Friend getting engaged at 18

A friend of mine since elementary school is now engaged at first I was happy for her but, now I only have the the urge to make her see that in reality she is getting married to a guy that's highest position is working at the customer service desk at Best Buy.


Should I try to tell her she could be making the biggest mistake of her life, or should I just leave it alone and continue on with my own life?

You can try talking to her about it, or better, asking her about her plans in the future. She's really young. if she really is happy with this guy, and thig guy really cares for her, then the best thing to is to be happy for her.

i think you should post this on https://www.fakku.net/viewforum.php?f=74

OT: why don't you just ask her about it? if she still persist.. leave it be and wish her for good..

Maybe that belongs in the Love, Romance and Relationships section, but I'm not sure.

Are you asking for advice or if, in general, getting married too young can ruin your life?
In my opinion, as long as she's ready to assume all the consequences, she sould be fine. Then again, can you consider someone this young to be ready to take one of the most important decisions of her life...?

Given that the girl is 18, and the guy is slightly older (18-20), I utterly fail to see the problem here.

If the guy is of comparable age, then likely he hasn't even graduated college yet. The fact that he holds a job at that age is a plus, not a minus. When I was that age I was dicking around in college then fooling around in my spare time, rather than have a job.

If the guy is in his 40's that's another thing entirely. But given that you mentioned the guy's job rather than his age, it likely isn't that great of a difference.

Did she get knocked up? I have a friend who's 20 this year, she's getting married to this guy she's known since 2007, and the guy's basically failed out of every school he's been into. He's now thinking about joining the Navy full time. Thing is, my friend could do wayyyyy better than him, but she's still marrying him for some reason. They got engaged end of September, and they're getting married at the end of October. Seems a bit rush to us, so we suspect that she's got one in the oven.

Mmm...It's a relative thing.

I mean, my right-off-the-bat reaction is "18 is too young", but I'm known for having a stick up the arse, so I check it.

So...let's think about it.

If she's 18, and her groom to be is around that age...give him 'till 22 as a safe zone, then holding a job is a plus.

Unless he's around that age and not currently in school, with no plans to it.

But, on the other hand, unless they are both careful as hell, then the union will most likely bear kids. Would they have a financial base to support a family? I doubt either are ready emotionally for it either, but...

Hmm...

I'd say, talk to her. Ask her questions. Make sure she understands the issue, and if she can answer the questions to satisfaction, wish her well.

He's 30

Ever meet one of the crazy catholic girls that don't have sex before there married because the believe they will burn in the pit. Ever since we were kids to when we graduated high school she would tell me I was sinning and try to bring me to confession.

Yep, sounds like my friend too. She's pretty religious, she even helps out at Sunday Catholic School at my church. Which is why my other friends and I were even more shocked.

my honest opinion, the whole thing is gonna crash and burn

So you are concerned because her fiancée is a loser? Well, if she is a loser as well, everything is fine. If not, then I think you should tell her your concerns.

... i worked in the service desk too? For like a day before i got put in the back and repair dept.... i got laid off a week ago TT__TT i was so happy with the severance package of me stealing everything in the back plus 400$ from the company.

30, eh? Whoops. Yeah you might want to have a talk with her. But if she really loves him and recognizes the faults he has, then there's really nothing you can do except wish her the best.

Your friend sounds less than intelligent.

She also sounds like she's going to get knocked up and most likely abused by her new husband.

And there is probably shit nothing you can do about it.

Jesus. I have a friend who's doing the same thing, she's also dating a friend who works at Best Buy and they're engaged. She's not 18 though, she'll be 21 this December.

She's dating an old 'friend' of mine, which I think he's an asshole.

People are going to do what they want to do, people do the most illogical things when they're infatuated with people, and then afterwords they're always 'oh, you know what - you were right <_<'

How long have they been dating? If they've been together since middle school or something like that, I wouldn't be too worried about it, but if they're anything like the two I'm dealing with, they've been dating for a few months and then boom they're engaged.

Talk about asspulling, eh.

Don't act like it's not true.

no im concerned over the twelve year diffence, i know it can be silly and now that i think about it a bit more it is up to her and if there in love thats all that matters but 12 years is a wee bit much, 5-8 allright but 12?? meh. to eaches own


edit. @ zigz.

i know what you mean but... you coulda used a bit diffrent wording... together sence middle school + twelve years older then her= pedobear


sorry just had to point that out, made me lol

Mod Note: Moved to the Love, Romance and Relationships section.

Sorry for the inconvenience caused.