Is anyone as negative as I am?

I don't know whether you'd say this in the right section, but hey it's related to the subject.

Basically I have an extremely negative view on 'love' and relationships, it can annoy me and infuriate quite a lot. My personal belief is that 'love' is not anything mysterious or special, but it's only simply our primitive way of making sure we carry on our genes, continue our species, it's just some hormones that develop the so called feeling so chances are we will mate with said person.

One of my friends goes to bed the same time as his girlfriend (they don't live together.) and I can't help but think he's a complete retard, all this so called 'love' does is appear to make people act like complete idiot's.

Couples make me cringe and laugh, I mainly laugh at their novel length facebook updates to eachother but I can't help but hate these people, they appear to be so stupid to me. And I can't even see whats so good about a commitment, I'd personally hate to be committed to one person for life, where's the fun in that?

So simply am I the only one who thinks this whole relationship thing is completely pointless and stupid? Or am I just a very negative person?

You're not alone, there are people that don't buy into the whole "magic" of emotions. They feel that it's just a mere mix of hormones or something in the body that reacts to certain stimulus by the brain. But you shouldn't think about this stuff, it's unhealthy and humans are suppose to be sociable creatures. If you keep these thoughts in your head for too long, your friends will start to avoid you.

Well, CLEARLY you're an unintelligent fellow.

Lol, I kid, I kid.

But I see your point. Love definitely makes people do things they normally wouldn't do, and it's true that it may be viewed as idiotic in an outside-point of view, but I have a question for you.

Have you ever experienced love yet? I, for one, tend to not judge things until I personally have experienced it myself. However, if your personality, or stance on the subject prevents you from experiencing love, I can't fully agree with the statement at hand.

I have been asked this before whether I've experienced it before, I'd personally say no and based on the relationships around me I really don't want to experience it! :P

Perhaps the fact I'm surrounded by people with poor relationships is why I have such a negative view. (Oh and I'll say this now if any of you are in a relationship right now I'm not saying your idiots, I just have my frustrations with it :P)

Ah yes! We've found the source! Well, not exactly, but it's nice to see where this is going. Negative environments tend to have that kind of effect on people.

While it is true that I've never experienced love myself, I, too, have been in an environment of a constant despair of relationships that didn't fly so high, including my parents. Watching people get together and then break up tends to make you wonder why they got involved with each other in the first place.

One reason someone told me once made sense, which was experience. If you can experience enough relationships, you can learn from your mistakes, right the wrongs, and make sure that everything works out nicely. Sure, it's never perfect, but perfection doesn't exist. But then you're probably wondering to yourself is it really worth it? Well, I'd like to start by asking you what do you value in a social activity and in the people that you're close with/talk to often? And after you answer that, ask yourself if you're able to live life without it. There's no right or wrong answer, I'm just curious as to where your values lie.

I'm quite the idiot but I'm assuming your asking what I get out of being around friends. Which is mainly enjoying ones self, having a laugh.

However I'd still rather not be with anyone, perhaps I have commitment issue's but the idea of staying with one person for life kind of agitates me. It's odd that I'd love to have a kid but hate the idea of being with the mother.

Wait, so then you believe in love of a child, but you don't believe in love with the partner? So then wouldn't the focus here be that you don't hate the idea of love, but the person that you're giving the love to? Or have I made a mistake with this assumption?

I haven't honestly thought about the love for a child, I just meant I'd like to have my own, but the fact I really don't want to be with anyone makes it contradictory :P

Hmm, alright. So you don't mind dealing with the responsibility of having a child to play with and laugh with (Taken from the idea that you like to enjoy yourself and laugh).

Curious, and tell me if I'm wrong, but does this mean you don't have a problem with personal space, so long as it isn't a person of the same age as you? or would you say age is not the factor? Maybe it's just the opposite sex?

Well, before I made my previous post, I had a different question in mind to ask you, which was, if you found someone that could (hypothetically speaking) consistently make you laugh and enjoy yourself, would that make it possible for you to (not love, we're not there quite yet) be with this person for an extended period of time?

Sorry if this is a lot of questions, but if I get to know these questions, I feel I could possibly (but of course, never 100% because that would be offensive) understand your ideals better.

I think they'd have to be as negative as me for me to have interest in staying around them long time, overly positive people annoy me and I don't like the over the top dramatic couples either. Plus even with the friends I enjoy most hanging out with I find myself not wanting to be around them at all times.

And as for the personal space thing I have no idea, I'm not entirely sure why I want a child, maybe it's just the natural instinct.

Well I must be off for now, but it was definitely nice getting to know you. Maybe some other time we could talk more about this, if you're still interested.

BTW: If that felt one-sided, my name is Jun, and although I fully believe in the idea of love, I'm absolutely open-minded about other people's views about what they think of love.

Most people tell me that I am extremely negative or pessimistic, and in a relative sense this is probably true, but I don't see it that way. For me, all things have to be functional, I approach everything in life with logic. But there are few things in this world that do make sense, everything is colored with superstition and ignorance, so many practices and ideologies, and at the end of it all, so many people who don't know why.

I believe it is supremely important to know what you believe, and beyond that, why. People love because they feel like they should, people eat because they feel that they need to. They goto school, and study, and goto work, or else do nothing at all, and they don't know why. They do it for their future maybe, and then after that? Maybe they do it for god. I know at the root of all of this I must be a hypocrite, for after all I don't think that I really know why either.

But there is a lesson in all of this, unless you know why you do what you do, and I mean really know why, how can you fault someone else for doing what they do? You say you can't help but hate people who find themselves in loving relationships, and in context, I can sympathize. Love is an addiction. But I feel that there must be something deeper there if you truly feel any hate or even just resentment. We are all hypocrites in someway, to be a hypocrite is to be human. The true transgression is to remain blind to that hypocrisy.

So I agree that 'love' can be comical, but I also understand why it exists, and why people do what they do. But I do not think that these things bother you because you are a negative person, because I can see the senselessness in them, and they don't bother me. I think that there must be an element of envy in your resentment, or else something else - and I think that you should know what it is. My first instinct after reading your post was that you feel embarrassed to read these 'facebook updates' or whatever else, but you would be able to answer why better than me, I am sure.

As for me, in spite of all of my negativity, or realism if you will, I don't let it prevent me from living, and neither should you. My decisions and demeanor are of course tempered with it, but to be human is to be a hypocrite, whether you know it or not.

As long as you haven't experienced that funny feeling you get that makes you do things unnatural for you when you look at the opposite sex, you'll always be negative about it.

So, no love for homosexuals eh.

hate to say it this brutally, but you really do sound like an angsty kid who's trying to make themselves feel better over not getting any.

Well I rarely feel bothered by that fact, but perhaps your right.

I feel like I hate the fact some couples are too over-dramatic about their relationship, too over the top and become drama queen's.



I've had that feeling before, but wouldn't call it love. I just liked the girl a lot, but after things broken down with her I realized all the feelings do is cloud your judgement and trick you. You realize they aren't the most amazing person in the world or anything like that and you realize you can go on life without them. I hated the fact I was once so over dramatic about it so it bugs me everyone else is as well. (So yeah perhaps I'm a hypocrite but hey, who isn't?)

Well...everyone hates those over dramatic dumb shit...

Uhh...what do you expect? She's a wonder woman?
And yeah...of course you can...lots of other girl exists...

I'm not complaining that the girl I liked wasn't perfect, I just mean when you like someone you see them as perfect and ideal, but after the feelings are gone you see they weren't all that special.

I suppose no one is but yeah :P

Love so fucks people in the head that the law even takes it into account. it's called "crimes of passion". you can acctualy murder your loved one(s) and get less penalty than murdering some random jerk because "love" bent your brain.

No Love indeed