How can I bring the passion and excitement back?

Well... Umm.... This is kind of embarrassing for me to write, but I kind of need help on how to seduce my hubby, and also on how to communicate what I want. You see, when we first started dating, he'd always want me, and would put so much effort into foreplay, but lately, he's been doing a lot less. He touches me for two seconds and then goes straight for the goal. :/ I always try to take my time to please him in every way I can possibly think of. I've tried dressing up and role-playing, messaging him about how much I want him, I've cooked for him wearing nothing but an apron and heels, and even go down on him randomly without expecting anything in return. I also try so hard to exercise everyday and make sure I look my best for him. I am also the only one who puts any effort into initiating sex anymore. I feel like maybe I don't seem as desirable to him anymore. I want to work on this with him because I do love him very much, but I don't really know how to bring it up without possibly offending him (that's definitely NOT my goal), and also any ideas how to bring the passion back and spice things up would be good. Thank you...

Honestly, he won't be offended if you bring it up. Well, maybe at first, as a bit of a shock value...

Ask him for it, just don't try and start your position from a "don't get me wrong..." stance. Just say you'd like something different, a little foreplay, a little romanticism. He's honestly probably not even thought about it since you haven't brought the issue up.

Unless he's a dick, and this is what he is really like. You're kinda stuck in the lurch if that's the case.

He's cheating on you.

Oh wow, such an optimistic and helpful statement.

My tip: Try doing something that would remind him why he fell in love with you for the first time.

Also, try re-living the most memorable moment in your relationship. :)

Just ask him about it lol. I do this with my GF and I honestly don't even notice sometimes. But when she asks me about it, I don't get angry, i respectfully do what she asks and feel like an idiot for missing out on it for so long. I'm sure he'll feel the same if you ask.

This possibility may not be too far off.

However, like everyone else has said, ask him about it. I personally feel there is something wrong with the way he currently feels about you. I have had the EXACT same feeling with two people I was dating. I would be VERY reluctant to do anything intimate and I have now realized those are the warning signs that I actually did not like the person in any romantic way.

For serious, you need to sit down and confront him about it. You many not like what he has to say, but putting it off could be even worse.

Talk to him about it, any person with maturity should be able to work with you on this. You can also focus on your side of life more. Focus on your friends/family/work for some time and see what happens. Sometimes, you just need to let the other person miss you. Other times, your significant other is just preoccupied with something else for the time being.

Should do..

but, if that doesn't work, deny him sex if he doesn't do foreplay.. also, giving him blowjobs all the time could be taking his sexual drive.. as in he doesn't have enough left in him for sex xD but that really depends..

Try anal.

That'll spice things up a bit.

Okay, I'll try bringing it up. As for cheating on me, I don't think that's very likely. Lols. He always comes straight home after work, still tells me he loves me everyday, finds time to talk to me while he's at work, we go to bed every night at the same time together, and he is always very open with me about everything still and doesn't hide anything from me, but it's just the matter of sex... :/ As for blow jobs, I don't give them to him all the time, just randomly on occasion. Annnnd I already let him do anal. Lols

awww awwwwww awwwwwww.. dammit...

But yeah, bring it up, if he's a good guy, he'll be like 'oh shit, i'm so sorry, i completely forgot ><' and then make that night amazing since you have missed it and what not..
but that's just what i'd do.. i doubt he's like me.. cause i'm weird. anywho, i wish you luck with your endeavour

Thank you so much. ^_^ Maybe I'm just being too worried about everything. He usually can be brash and extremely blunt toward other people, but with me, he always is a lot more gentle and his voice gets much softer when talking to me about problems, and sometimes, I forget that. As for being weird, he and I are both pretty odd, and we get told so a lot. xD

think about it for a sec..... if you truly are doing all of those things you said you were doing, and im not doubting that you do....and im not doubting that he cares alot for you, he probably does all the "I love you's" all the kisses and hugs and all that. but if you really are coming with your A game in the bedroom and from the way it sounds you are, then the problem isnt you its him. you do all of this sexy stuff and he still doesnt reciprocate with the same level of intimacy? he getting it from somewhere else ma, you can fool yourself all you want with that "oh he comes straight home" and "all he does is work and come home straight to me" all you want but i grew up around bad relationships i have seen this before, just do yourself a favor and step back and examine....really examine.

Shove your pinky up his ass when/if you give him a blowjob, that'll sure as hell catch him off guard.

Straight up ask him to do it, also when he does it, maybe give the thing he does a "cute" nickname or something, that way when you want him to do it you can say can you do "XXXXXX" for me ;) and then he'll know he's really good at it or something. Best I can think of off the top of my head!

He's totally gay.

Ever watch School Days?

Yeah that.

Thank you for your help, everyone. I managed to work up the courage to tell him how I felt and that I was worried about if everything was okay or not, and everything went very well! ^-^ Everyone here helped give me that little push I needed, and I'm grateful for that. You're all wonderful! ^/////^ lols!

Tell him straight up and ask him about it. Guys are idiots and need things pointed out to them, subtle hints won't do it. (I should know, I'm a guy)