How did you get your partner to..

How did you get your partner to have sex with you?

I mean like, my Gf is one of those none horny- types.

so any advice?

hm well you can't just ask for it straight out.

start out with kissing and ease into it.

Kissing basically sparks that desire to want more. The rest depends on the flow.

well she is unpredictable >.>

If shes not the type to want to have sex, then I dont think you should do it with her until she is comfortable. Then again, thats just me, and I am one to not really care much about it.

I usually let her take the lead, so on those rare occasions where I make a move, things tend to work on their own. hrm.

Don't worry bro, it happens when it happens.

No one wants to be pushed into having sex, so the next time just go as far as you dare and see if she follows, if she doesn't you'll just have to wait for her.

I don't know. With me and my wife we're ready all the time it's just that life task keep us busy from getting "BUSY"! But; I feel it a moment thing my self. I don't see people doing it at a funeral (eventhough some get off on that). It's the time a place that can get the jucies flowing. Sometime sex is like a space shuttle launch a different view from the american pie movie.

Yeah, it's mostly a "in the moment" thing and has to be built up to. Though, you can just ask and see where it goes. It's fun.

Propose the idea when it seems appropriate, and don't expect it to happen that time.
Let her think it over, and most of all, if she's uncomfortable about it, don't press the issue.

By non-horny, do you mean she's too shy to have sex with you, or does she have no interest in sex?

If she's shy...
1) Build up to it with innocent touch, leading to semi-sexual touch. If you're kissing or cuddling, start rubbing her arms. If she's wearing a t-shirt, slip your fingers juuust under the hem of the sleeve and rub there. Push up the sleeve slightly. For some reason, that sort of touch makes me feel an intense desire for the person to play with my boobs. I'm not sure if that's a common reaction, but hey maybe it'll work on your girlfriend.
2) Sit down and talk to her about it. Not when you're horny and want it, but some time when you're completely calm and open. Ask her when she'll be ready for sex, how far she's willing to go, what you could do to make her want it more, etc.
3) Ask if she's afraid of getting pregnant or contracting an STD. If she is, offer to get tested together or take her for an exam to get birth control. Help pay for birth control.

If she's uninterested...
1) She may be asexual. Ask if she's okay with an open relationship. Some asexuals realize that their unwillingness for sex upsets their partners, and understand their need. They may let their boyfriend/girlfriend have fuck buddies on the side, as long as they're the only ones with a romantic connection with you.
2) She may be going through a stressful or upsetting period in her life. Ask if she is happy overall, not just with your relationship but in all aspects of her life. I find that when I'm having the blues, I have no. sex. drive. whatsoever. Try to find a solution to these issues, and she may gain an appetite.

All in all... don't pressure her into it. She may come to resent you for it, or she'll pretend to enjoy sex when really she dreads every minute of it. Some girls don't know how to say no, and will spend months or years faking arousal and orgasm. You don't want that!

Also: spontaneity. Being aroused is different for guys and girls. From what I hear, for guys, arousal is a physical state. It's also a "dominant" emotion that overrides sadness, stress, etc. For girls, however, arousal is much more mental and emotional. Most girls cannot become aroused if they are upset or stressed. Making a big production of sex => pressure => anxiety => non-horniness. Don't do stuff like "we're gonna have sex for the first time on my birthday", etc.

I went through the no-fap challenge for a month for her virginity. But that's just me.

I met my gf online. We talked to each other for about a week or so, before i asked her out. But she's the perverted kind, and when i asked her out, she knew that the date was all about sex :p
And that was how i had sex with her for the first time.

now



Holy shit, that was one hell of a complete answer. I even showed it to my gf, and she said she wouldn't add a thing.

My advice for you buddy, follow Vio's advice.

I love foreplay, and i have lots of patiance. i like to start slowly and subtley. start with an innocent caress on a non sexual part of her body(shoulder, back, etc.). then move on to some cuddling and soft kisses, followed by some bolder, more direct caresses of more stimulating areas. by this time i'm usualy getting to the manual stimulation of her genital area(fingering). from there it's only a matter of time before she either starts asking/begging for it, or just takes control of the situation herself.

edit:
i should have read the earlier posts, Vio was spot on. mine looks juvenile and ameturish after that. ;P
that's what i get for being lazy.

oh shi- but yea, pressure is the stupidest plan if ever. BTW...She knows I fap >.> but she has no reaction to it, she says it's normal for boys to be perverted :D but anyways, i'll try that vio, well it is cause you're a girl.