Help maybe? Please?

So... A few months ago, me and this girl just got out of seperate bad relationships and immediately got together. She had just moved here and found out her boyfriend was messing around all because he "missed her". And basically the same thing happened to me. So the first day we meet, and we are already holding hands as we walk on down the hall.

The next day.... We are the talk of the campus. And a hop skip and a jump later.... We are a week before our first month. Now during this hop, skip, and jump. Both of us have been arguing with our ex's. So this last week gets a bit nasty for us. (Foreshadowing) She starts telling me i need to be the more dominate one in the relatioinship. It was probably true. but that's just not me. She had already taught me to be a bit dominate already. But i took it to heart and got mad at her...

So the whole week went on and i eventually started ignoring her... and she started to become depressed from me doing that. On that friday (The day before our one month) I talked to her after we left campus and she told me she was joking about the whole dominate thing.... I called her after i got home and she said we needed to take a break from dating anyone for a while till we got over our ex's.

I felt horrible for what i did to her. I haven't dated anyone since and have been talking to her constantly but she keeps going for these horrible guys who only hurt her.... I've been trying to gain her trust back these months... But keeps giving me mixed signals that she still likes me, but sometimes doesn't want to talk to me at all....

Any help or questions about the situation? :/

Update: Talked to her ealier. It's all over now. She says she loves the guy from her home state that cheated on her. Saying that he makes her happy, something i just couldn't do.... And then she said she no longer wants to hear from me. I don't understand.... They are states apart and she says he won't hurt her again....

You gotta let her make her choices in life and hope for the best.

I've been told that. :/ But for some reason i won't find myself doing that tomorrow when she texts me... I don't know. Should i give up on her?

Nope.
I'd probably say confront her when she is SINGLE (single being the underlying word, as in make sure she doesn't have a bf at the time... also make sure she isn't overly depressed about the break up.. if she is, comfort her... but i'll get onto that) When she is single, confess to her.. tell her you made a stupid mistake, and you love her etc etc...
If she is depressed/ sad about her break up/ how her relationships are going, comfort her, be that guy who is there for her when she's down.. that sometimes works in your favour.

I've done these things. :/ But whenever i tell her i made a mistake she gets mad..... And when i confess when she is single, she says she has to choose between me and someone else after she toys with me for a bit... It's just confusing.

Id say, you made a huge mistake man. You always have to listen to the girl, but when the request gets too weird like your gut tells you its wrong you decide already. But the fact that your girl told you that you have to be the dominant one is actually a true fact. You dont let the girl boss the shit around guys man, thats not right. When you said thats not you, i seriously felt a huge sense of low self esteem. You have to be dominant in the relationship, otherwise it means youre the girl if you cant even take charge. You made another mistake on ignoring her. Thats being an ass bro. You should understand that women are complex things that get hurt really easy with the emotions, while men are the straight forward ones that can understand things fast. From what i read its more like you are the girl in your relationship. From what I see, gaining her trust back is gonna be hard. Its your fault bro.

Only advice I can give you in your state is, don't make the same mistake again and be then man in the relationship or else you arent gonna get anywhere in your next relationship. Be it with her or with someone else.

Yeah..... I know that..... -.-

If shes with some asshole right now, try meeting her in person and apologize, if you think shes the girl thats worth it

I am actually. We made some plans for next week. And from what i understand she got out of a relationship where she was fooled and the guy was juggling girls... So i'll let you know how that goes.

thats sounds great. Hope everything goes well.

Thanks, Bro-ha

Confront her, apologize (doesn't matter for what, just hope she accepts it), and have a serious heart-to-heart to talk to her about how you feel about her and the situation you two are in. Be honest and direct, but not too forward.

I'm praying for ya, Broseph. It sounds like you two would have fit well together.

If you can get everything back together, be the man. It's not that hard. :)
Hope you have good luck brophessor

She's attracted to dominant guys. You already said that it wasn't you. Seems like you two aren't compatible

As was said in the other thread, Try to be more dominating.. don't go overboard though, just be the man in the relationship, prove to her that you are a man. etc. Prove it, then act on it, if she says you aren't man enough, be more of a man.

Thing is, when she asks you to be a bit more aggressive, she doesn't want you to turn into a wife/girlfriend beater. She just wants you to have a bit more brave and forward. Some girls definitely go for nice guys, but not if their complete wusses. Have confidence in yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself that this will happen. You really like her, and if you want her, you need to man up. If you chicken out, you'll lose her again, this time DEFINITELY for good!

You can do this, Bro! We're behind you all the way!

Exactly!


You can doooo eeeet

Lol. Thank you two. And thank you all for helping me in this situation.

Tell us what happens! XD

We'll have drinks ready if you succeed, and consoling and comforting sessions if you fail!

Better get those out. She said she doesn't want to hear from me any more...