For me, it was just a skin-crawling feeling of "this isn't right". I couldn't ignore it. I had to break up with them eventually.


Well now the question is, how do I break up with her. Or do I continue this relationship in hopes that one day I do feel something for her.

I've heard of stories of people having arranged marriages where they hate each other at first. But over time become lovers.


Do you imagine your everyday life without her? Would you be happy? Sit down and think about this for a bit. If you really know that you dont love here, end the relationship. Maybe its not the right time for you two.


Back on the topic:I think we do need love. Without noticing, you start caring about people, you dont want to see them hurt, want to spend more and more time with them.. It's in your nature, you cant help it. You cant avoid being loved and love.

Love does not only applies for couples; friends, family.. where would we be right now without their love and support?
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So I had a friend of mines ask her the question of what she'd do if I broke up with her. Her reply was 200% yandere.......gaah scary, she even has a concealed firearms license >.>


Oh my.. xD I bet she was kidding.. (?)
Anyways, its your decision.
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ようこ ほたる
13 years ago
Just choose One ... it may cause hard feelings
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Gravity cat the adequately amused
13 years ago
It's not weird. I yearn for a long lasting and loving relationship for the sake of wanting someone to talk to and shit. Plus, it would be nice to have someone there to appreciate me for a change instead of the other way around. The sex would just be a bonus.

But whenever I do get into one it never goes the way I expect it to, finding that the other person doesn't even bother trying and it falls apart. Then I remember why I was better off being single.
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Lollikittie
13 years ago
Humans have a fear of being alone. It's engrained in our DNA. Humans are social creatures and need a community in order to thrive.

So, to that end... Yes. Love in any form, not just romantic... is necessary.

But Love isn't something you 'find'. You can't go on an epic adventure to find your life partner. Your paths will cross when you focus on your own personal journey. Work on yourself, on meeting your goals... and it'll happen. When you're ready.
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Vivaldiren
13 years ago
Depends on the person, but the Human being is a social creature and does have social needs....
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Misaki_Chi Fakku Nurse
13 years ago
Even if you don't want to be in a relationship or marry or have kids, almost everyone wants to love and be loved. I became good friends with my roomate and told her I love her (sisterly love) and she started to cry because no one had ever said it to her before (not even her parents). When it comes to love, I think it's more about knowing that someone cares for you than the actual word itself. I hope to find someone to love and recieve it back from them, but in the meantime I'm happy just loving my friends and family, I want to wait for the right guy to give my love to (dated enough assholes to know it shouldn't be given carelessly)

Have a happy holiday to everyone on Fakku, love ya all <3
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Second_Prototype
13 years ago
It all depends.

Some people are perfectly happy being single while other people..........are not.
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Kezutah
13 years ago
Lollikittie wrote...
Humans have a fear of being alone. It's engrained in our DNA. Humans are social creatures and need a community in order to thrive.

So, to that end... Yes. Love in any form, not just romantic... is necessary.

But Love isn't something you 'find'. You can't go on an epic adventure to find your life partner. Your paths will cross when you focus on your own personal journey. Work on yourself, on meeting your goals... and it'll happen. When you're ready.


Exactly that.
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