Faking Orgasms
Should women fake orgasms?
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Brittany
Director of Production
Has any other female had sex where you don't actually notice your PC muscles contracting from an orgasm, but after sex is over you're just so god damn satisfied despite not actually feeling the contractions? That happens to me once in a while
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Ziggy wrote...
Has any other female had sex where you don't actually notice your PC muscles contracting from an orgasm, but after sex is over you're just so god damn satisfied despite not actually feeling the contractions? That happens to me once in a whileHehe, actually that happens most of the time for me. Usually I can't notice myself twitching because I'm too lost in the moment, lol.
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Ziggy wrote...
Has any other female had sex where you don't actually notice your PC muscles contracting from an orgasm, but after sex is over you're just so god damn satisfied despite not actually feeling the contractions? That happens to me once in a whileMe too. Just sometimes. And orgasms are always satisfying, but I guess it's better that way.
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I remember my ex where i knew how to make her orgasm. Sadly, she could only when she was straight has a bar, so only in forplay. She did fake it while doing it, but i just told her: ''You dont need to fake'' but she just enjoy's doing it
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Ziggy wrote...
Has any other female had sex where you don't actually notice your PC muscles contracting from an orgasm, but after sex is over you're just so god damn satisfied despite not actually feeling the contractions? That happens to me once in a whileyep I have
getting there can be just as fun, if not more, as being there. :)
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Faking orgasms have to be done sometimes. It sucks for both parties, but I think it's necessary to fake it if you just can't get there once or twice. If you have to fake it consistently, there's a major issue. But sometimes it just doesn't work.
Sometimes, I just don't WANT to get there. I just know it'll either take forever or won't happen at all. It's not always an issue with the guy himself; maybe I'm in a bad mood or I'm tired, whatever. It's easier just to fake it and be done with it than to endure something I'm not enjoying. Even if you explain to a guy that it's not his fault, he gets all butthurt about it. It's not worth the trouble.
Sometimes, I just don't WANT to get there. I just know it'll either take forever or won't happen at all. It's not always an issue with the guy himself; maybe I'm in a bad mood or I'm tired, whatever. It's easier just to fake it and be done with it than to endure something I'm not enjoying. Even if you explain to a guy that it's not his fault, he gets all butthurt about it. It's not worth the trouble.
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Circe wrote...
gizgal wrote...
Um lemme just say sometimes when a guy can't get you off, ever, but you love him, it's best to say you're all set.If it happens A LOT, say something. The first few times, let them have the ego boost they need. ;p
Orgasming is honestly quite difficult for many women, much more so than men. Many are embarrassed to admit it.
Agreed. Sometimes we just can't get there, and I've actually had a guy get all upset that I wasn't, which doesn't help.
I don't know a guy who would prefer me to say "WELL SORRY, BUT YOU JUST CAN'T DO IT FOR ME", than have me do a little convincing moaning and wiggling...
But if it happens more than a couple times, we need to "talk".
I agree with both of you. If it is a rare thing and the girl just isn't feeling it than it is more than understandable that she would fake it. I know it sounds impossible but I also in one instance(even as a guy) have come close to climax but didn't quite get there, and the guilt you feel as a partner is huge. The only way to smooth the situation out is to fake it. However, as both of you said, if it happens on a regular basis than the couple needs to have a talk.
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He's butt hurt because he can't get you there, yes, but he doesn't want you to undermine his manhood and lie about it to him.
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Space Cowboy wrote...
He's butt hurt because he can't get you there, yes, but he doesn't want you to undermine his manhood and lie about it to him.You couldn't get Marty the Polar Bear "there", huh? :[
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Space Cowboy wrote...
He's butt hurt because he can't get you there, yes, but he doesn't want you to undermine his manhood and lie about it to him.Exactly.(except replace his manhood with the relationship)
the one thing i can not and will not stand is dishonesty in a relationship.
if you don't want to, say no.
if he's not good enough, teach him. every woman is defferent, maybe you need your elbow biten and your left big toe twisted in a counter clockwise motion while reciting the preamble of the constitution to get you there. or maybe he is just a jack hammer jack ass. either way, if you fake it, he'll never know it aint working for you unless you tell him. granted, this may be a difficult subject to bring up, but, IMHO, if you are comfortable enough with the dude to get nekid and wiggle around in the first place, this shouldn't be that big of a leap.
if his ego is too fragile to take it, ditch his bitch ass.
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Sisami wrote...
Space Cowboy wrote...
He's butt hurt because he can't get you there, yes, but he doesn't want you to undermine his manhood and lie about it to him.You couldn't get Marty the Polar Bear "there", huh? :[
I don't know why polar bear is capitalized, insinuating it's his title; but yes, something to that effect.
I agree with Mr.Shaggs, talk that shit out before it becomes a problem. If it don't work, it won't work.
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Space Cowboy wrote...
Sisami wrote...
Space Cowboy wrote...
He's butt hurt because he can't get you there, yes, but he doesn't want you to undermine his manhood and lie about it to him.You couldn't get Marty the Polar Bear "there", huh? :[
I don't know why polar bear is capitalized, insinuating it's his title; but yes, something to that effect.
You should totes date Sasha the Penguin. YOU'RE TOO GOOD FOR MARTY THE POLAR BEAR. YOU DON'T NEED HIM. HE CAN GO FUCK HIMSELF.
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People are consistently overlooking the easy solution to this mess.
Don't.
Get.
Into.
A.
Relationship.
See, in five easy words I've circumvented the entire debate for everyone and allowed both parties to do their thing. If you want actual sex then get a fuck buddy or whatnot.
Don't.
Get.
Into.
A.
Relationship.
See, in five easy words I've circumvented the entire debate for everyone and allowed both parties to do their thing. If you want actual sex then get a fuck buddy or whatnot.
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While we're on the subject...
faking it well is not easy to do. if he has ever seen her actualy have an orgasm, he knows what she look like and how she acts when she does. how many people know how they them selves look and move and whatever when they have an orgasm? i know i don't know for sure*.
i probably shouldn't be saying this, but, if you want to be a succesful faker, i suggest making a video of your face while mastubating. then you will have a point of referance. although i am still opposed to the whole thing, i just thought i'd share my obsevation. now don't abuse it please.
*[size=10]i've been told it's hard to tell when i do. i'm pretty dead pan most of the time anyway.[/h]
faking it well is not easy to do. if he has ever seen her actualy have an orgasm, he knows what she look like and how she acts when she does. how many people know how they them selves look and move and whatever when they have an orgasm? i know i don't know for sure*.
i probably shouldn't be saying this, but, if you want to be a succesful faker, i suggest making a video of your face while mastubating. then you will have a point of referance. although i am still opposed to the whole thing, i just thought i'd share my obsevation. now don't abuse it please.
*[size=10]i've been told it's hard to tell when i do. i'm pretty dead pan most of the time anyway.[/h]
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Mr.Shaggnificent wrote...
i suggest making a video of your face while mastubating and sending it to me.:O
Mr.Shaggnificent wrote...
*[size=10]i'm pretty dead pan most of the time anyway.[/h]D:
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
sv51macross wrote...
yada yadaI can literally see your hatred for woman seeping out of that post.
Maybe you should stop reading those 'OMG A WOMAN FUCKED MY LIFE' stories and move on.
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Real men learn how to pleasure their women with gusto. You can't learn without failing once in a while.
There are way more demoralizing things than being told that you suck at sex, especially if you do actually suck at sex. I mean, if an awkward moment stunts your ability to act off of an impulse forever, you're probably doomed forever anyway.
There are way more demoralizing things than being told that you suck at sex, especially if you do actually suck at sex. I mean, if an awkward moment stunts your ability to act off of an impulse forever, you're probably doomed forever anyway.
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Ziggy wrote...
Has any other female had sex where you don't actually notice your PC muscles contracting from an orgasm, but after sex is over you're just so god damn satisfied despite not actually feeling the contractions? That happens to me once in a whileI noticed this happens a lot when it takes a look time to orgasm, but sometimes it leads to - i dunno - a "buzz" of an orgasm lol. It is like a long drawn out mellow pleasure.
I dunno why some people think that faking an orgasm is a bad thing for girls to do. It isn't because we are lowering a bar or hiding our sexual displeasure (not me anyways). I think its just because at first we were like "hey lets sex" then figured out that tonight it just ain't happening. But I don't want to be a bitch about it and say, "Yeah, I quit - get off on your own".
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neko-chan wrote...
[quote="Ziggy"]I think its just because at first we were like "hey lets sex" then figured out that tonight it just ain't happening. But I don't want to be a bitch about it and say, "Yeah, I quit - get off on your own".that'a what blow jobs are for. ;)
i just prefer honesty. if she doesn't want to have sex to begin with, she should just say no. that's what porn is for.
it really creeps me out to think i might have made the one i'm with do something she didn't want to. makes me feel like i raped her or something.