Hey guys, I'm kind of confused this
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So, The shy person that I am, I haven't really done any dating nor do I know much about it. Basically my question is--If someone agrees to go on a date with you, and you go on a few more, when is it considered that your "In a relationship"? Would it be after the first date if you decide to continue seeing eachother?
This is probably a really stupid question, but I really don't even know, Lol.
This is probably a really stupid question, but I really don't even know, Lol.
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
hell, i don't even know that.. and asking the other person is awkward xD i suppose it depends on how you asked them...
what did you ask when you asked them out? 'do you wanna go out with me?' or did you just ask like 'hey, was wondering if you wanted to catch a movie with me' or something..
what did you ask when you asked them out? 'do you wanna go out with me?' or did you just ask like 'hey, was wondering if you wanted to catch a movie with me' or something..
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I'm probably in the same boat as you as no knowing how soon it becomes an actual relationship. However, I can offer some advice.
The whole purpose of dating is to get to know someone, find out what kind of person they are, have conversations with them, and overall find out for YOURSELF if you actually like talking to, and being around that other person.
I would NOT try and figure out if you actually want the person as a "girlfriend/boyfriend" after just ONE date because that is getting ahead of yourself. What if you are suddenly girlfriend/boyfriend and you learn more things about the person that you didn't know before and this changes your whole point of view on the relationship? It's not fun realizing that and having to tell the other person that you need to break up.(Also, don't ever consider yourself stuck with someone just for the sake of a relationship)
Anyway, if you have one date, and you and the other person had a great time, then wait a few more days, contact them, and ask them out on another date. What you do is keep asking to go on dates, or just hang around and watch movies, anime, and even bring them to events or other activities that you do. Any social occasion is a great way to do something together and interact with the other person. First 2-4 dates are probably best as 1 on 1's.
As far as when you finally become girlfriend/boyfriend I am still figuring out for myself as well. It seems though that it could take a month to 3 or even 6 months of regular hangouts/visits/dates, whatever you want to call them. This is all depending of course on how well you get a long with the person. Though if you really want to find out the status of the relationship, just sit down and talk with person and be direct about it. It's not something you beat around the bush.
Lastly, if after a handful of dates you find you really like the person, just come out and say it. I wouldn't throw out any "I love you's," save it for the beginning and duration of a committed relationship, but just a "I like you, think you're a great gal/guy and have fun spending time with you." If you didn't really like the person, then simply don't contact them again. If they contact you, you could be upfront about how you feel or say you're busy. One date should never constitute that anything is set in stone.
Long diatribe of some dating advice that's been working for me in landing continuous dates. Now if only I could find a girl that I actually like, who isn't crazy =P
The whole purpose of dating is to get to know someone, find out what kind of person they are, have conversations with them, and overall find out for YOURSELF if you actually like talking to, and being around that other person.
I would NOT try and figure out if you actually want the person as a "girlfriend/boyfriend" after just ONE date because that is getting ahead of yourself. What if you are suddenly girlfriend/boyfriend and you learn more things about the person that you didn't know before and this changes your whole point of view on the relationship? It's not fun realizing that and having to tell the other person that you need to break up.(Also, don't ever consider yourself stuck with someone just for the sake of a relationship)
Anyway, if you have one date, and you and the other person had a great time, then wait a few more days, contact them, and ask them out on another date. What you do is keep asking to go on dates, or just hang around and watch movies, anime, and even bring them to events or other activities that you do. Any social occasion is a great way to do something together and interact with the other person. First 2-4 dates are probably best as 1 on 1's.
As far as when you finally become girlfriend/boyfriend I am still figuring out for myself as well. It seems though that it could take a month to 3 or even 6 months of regular hangouts/visits/dates, whatever you want to call them. This is all depending of course on how well you get a long with the person. Though if you really want to find out the status of the relationship, just sit down and talk with person and be direct about it. It's not something you beat around the bush.
Lastly, if after a handful of dates you find you really like the person, just come out and say it. I wouldn't throw out any "I love you's," save it for the beginning and duration of a committed relationship, but just a "I like you, think you're a great gal/guy and have fun spending time with you." If you didn't really like the person, then simply don't contact them again. If they contact you, you could be upfront about how you feel or say you're busy. One date should never constitute that anything is set in stone.
Long diatribe of some dating advice that's been working for me in landing continuous dates. Now if only I could find a girl that I actually like, who isn't crazy =P
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
and then on the odd occasion, you can end up going out after 1 'date'... like i did.. was a bit weird.. but shit happens
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After a couple, if she's still agreeing to go on them, and you're talking regularly, you can consider yourself dating. Irregardless, Just bring it up casually if you're scared to directly ask. Something like "it's so cool my girlfriend is into " will work if you say it around her. She'll either be ok with it, or be upset and the subsequent relationship ending fight will happen.
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
unless she is like 'OMFG YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND?' cause she's blonde or something.. i'd just ask.. saves a lot of beating around the bush.. trust me, beating around the bush gets you lost, and you get prickles and shit stuck in your shirt.. not fun man, not fun.
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Haha, I went to prom with a girl I didn't officially ask out and I think we both found it too awkward to actually say it too each other.
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You can go on as many dates as you like, they mean nothing. You are considered her boyfriend once you ask her out or she does and both agree with those terms.
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Katamari wrote...
You can go on as many dates as you like, they mean nothing. You are considered her boyfriend once you ask her out or she does and both agree with those terms.Bingo..........
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Katamri and kotomo said are true..... But, if you are having a hard time asking a girl to go out with, try befriending her friends and best friends and asked them for help.... ^_^ That's what I do, sometimes....
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
You're in a relationship as soon as both of you are pursuing each other in a romantic sense.
A steady relationship, as in when you are boyfriend and girlfriend basically, is when you two decide that you want to try being exclusively with each other (some varieties do exist outside of this.)
A committed relationship is when you two decide you want to try spending the rest of your lives together.
A steady relationship, as in when you are boyfriend and girlfriend basically, is when you two decide that you want to try being exclusively with each other (some varieties do exist outside of this.)
A committed relationship is when you two decide you want to try spending the rest of your lives together.
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ZombieQueen wrote...
I have absolutely no fucking clue since my husband took me on ZERO dates ever. But.... Goodluck!Wait, what? Now I'm curious. I mean I can see this happening, just I always like the idea of mutual social interactions that are 1 on 1. (No need for a life story, just sum it up).
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
ZombieQueen wrote...
I have absolutely no fucking clue since my husband took me on ZERO dates ever. But.... Goodluck!You've never been out to tea at a restaurant at all? or never been shopping of sorts, or gone to see a movie?
if not, that is quite interesting. should try to get him to take you out to a restaurant. unless you're broke :s
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Yeah, even if you're broke, a walk in the park, beach, town, wherever. You walk, talk, spend time together interacting. I am kind of baffled if nothing even that simple has occurred between you two.
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When we were first together, we just sat in his room and played video games, which is all I need to be happy. The closest thing to going out we did was thanksgiving with my family. There really aren't very many good movies in theaters anymore, and if there are it's not worth the money to go. We go to midnight releases for video games sometimes though.. Only time we go shopping is for groceries or games.
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Ok so, if you want to get in an official relationship with the person you're dating, the first step is to
After you finish getting changed, you should be looking extra swag.
Then you go on your date.
If all goes well, ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend.
That's it.
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After you finish getting changed, you should be looking extra swag.
Then you go on your date.
If all goes well, ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend.
That's it.
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ZombieQueen wrote...
When we were first together, we just sat in his room and played video games, which is all I need to be happy. The closest thing to going out we did was thanksgiving with my family. There really aren't very many good movies in theaters anymore, and if there are it's not worth the money to go. We go to midnight releases for video games sometimes though.. Only time we go shopping is for groceries or games.Oh my god where have you been all my life-I mean, what?!
Ahh haa! I see, I see now. I find that pretty damn awesome, actually, and I consider you, and especially your husband, pretty damn lucky. So I congratulate you two for making it work out!
Dating can be a lot of fun but at the same time a horrible experience because if you're like me, you get your hopes up a lot, only to be let down and you're never sure where the dating is going to truly end up. I honestly hate not knowing that stuff. Though I can be quite patient, and patience is something dating does require in large quantities.
