How do you usually feel after rejecting?

I just rejected someone like 2 days ago. I kinda feel bad for her, but I really don't like that kind of persons. Say, do you feel the same way when you reject someone? or it makes you feel good, or just can't reject out of pity?

Unless if you hate that person to the very core, I can't imagine anyone feeling happy after rejecting a confession. It always leaves a bad aftertaste. >.>

There are people that "Rejections = ego LvL Up!".

I know a few like that...

Well i also felt similar to that when i rejected someone last time, it was kinda like i was asking myself "what if i didnt reject?" but after remembering that i dont love her and that the chances to ever love her were small i felt the same again. what kind of person was she?

For me it would both be a ego booster and leave a bad aftertaste.

The ego boost is obvious: I am special enough for someone to confess to me, which for most people will be a nice feeling.

The bad aftertaste is also quite obvious: it never feels good to have hurt another person (unless of cause you intended to)

It leaves a bad aftertaste, especially if you're already with your partner and the girl still tries to win you over. After that, Ill just avoid.

Kinda hard to describe hehe. She's a defeatist, the kind of person that will always assume things wouldn't go right. For example, we were talking and she was saying how much would mean for her to improve her art, to the point she cried when she realized she wasn't doing the right thing to improve. Then I offered to teach her. While I was just asking her to draw an eye, she was playing ragnarok, chatting, looking for a new wallpaper, etc. And when I asked her to take it more seriously, she got all frustrated. In short, "I want this and that really bad, but I want it to fall from the sky right into my hands. If not, I'll not try because I know I'll fail and I'm afraid of failure".

For me, giving up is something way harder than trying the impossible, so I can't understand that attitude at all. Still, pisses me a lot to reject her, because its like confirming her "yes, no matter what you do, you'll fail". But I'll not fall from the sky into her hands just to make her feel that its not like that, and reinforce the belief that what she needs/wants will fall from the sky into her hands and encourage her to put less effort into things.

And of course, I can't go out with someone who wouldn't fight for her dreams.

No I don't feel bad. Its worse trying to fall in love with someone you dont like in the first place.

There will always be people that dont want to "fight" for their dreams because either they dont have confidence in them or... they just dont want to. Guess what, there are always the posibilty that the person in fact creates a series of gals but never achievements and never acomplish them because that gives them the appereance of being "the lonesome good-for-nothing" person and may lure people that want to give them help, tthen reject them and keep saying the same line to everyone who gets nearby them.... I'ts pitty but it always can become a habit for some people to look "weak", its just that it gives them a secondary achive.

anyways, depends a lot to whom you confessing...I mean, if its because you think the only person is prett/cute whatever, it wont matter if you get reject...but if you build a serious relationship, like with friendship and stuff, it will actually happend, dont expect people to fall in love at first sight, like, what you could call "real love". or, to keep it simple, you can have as many fuck buddies as you want lol.

I can understand that. The problem with her is that she wants it, but don't want to pay the price.



Thanks. And well, if you go wandering without a goal... what a sad life. That's why I think its very important to follow your dreams.



I know the feeling. It's a bittersweet sensation... the feeling of "two people fighting for you"... the sad part is if you do care about them... their pain is just twice for you.

So it's not that she's a defeatist.

It's more she's just lazy and wants an excuse for her actions.

I feel bad for the person I rejected. But I suck it up and just move on since I know it will be what's best for both of us.

My advice would be to never forget why you rejected that person in the first place. Stick to that idea.

I agree with the last sentence... but isnt that kinda hard on her? I mean not everybody has the strength to make what they believe in come true( thou it is kinda extreme with her). Actually even if u accepted it might wouldnt have such a bad outcome, you could teach her various stuff and she would probably realize after some time and try to get better on her own (not to mention that ud have the dominant position in that relationship xD), thou its good that you said no if she isnt you type ^^"

About that kata...

If you don't have the will to pursue your dreams, then forget them or just accept that you cant. She was desperated to attain her "dreams", but DO NOTHING TO DO SO. I mean, not like she even tryed. Then, that's just a stupid caprice.

And about that of "having the dominating position in the relationship", doesn't sound good to me either. My partner must be someone EQUAL to me, someone who I know I can thrust, as well as she can thrust me. I don't want a pet, I hate, and I mean HATE submissive women. I've left a few ones before for that very reason. She have the same rights and opinions as me, I'm not her boss or someone "superior" to be giving orders. Even less, take orders.

Ok lol i also dont like people who dont fight for them selfs but i think your a little harsh like i said its her problem and nothing to be judged about, i just said that she could need a strong hand like you to show her since she alone cant really show her own will or act based on it, if you dont like her nothing to worry about , i wouldve said no also. About the dominant part, it was intended as a joke lol but it is true since shes this weak you would be dominant in this relationship either if you liked it or not, but it would have profit for her clinging on you and learning from you to make her ego a little stronger and her more willful, i wasnt implying that you would like it or anything.

Wanna have a laugh?

She likes to be the one giving orders, and never listen to anybody (I'm not just telling you, SHE herself sad that in that literally way).

LoL.

LOL now im glad you said no.