Imagine this situation...

Perhaps that is true. She does have the right to choose her man.



That's pretty much how i reminded him before he leaves. Oh well, let bygones be bygones. He'll learn from this mistake, i hope so.

I talked to my girl damn near every two to three days via webcam and phone while i was overseas in hadjiland. Of course she broken my heart when i got back.

well I'll be so mad ofcourse. :|.Your friend should better move on. There will always be someone meant for him. someone better. :3

I'd be pissed as anyone else would.
But, as everyone else said, he just has to move on.
I'm sure he loved her and all, but weigh little to no contact, out was bound to happen.
I'm assuming that since he was in the front line he didn't have many chances to get a hold of anyone, but even with that in mind, her leaving was going to happen.
She could of write him a "Dear John..." And told him though, that could of at least gave him time to let his anger simmer down.

There. That's was the first mistake. Communication is a vital part of every relationship. If it were me, I'd take every chance to talk to my girl (if I had one -_-).

However, I'm going to side with your friend here. Yeah, I'd definitely be mad as hell. But I'd also be the better man and leave it behind. Just let it go.

Someday, I ASSURE you, your friend will find someone who is meant to be with him. If that's meant to be, she'll wait for as long as it takes.

Look being faithful to someone has nothing to do with time. I know alot of relationships that survive time like that with lack of communication like that. Honestly she is right it just wasn't meant to be, however, she is still a cheating whore who didn't have the decency or hell the guts to be up front that it wasn't working for her. I mean damn she married someone else that rarely happens overnight. I would tell your friend he is most def a lucky sob cause he might have actually married her before he found out what a unfaithful person she was.

yeah i hear you. If she's unfaithful even before she got married to my friend,who knows what will happen if they got married.And my friend could end up more miserable than he already is.

True that communication is a vital part of a relationship but after several days maybe weeks of hard slog the last thing on your mind is calling home.
Hell even the guys who call home regularly end up having their hearts broken because not many women can hang around for a few years not to mention 5 waiting for her man to come home.

Still OP your mate has my sympathy that his then fiancee married behind his back without even telling him. He should take this as a blessing in disguise that he didn't end up marrying that girl who knows what she would do behind his back.
Anyway now free of her and the commitment of marriage you both should have a good time. Go to Vegas, celebrate the fact he got home in one piece and blow your money on crack and hookers.

And if possible, avoid anything military for a while, if not forever. They seem to be a real relationship killer! ;)

Stab her in the fucking face say she was a terrorist or some shit like that

I'd probaly be destroyed, some of the hardest men thourgh out history have been broken by women, and yet men are always seen as the bad guys, im not sayin that we're all innocent, its just that we get a bad press which in my opinon, we dont deserve.
But if my wife to be did that to me, i would cut of all contact with her, and her husband should count himself lucky that i didnt beat the shit out of him

Imagine being with out your loved one for years, love doesn´t last forever like that. But I would also feel like killing the bastard and that bitch.

I could understand the wife being a nervous wreck all the time so she would need some comforting but it should lead to some therapy not cheating on her husband. Having a spouse who is at war is hard, constantly missing and thinking about them. The soldier is constantly missing her but also fighting to stay alive. It's very stressful and hectic for both which is why they would of needed to communicate as often as possible. Also, the wife should of really seen a therapist instead of cheating.

At least now your friend can find a real wife-material woman.

Maybe she was cheating with her therapist? I don't know, I've already said that the guy should move on and such so I won't go repeating it all but I hope your friend finds someone soon.

I'd wish her the best and re-enlist.

I would be mad. Won't hit the guy or the gal, but most likely I'll be like "fuck you guys!" then move on. Seriously, that's a bad burn there and she's a bitch for leading him on. If she didn't want to be with him, then why she didn't say so earlier?

I wouldnt really know what to say. Cause in the end, if i was serving my country, i wouldnt be surprised if that happened. Cause the girl would feel lonely. But in other terms, id be awfully upset and depressed with a huge sense of rage. But hell, what can I do. I did my best to serve my country, but not my best to serve the girl.

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