I like this girl but...
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                        So apparently I kinda have a crush for this girl, my problem is, since I spent 6 years of my life in an all boys school (yep 3 + 3) I'm kind of awkward around girls and don't really know how to talk to them. Sure, I can do some cliche questions like what's your name, where are you from, etc, but to hold a regular casual conversation just seems hard for me. And I do jokes too, but since most of my jokes are well, male oriented, I found out that most girls do not appreciate that (some of them claimed I am sexist, but seriously, that's just how we talked at high school)
Any ideas how I can get to know this girl better? We met like once a week for club activity, and from what I've heard, we should be going to Spain for a week next summer with like 20ish people for an event.
Thanks for the tips :3
                Any ideas how I can get to know this girl better? We met like once a week for club activity, and from what I've heard, we should be going to Spain for a week next summer with like 20ish people for an event.
Thanks for the tips :3
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                        Takerial
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                        You should find things you have in common. Like thinking that her breasts look fantastic and strike up a conversation on this common ground.                    
                
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                        This is why I hate boarding schools and all that. lol
It makes some people awkward around the opposite sex.
Look, just see what you guys have in common and talk about that.
Talking to girls (or guys) is only as hard as you make it.
(Or as hard as they make it lol)
                It makes some people awkward around the opposite sex.
Look, just see what you guys have in common and talk about that.
Talking to girls (or guys) is only as hard as you make it.
(Or as hard as they make it lol)
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                        Takerial
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                        He should just wait for a list of options he can choose to do pops up.                    
                
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                        Hmmm u could try to make her notice you by being nice to her, i mean not like talking and stuff, but by caring for the surroundings and if she needs something ^^ otherwise u could ask some guys to form a group and then go on a group date. I think it would go pretty well since the group wouldnt be too big so ud get to talk to her a lot ^^                    
                
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                        Takerial
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                abesama wrote...
Umm yeah, I don't think I can say things about breasts, they'll just say I'm a sexist again, hahaNo no. You see, girls are somewhat slow at times. They don't always get that you are talking about their breasts.
To insure they do realize, you need to be groping said breasts when you do tell them. This also gives you an excellent opportunity to compliment them on their firmness.
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                        Kalistean wrote...
abesama wrote...
Umm yeah, I don't think I can say things about breasts, they'll just say I'm a sexist again, hahaNo no. You see, girls are somewhat slow at times. They don't always get that you are talking about their breasts.
To insure they do realize, you need to be groping said breasts when you do tell them. This also gives you an excellent opportunity to compliment them on their firmness.
Well, that only happens on the H scenes for visual novels, lol
doesn't work in real life (unless the girl's a slut) but I'm not attracted to a slut
I'm more like the calm, quiet, and cute girl type
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                        OP, 
Girls are just people too.
Idolizing one girl who isn't your 'Significant other' isn't a good thing to do. You'll just spend your time putting yourself down (I can't dance, I wouldn't know what to say, I don't know what we'd have in common, etc) and putting her high up on a pedestal (She's so purdy, She's nice to Children, She can dance/sing/punch like a cannon) and after all of this you would have made a mental gap the size of a crater between you and you haven't even talked to her.
These are steps you should be taking (In no particular order, you can pick what you're comfortable with and start there):
1. Talk to her occasionally -
It doesn't have to even be a full on Conversation you could try asking if she watches a particular show (Try and think of a show that either she probably watches or one that you watch so as not to end up with a two-line conversation*), it's just to help you get used to talking to Women. After a couple of random conversations she should at least remember your name and there, you have developed a familiarity. Hurrah!
2. Talk to other Girls -
This one is kind of important. Talk to random chicks, just ask stupid questions like Directions to the Stationery Aisle in a Convenience store, or whether or not they think the latest "Insert Generic Chick Movie or TV-Series here". In any case, if the girl in your OP turns you down (For whatever reason) you'll still have experience with talking to women. Yippee!
3. Hang out with friends -
Find people who have a lot of friends and become their friend. There's a 50-50 chance that half of them are chicks (Lol, don't quote me on Stats. I hate Numbers, they hate me). Talk to those chicks (Even ones you don't think of romantically, This is just more about getting used to talking to chicks), They probably have chick friends, Talk to them too.
Anyways...
Bottom line, Don't sit there pining away for her. Talk to her. She's a person. If she turns you down, she'll do it nicely. If she doesn't do it nicely then clearly she's a bitch and noone wants a bitch. :S
Source: I was in a very similar situation. I went to a boarding school for a few years (Yay for hitting Puberty in a Boys Boarding School!), Had tons of trouble with girls afterwards until I made friends with a guy who had friends and siblings who were girls and I just ended up talking and realized that they weren't all-that.
Hope I helped, Or at least wasted your time. I love wasting time. :D
                Girls are just people too.
Idolizing one girl who isn't your 'Significant other' isn't a good thing to do. You'll just spend your time putting yourself down (I can't dance, I wouldn't know what to say, I don't know what we'd have in common, etc) and putting her high up on a pedestal (She's so purdy, She's nice to Children, She can dance/sing/punch like a cannon) and after all of this you would have made a mental gap the size of a crater between you and you haven't even talked to her.
These are steps you should be taking (In no particular order, you can pick what you're comfortable with and start there):
1. Talk to her occasionally -
It doesn't have to even be a full on Conversation you could try asking if she watches a particular show (Try and think of a show that either she probably watches or one that you watch so as not to end up with a two-line conversation*), it's just to help you get used to talking to Women. After a couple of random conversations she should at least remember your name and there, you have developed a familiarity. Hurrah!
2. Talk to other Girls -
This one is kind of important. Talk to random chicks, just ask stupid questions like Directions to the Stationery Aisle in a Convenience store, or whether or not they think the latest "Insert Generic Chick Movie or TV-Series here". In any case, if the girl in your OP turns you down (For whatever reason) you'll still have experience with talking to women. Yippee!
3. Hang out with friends -
Find people who have a lot of friends and become their friend. There's a 50-50 chance that half of them are chicks (Lol, don't quote me on Stats. I hate Numbers, they hate me). Talk to those chicks (Even ones you don't think of romantically, This is just more about getting used to talking to chicks), They probably have chick friends, Talk to them too.
Anyways...
Bottom line, Don't sit there pining away for her. Talk to her. She's a person. If she turns you down, she'll do it nicely. If she doesn't do it nicely then clearly she's a bitch and noone wants a bitch. :S
Source: I was in a very similar situation. I went to a boarding school for a few years (Yay for hitting Puberty in a Boys Boarding School!), Had tons of trouble with girls afterwards until I made friends with a guy who had friends and siblings who were girls and I just ended up talking and realized that they weren't all-that.
Hope I helped, Or at least wasted your time. I love wasting time. :D
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                        If you don't have anything to say, you must resort to pick up lines! 
"Hey baby, why don't you sit on my lap and we'll talk about whatever *pops* up."
Nah just kidding - don't do that. Just don't act desperate or try to hard to get her attention. Above post has a good point - girls are people too. I doubt any funny joke you tell your guy friends are going to be less funny to a girl (unless they are all demeaning to girls - but that isn't good humor anyways). Don't put females on a pedestal, just be straight up and make her laugh and ask her out quickly after getting to know her.
TIP: The longer you wait to ask her out, the more time she has to get to know you. The more she gets to know you, the more things she can find to hate about you.
                "Hey baby, why don't you sit on my lap and we'll talk about whatever *pops* up."
Nah just kidding - don't do that. Just don't act desperate or try to hard to get her attention. Above post has a good point - girls are people too. I doubt any funny joke you tell your guy friends are going to be less funny to a girl (unless they are all demeaning to girls - but that isn't good humor anyways). Don't put females on a pedestal, just be straight up and make her laugh and ask her out quickly after getting to know her.
TIP: The longer you wait to ask her out, the more time she has to get to know you. The more she gets to know you, the more things she can find to hate about you.
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                        Also make sure you have a nice pair of shoes, a woman can tell what type a guy is base on the shoes that they wear.                    
                
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                        dvt wrote...
Also make sure you have a nice pair of shoes, a woman can tell what type a guy is base on the shoes that they wear.Are there really girls like that? 0_o
I've never had a girl judge me by my shoes before.
Just, you know, my personality and stuff.
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                        Best way to get a girl is learn how to flirt. Words have a way of making you charming. You can talk about whatever stuff you want but just bear in mind to focus the topic on her. Girls don't like to hear your war stories.
And I think someone mentioned about not putting her on the pedestal and idolizing her etc which is true since you will just lack confidence when you strike up a conversation with her and that is not charming.
                And I think someone mentioned about not putting her on the pedestal and idolizing her etc which is true since you will just lack confidence when you strike up a conversation with her and that is not charming.
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                        animefreak_usa
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                        Just say what up, get to know her, and just say.. want go somewhere.                    
                
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                        I don't know much because I suck with women too but try and get her alone, like in the halls, or waiting for someone, they are so much easier to approach when not with their cluster of friends who will intimidate you and make it awkward.  Also, try opening up with something happening like it's lunch "Oh I see you're eating a bowl of Mapo Doufu, I hear it's the hottest thing on the menu, but how dos it taste?"  Something along the lines of that, and if she's interested she may try and initiate something, and it doesn't have to be big and long (hehe) at first, make her comfortable to your presence, show her your interested and she may do the same, then maybe you two can go eat with some other friends and carry out a conversation or let her see your true side.
Also, when you hit a flag, don't forget to save first!
                Also, when you hit a flag, don't forget to save first!
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                        GhostInTheMachine wrote...
 try and get her alone, like in the halls, they are so much easier to approach when not with their cluster of friends who will intimidate you and make it awkward.     So true.
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                        Takerial
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                twistedknightmare wrote...
GhostInTheMachine wrote...
 try and get her alone, like in the halls, they are so much easier to approach when not with their cluster of friends who will intimidate you and make it awkward.     So true.
You should also wear a dark color and wear something that covers your face and breathe heavily when you do so.
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                        ArZel wrote...
Girls don't like to hear your war stories.This is also true... unfortunately
Since I know a lot of stories (seriously)
way to go for talking to guys all the time
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                        abesama wrote...
This is also true... unfortunately
Since I know a lot of stories (seriously)
way to go for talking to guys all the time
Well, I'm not saying you shouldn't tell her any stories at all. I mean, put it this way. If it's a story that you know for sure will entertain her and at the very least be able to make her laugh, then go for it. She will remember you better that way too.
Although, if it's the first time talking to a girl you don't know then I say save the stories for later when she's more used to seeing you.