Do you regret dating any of your exes?
Do you regret any of your exes?
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And why? Did you learn anything from them? What was your worst dating experience (maybe we can learn from each other)
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I definitely regret the first (and last) person I went out with. She seemed perfectly fine at first, but I soon found out that she had some emotional issues and apparently a history of being raped. I'd be lying if I said that I am emotionally stable since I have many insecurities about various things, but I know how to keep myself calm and think things through for the most part. My ex wasn't much younger than me (a bit over a year), but thinking back she was a bit immature. We were together for maybe 7 months, but our relationship was pretty bumpy. Eventually, being together began to feel like a hassle so I tried to break up with her but she didn't take it well at all. Basically she pulled a "I'm gonna kill myself if you leave me" card on me, and at that point I knew I had to end it no matter what. I'm not entirely sure if she would have harmed or killed herself If i broke up with her, but I didn't want to take the risk so I told her mom about her suicide threat and she took care of things from there. After breaking up with her and confirming that she didn't hurt herself, a huge weight was lifted off my back. At that point I didn't even regret breaking up in the slightest, I was just happy to be out of that mess.
Even though I do regret having that relationship, I admit that I learned valuable lessons from it. However, I still like to tell myself that I've never had a relationship in the first place. I hope that this didn't make me sound heartless, but I just never want to go through anything like that again. Pulling the suicide card is just too much drama.
Even though I do regret having that relationship, I admit that I learned valuable lessons from it. However, I still like to tell myself that I've never had a relationship in the first place. I hope that this didn't make me sound heartless, but I just never want to go through anything like that again. Pulling the suicide card is just too much drama.
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Thanks for sharing that. I don't think you sound heartless at all, it sounds like a toxic kind of relationship. At least you did the right thing and let her mother know the situation so that she could get the help she needed.
I regret only one of my relationships in the past. It was a really bad situation that I think I learned quite a bit from. I hope he'll get the professional help that he needs someday.
I regret only one of my relationships in the past. It was a really bad situation that I think I learned quite a bit from. I hope he'll get the professional help that he needs someday.
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[size=14]I have next to none dating experience, having only gone out with one girl in the past. I wouldn't say I regret it per se but I definitely wouldn't do it again. We were just much too different and she seemed to think I was originally making myself out to be something I wasn't (e.g studious and kind which are things that people only really associate with me if they don't know me very well or rather I am those things but those are not my defining qualities. I'm too much of an otaku for them to be)
Also I like having money to spend on myself which I didn't have when I was Dating. [/h]
Also I like having money to spend on myself which I didn't have when I was Dating. [/h]
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luinthoron
High Priest of Loli
Only one ex, but no regrets there. No matter how it ended, it was still one of the best parts of my life so far.
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I have 3 exes, I regret all 3 but I learned a lot during my time with each one of them.
My biggest regret was my 1st girlfriend who I dated for a little more than 3 months. She had a bad attitude, was spoiled, and naive. I only went out with her because I never went out with anyone before and she basically she had the same reason to go out with me. She always tried to hurt me so I would hurt her but I wasnt immature to do the same to her. The last straw was when she told me to get her pregnant so she could leave home and run away by herself. We broke up a few days later I couldnt handle her shit anymore. We kissed a few times but we never had sex (thank god for that).
The 2nd one was my first long distance relationship it was fun at first but was horrible later one. We only lasted 2 months, she was a freak. She would call me at midnight and touch herself moaning loud enough were I could hear everything. I was sorry I dated her, she tried to keep me with her by saying she was molested by her step father and her half brothers. She was also a gangbanger, while we were dating she told me someone tried to rape her but the cops came. I couldnt handle it I broke up with her quickly.
It left a bitter feeling in my heart to break up with someone but it was way better than being the one that was dumped.
I wont mention the 3rd one she's not worth it. From all this I learned I need to be a friend to a girl before I date her or at least know her as an acquaintance. I need to know what I want from the relationship if I start one and if I actually love the girl. There's more but I don't want to run on
My biggest regret was my 1st girlfriend who I dated for a little more than 3 months. She had a bad attitude, was spoiled, and naive. I only went out with her because I never went out with anyone before and she basically she had the same reason to go out with me. She always tried to hurt me so I would hurt her but I wasnt immature to do the same to her. The last straw was when she told me to get her pregnant so she could leave home and run away by herself. We broke up a few days later I couldnt handle her shit anymore. We kissed a few times but we never had sex (thank god for that).
The 2nd one was my first long distance relationship it was fun at first but was horrible later one. We only lasted 2 months, she was a freak. She would call me at midnight and touch herself moaning loud enough were I could hear everything. I was sorry I dated her, she tried to keep me with her by saying she was molested by her step father and her half brothers. She was also a gangbanger, while we were dating she told me someone tried to rape her but the cops came. I couldnt handle it I broke up with her quickly.
It left a bitter feeling in my heart to break up with someone but it was way better than being the one that was dumped.
I wont mention the 3rd one she's not worth it. From all this I learned I need to be a friend to a girl before I date her or at least know her as an acquaintance. I need to know what I want from the relationship if I start one and if I actually love the girl. There's more but I don't want to run on
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My only regret is that I couldn't experience all of those first with my current girlfriend instead of my ex. I hate that I gave so much stuff to a girl I didn't really love.
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Soo, sooooooo, sooooooooo many of them.
Mostly because I was a desperate codependent emotional slut that felt I needed romantic attention to fill the gaping chasm left in my soul by my mother's crippling emotional distance. It led to me hopping from guy to guy, crying 'love!', then losing interest in a mind-bogglingly short time span.
This last one lasted the longest. 4 years. And he taught me so many things, wouldn't trade that one for the world.
Mostly because I was a desperate codependent emotional slut that felt I needed romantic attention to fill the gaping chasm left in my soul by my mother's crippling emotional distance. It led to me hopping from guy to guy, crying 'love!', then losing interest in a mind-bogglingly short time span.
This last one lasted the longest. 4 years. And he taught me so many things, wouldn't trade that one for the world.
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I for moments in my life have regretted dating some of my exes. However, I've come to learn whatever I went through with them, all of them helped me learn what I truly wanted and how to appreciate that special person.
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Lollikittie wrote...
Soo, sooooooo, sooooooooo many of them.Mostly because I was a desperate codependent emotional slut that felt I needed romantic attention to fill the gaping chasm left in my soul by my mother's crippling emotional distance. It led to me hopping from guy to guy, crying 'love!', then losing interest in a mind-bogglingly short time span.
This last one lasted the longest. 4 years. And he taught me so many things, wouldn't trade that one for the world.
Sweet Jesus, Lolli, are you my emotional twin?!
I regret dating my most recent ex. He was the last in my guy-hopping chain that started in freshman year of high school, when the guy I dated at the time cheated on me. I lost my virginity to him (most recent ex) in an attempt to draw his attention to something else other than video games, and while I can't say that I was flawless in our relationship, he was just a big waste of time, and a total asshole once I took off the rose-colored lenses. I will say that I will never date the stereotypical nerd again, and that I've learned a lot about what I want in a relationship. Luckily, I have all I want now with my fiance c:
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Everyone has regrets, but I don't regret dating any of my exs. Thats how you learn as a person, to truely find and know what you are looking for in someone, and how you can learn to avoid certain people. Plus I'm friends with most of my exs still, has ts benefits.
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
Yes... twice. One cheated on me and the other left me to die on the street.
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I regret them because of how distraught they all made me feel one way or another, but I lived and learned.
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I'm going to say no, even though the last girl I was on a date with screamed fiercely at me.
It's hard to find a lady who accepts my weird preferences in art, let alone like it... Let alone accepts my strange way of thinking.
It's hard to find a lady who accepts my weird preferences in art, let alone like it... Let alone accepts my strange way of thinking.
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hiirana wrote...
Sweet Jesus, Lolli, are you my emotional twin?!
I regret dating my most recent ex. He was the last in my guy-hopping chain that started in freshman year of high school, when the guy I dated at the time cheated on me. I lost my virginity to him (most recent ex) in an attempt to draw his attention to something else other than video games, and while I can't say that I was flawless in our relationship, he was just a big waste of time, and a total asshole once I took off the rose-colored lenses. I will say that I will never date the stereotypical nerd again, and that I've learned a lot about what I want in a relationship. Luckily, I have all I want now with my fiance c:
Lol, seriously, I think I might be. I was using sex to cover up the holes in my last relationship, too. Except he was so focused on being everyone's caretaker/counselor/fixer-upper that he had no energy or will to be a real boyfriend. Thought sex would fix it. It didn't. ._.
Still going for the stereotypical nerds. They're my kin, I can't help it. I want someone who gets my bizarre, pretentious, utterly lascivious and overly-analytical ass.
I'm not going to lie, Hiirana. I'm mad jelly of you and your dude. Secretly hoping you don't work out, just so I don't feel like such a fucking failure from my last relationship. Pretty sure I'm so off the reservation and weird that I simply don't have a 'one'. Dx
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Lollikittie wrote...
Lol, seriously, I think I might be. I was using sex to cover up the holes in my last relationship, too. Except he was so focused on being everyone's caretaker/counselor/fixer-upper that he had no energy or will to be a real boyfriend. Thought sex would fix it. It didn't. ._.Still going for the stereotypical nerds. They're my kin, I can't help it. I want someone who gets my bizarre, pretentious, utterly lascivious and overly-analytical ass.
I'm not going to lie, Hiirana. I'm mad jelly of you and your dude. Secretly hoping you don't work out, just so I don't feel like such a fucking failure from my last relationship. Pretty sure I'm so off the reservation and weird that I simply don't have a 'one'. Dx
....Eh, better that he was everyone's caretaker than hopelessly addicted to Team Fortress 2. I mean come on. TF2. I probably wouldn't have minded so much had he been hooked on another game lololol.
Oh trust me. lol Ace (fiance) has his nerdy side. I think they all do. My issue with stereotypical nerds is that while they do get your bizarre, pretentious, utterly lascivious and overly-analytical ass, they're exactly the fucking same and don't know how or when to stop. I guess my blessing here with Ace is that he's pretty damn normal, except when he gets on the computer lol. I used to think the same thing about myself, but honestly, it really limits your selection lol. I dunno. I'm just kinda talking outta my ass here, hoping it's mildly helpful. But I guess I can't exactly talk, when I met Ace on 4chan :p
Fuck, maybe you could take a peek there? Last time I was on /soc/ it was full of relatively normal guys who understood our nerdy tendencies. At least...after you filter through the dick threads XD
PS. You're not off the reservation, if you actually wanted to go lolol.
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Only one my first girlfriend we dated from middle school into high school only to realize that she had been cheating on me since the start with my best friend and when I finally confronted them about she said and did some things I would rather forget
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I do regret dating my ex because it felt that I wasted my time.
I dated her for two years and it was the first time both of us were in a relationship. We both really had no real clue about dating, I found out that she was the youngest child of a close-nit asian family as her oldest sister was 45 (she was 15 at the time) and the second youngest was her brother who was in his mid 30s so she was isolated a lot (as she went to an all girls school too) and really didn't know much about dating. While I had some semi-experiences early on this was also a real first for me.
One of the main problems with dating her was that I was 20 at the time and she was 15 (in my state, consent for sex is 16) and her family HATED me because of my age and I wasn't asian. I felt that dating her I was always a teacher and explaining things as she didn't even know much about anything. I felt like I wasted my time when dating her as it was more of a teacher/student relationship.
I didn't gain anything out of it (found out she cheated on me by one of her friends) and looking back; it most likely would have been better off if I didn't date her. I feel like I'm being mean and an asshole here but I honestly think if we stayed as friends we would still be talking to each other (I haven't spoken to her since breaking up) and she would have turned out the same way as I last heard that she moved away from her family after going to college and cut ties with them.
I dated her for two years and it was the first time both of us were in a relationship. We both really had no real clue about dating, I found out that she was the youngest child of a close-nit asian family as her oldest sister was 45 (she was 15 at the time) and the second youngest was her brother who was in his mid 30s so she was isolated a lot (as she went to an all girls school too) and really didn't know much about dating. While I had some semi-experiences early on this was also a real first for me.
One of the main problems with dating her was that I was 20 at the time and she was 15 (in my state, consent for sex is 16) and her family HATED me because of my age and I wasn't asian. I felt that dating her I was always a teacher and explaining things as she didn't even know much about anything. I felt like I wasted my time when dating her as it was more of a teacher/student relationship.
I didn't gain anything out of it (found out she cheated on me by one of her friends) and looking back; it most likely would have been better off if I didn't date her. I feel like I'm being mean and an asshole here but I honestly think if we stayed as friends we would still be talking to each other (I haven't spoken to her since breaking up) and she would have turned out the same way as I last heard that she moved away from her family after going to college and cut ties with them.
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I'm currently debating whether or not I should get back together with my ex. I don't know how it will work out at all. But I don't think I'll regret it. I hope to learn from it if it doesn't work out. And I hope to grow from it if it does. I don't believe in holding grudges and having regrets. I think every mistake should be learned from. And every bump in the road should just be ran over.