i like you, i love you! (but i can't say so)
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i was just wondering what everyone else thinks.
ever have feelings for someone but you never told them?
i'm sure we've all been there, at least once.
i was curious about the different reasoning anyone had for had for it, if it's the same or differs from my own, or stories you may have.
telling that special someone that you feel something a little more than friendly for them is a scary ordeal, one that can make you feel isolated and like you're going to be alone forever. so let's talk about this, people~!
we can call it the shy/insecure/paranoid support group.
for me, i usually keep quiet because...
1.) i don't feel worthy/feel inadequate/think that they deserve someone better.
2.) i think it's not even possible, so why try?
3.) they like/love someone else, or i suspect that they do.
4.) i feel i'm not even in their league, or their type.
a story of mine;
i liked a guy for ... let's just say, a long time. and he liked me, too, because he told me every single day for awhile. that turned to being in love. but, still, i rejected him time and time again. because i felt someone else could make him much happier. i tried everything to make him hate me. the end result of this?
we were together for almost five years.
yeah, it didn't end happily, quite the opposite, actually... but i'm glad i at least told him how i felt. score one for menolly.
(i still have trouble telling people if i like them, though, but that's one point for me! right?)
ever have feelings for someone but you never told them?
i'm sure we've all been there, at least once.
i was curious about the different reasoning anyone had for had for it, if it's the same or differs from my own, or stories you may have.
telling that special someone that you feel something a little more than friendly for them is a scary ordeal, one that can make you feel isolated and like you're going to be alone forever. so let's talk about this, people~!
we can call it the shy/insecure/paranoid support group.
for me, i usually keep quiet because...
1.) i don't feel worthy/feel inadequate/think that they deserve someone better.
2.) i think it's not even possible, so why try?
3.) they like/love someone else, or i suspect that they do.
4.) i feel i'm not even in their league, or their type.
a story of mine;
i liked a guy for ... let's just say, a long time. and he liked me, too, because he told me every single day for awhile. that turned to being in love. but, still, i rejected him time and time again. because i felt someone else could make him much happier. i tried everything to make him hate me. the end result of this?
we were together for almost five years.
yeah, it didn't end happily, quite the opposite, actually... but i'm glad i at least told him how i felt. score one for menolly.
(i still have trouble telling people if i like them, though, but that's one point for me! right?)
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luinthoron
High Priest of Loli
Yeah, I tend to be like that too, for pretty much the same reasons...
A story as well?
There was a very interesting way my only girlfriend ever found out about my feelings for her. I had made a private post on LiveJournal about that, but made it public later, once I felt enough time had passed for it not to be noticed. (I tend to dislike making private or friends only posts.) A day or two after that we're talking on MSN when she says she has to tell me something... Then she disappears for a while and, when she's back, asks about that post. Which I had to admit was the truth. Oh, and what she initially wanted to tell me? Her similar feelings about me.
This was followed by a long distance relationship that lasted a few years, including my epic three-week trip to Puerto Rico to be her prom date. Not a happy ending here either, but we're still friends, even if we don't talk as much as we used to anymore.
A story as well?
There was a very interesting way my only girlfriend ever found out about my feelings for her. I had made a private post on LiveJournal about that, but made it public later, once I felt enough time had passed for it not to be noticed. (I tend to dislike making private or friends only posts.) A day or two after that we're talking on MSN when she says she has to tell me something... Then she disappears for a while and, when she's back, asks about that post. Which I had to admit was the truth. Oh, and what she initially wanted to tell me? Her similar feelings about me.
This was followed by a long distance relationship that lasted a few years, including my epic three-week trip to Puerto Rico to be her prom date. Not a happy ending here either, but we're still friends, even if we don't talk as much as we used to anymore.
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asaforever
The Lord of Butts!
I know that feeling all to well, if youre not being able to tell how you actually feel. Its hurting inside so much and its painful to endure. I also have said thoughts about not being worthy and outclassed, and i always stuck this inside myself and dont tell anyone, since i might bother them or start to be an annoyance. =/
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
Not really. If i like someone i just ask them. There might be some girl in the past that i was afraid to ask out.
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It's happened before. I hesitated to tell a person recently and I finally did, except things didn't end up going well after all.
Only once has it really managed to go my way when I told someone that I loved them. Not exactly a good record.
Only once has it really managed to go my way when I told someone that I loved them. Not exactly a good record.
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sakabato24
World Warrior
Gawd, there were to many occasions where I was too scared to say that I at least liked the person. I'm always the one smiling and looking from afar, talking to them once in a while, but never getting further than that.
I dislike being shy by nature. I hate it that my friends are more open than me and can get more girls than me. I've been in one relationship, while my friends have been in several. Even my younger brother already has been in 4 relationships, and he's still in his Sophomore Year of high School and I'm in my 3 year in College... Gah!
I dislike being shy by nature. I hate it that my friends are more open than me and can get more girls than me. I've been in one relationship, while my friends have been in several. Even my younger brother already has been in 4 relationships, and he's still in his Sophomore Year of high School and I'm in my 3 year in College... Gah!
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swordmanXIII
FAKKU's Breaker
I always told the ones I loved that I did and I got these, a no, a slap in the face, a cry, a run away, a fuck you, and a laugh, and so many more.
but I did not tell this one girl because she was with a guy already and she was pregnant.......so I just fell into a void of loneliness.
I wish I told her sooner that I loved her maybe I could have been with her before she was with that guy.
but I did not tell this one girl because she was with a guy already and she was pregnant.......so I just fell into a void of loneliness.
I wish I told her sooner that I loved her maybe I could have been with her before she was with that guy.
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Believe it or not, I'm the same way--I find it incredibly scary to discuss feelings of love.
It's not that I think someone else is better for them, although sometimes it's because the person does have someone else they like. I suppose part of it is fear of rejection, but mostly I'm just painfully shy until someone brings me out of my shell.
It's not that I think someone else is better for them, although sometimes it's because the person does have someone else they like. I suppose part of it is fear of rejection, but mostly I'm just painfully shy until someone brings me out of my shell.
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Quadratic wrote...
gizgal wrote...
Story of my life.This times 1000.
That times Infinity.
I never tell them I like them. Ever. Shyness and fear I guess.
I've been rejected 3 times already, in 3 different occasions, that I don't even try anymore.
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Gism88 wrote...
Quadratic wrote...
gizgal wrote...
Story of my life.This times 1000.
That times Infinity.
This times... uh, nevermind.
It's happened more times than I'd be willing to admit, I've always been pretty shy and afraid of what could happen.
I've told a couple of people my feelings for them but mostly I was rejected (hence the fear) and only two times has it ended in a relationship, once where I was with that person for about 8 months, and ended pretty badly.
But the second has gone better than I thought it would :) my fiancée and I have been together for nearly two years ;)
So if I can find someone who accepts me for who I am (Fakku! and all) and still be crazy enough to want to marry me, anyone can :P
Not all is lost, hang in there.
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azylsagara wrote...
yeah i think happens to everyone.it's a universal thing we all experience.
that's what i'm saying. =^=
anyway. OT:
i'm painfully shy, believe it or not. :T i stutter and my face gets red, i fidget and cover my face. it's horrible. x///x;
@grimy;
that's beautiful. ;u;
i'm really happy for you! congrats!
video related~!
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I'm always shy about who I like, and hardly give any noticeable hints toward it--I sometimes say "I like you" to some people, but in a friendly fashion. Luckily, I've been told by girls that I've liked that they liked me. Lol, Talk about not fitting the typical gender rolls..
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menolly-hime wrote...
azylsagara wrote...
yeah i think happens to everyone.it's a universal thing we all experience.
that's what i'm saying. =^=
anyway. OT:
OTL i fail at this shite
Spoiler:
but getting back on topic here i never easily grew fond of strangers i barely ever knew.Even though at the time it seemed like what everyone was falling in love with just some stranger with a pretty face.So when i did provoke a strong amount of interest in a potential partner it was very serious to me and i set my sight straight on telling them.but that never happened i was never straight forward when talking to them and minced my words around and talking about unicorns or the flying dutchman instead of what i really wanted to tell them.
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I'm usually to shy to actually say any of my feelings. I just cant muster up the courage to say a whats on my mind, and end up saying somethings totally off or unrelated. Just mixed up word, with no meaning.[size=1]Yay low self esteem![/h] I'm ether too late or there was nothing to begin with.
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ahh, yeah. usually, i really want to tell the person (and i might, but they'll take it as a friends-only way... i don't argue, OTL), but i end up rambling on about something completely unrelated and random.
>///////<
baaahhh... -hides-
>///////<
baaahhh... -hides-
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menolly-hime wrote...
for me, i usually keep quiet because...1.) i don't feel worthy/feel inadequate/think that they deserve someone better.
2.) i think it's not even possible, so why try?
3.) they like/love someone else, or i suspect that they do.
4.) i feel i'm not even in their league, or their type.
Same here.
That or I'm not sure if I like the person and don't want to take a chance with someone I may not really like.
