Is It Pathetic For A Man To Be Friends With A Woman?
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gamerdude800 wrote...
okay all i have to say is that unless you're in preschool GIRLS DON'T HAVE CUDDIES!(we all know everyone here was thinking it)
Lol ur dumb...but funny =D
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Well... I guess you can go a stale mate anyway. Personally I go with being friends. Girls respect you more if you have confessed and they turn you down, If you keep acting like you did before you asked them out. Girls see that as a form of respect. I mean what if your friend you knew asked you out and you said no. then they still stayed near your side. Wouldn't you think of them more highly. So I think you should go with being friends.
I mean its all good and stuff to have a lover. But its also good to have relations of the opposite sex for no romantic feelings. Truly, your friends help create you and teach you diversity. If all the guy’s and all the girl’s just hung out with the same gender. Life would be boring. Would it not? So why not stay friend with them. Friend generally last longer than lovers. And at least if you do break up with someone they are there to back you up. Having someone from the same gender as your lover is good to get advice from as well.
That is my contibution.
I mean its all good and stuff to have a lover. But its also good to have relations of the opposite sex for no romantic feelings. Truly, your friends help create you and teach you diversity. If all the guy’s and all the girl’s just hung out with the same gender. Life would be boring. Would it not? So why not stay friend with them. Friend generally last longer than lovers. And at least if you do break up with someone they are there to back you up. Having someone from the same gender as your lover is good to get advice from as well.
That is my contibution.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
No, it's not pathetic. If a guy says being just friends with women is pathetic, then he shouldn't be allowed to have ANY friends, whatsoever.
This girl seriously has all the right answers.
HappyDia01 wrote...
It is good for a man to have lots of strictly platonic female friends, if only because having friends of many genders, ethnicities, cultures, interests, etc, etc will make you a more well-rounded and desirable person. This girl seriously has all the right answers.
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echoeagle3
Oppai Overlord
There is nothing wrong with it at all. I think that being friends with a girl even if you can't date her does set the ground for possible future dating. And even if you never date whats wrong with having friends no matter the gender
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Its not pathetic for a man to be friends with a women. On the contrary. It is pathetic for a man not to have any women friends. That is a fact.
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
Trying to be friends with a girl because you can't be her boyfriend at that time in hopes of her thinking of you as boyfriend material is indeed pathetic.
Just being friends with a girl isn't pathetic. It's the bitch reason for being friends with her that makes it pathetic.
Just being friends with a girl isn't pathetic. It's the bitch reason for being friends with her that makes it pathetic.
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with being friends with a girl.
However, and that's a big "however," don't stay friends with her just because you see the possibility of her seeing you as a boyfriend later. I've gone down that road before and trust me when I say that all that will do is hurt you in the future.
Stay friends with her because she's genuinely enjoyable to hang out with and whatnot, but if that's not the reason you want to stay friends with her, re-evaluate whether you actually want to be friends.
However, and that's a big "however," don't stay friends with her just because you see the possibility of her seeing you as a boyfriend later. I've gone down that road before and trust me when I say that all that will do is hurt you in the future.
Stay friends with her because she's genuinely enjoyable to hang out with and whatnot, but if that's not the reason you want to stay friends with her, re-evaluate whether you actually want to be friends.
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Twillusion wrote...
Every girl you meet has an investment value-my class jock.
Kinda gross...
I'd say every person, gender/sex regardless, has investment value, rather.
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gizgal wrote...
Twillusion wrote...
Every girl you meet has an investment value-my class jock.
Kinda gross...
I'd say every person, gender/sex regardless, has investment value, rather.
True true :)
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KageMinowara wrote...
The other day I asked a girl out and she said no because she had a boyfriend. This came up in conversation with my mum and she suggestted that I be friends with this girl both because I could use friends and because if I just ask this girl out and don't talk to her again this will sour the opinions of the girl's female friends who will then be less likely to say yes if I ask them out. Plus if I were freinds with this girl she might introduce me to her single friends.However I am resistance to this idea because from what I understand it is pathetic for a man to just be friends with a girl, particularly one who has rejected a romantic advance. I believe this is referred to as "being stuck in the friend zone". The man is pathetic because he has been rejected by the woman as a potential romantic pardner but he is so desperate for even the slightest bit of female attention he will settle for being friends with the girl.
The man is not good enough to be a romantic pardner he is only good enough to be a friend. He is so lowly that the girl no more sees him as an object of romantic or sexual desire than she would another girl. Thus he is effectivly emasculated.
I got this idea from what I saw on television, pop-culture, the internet, and conversations on forums. I've never really discussed it with anyone before though so I have some questions.
Is this a widely held belief? Like does anyone here believe this or have I mistaken entertainment and comedy for what real people actually think? (my mum has never heard of this idea and thinks its crazy)
Is the notion that a man is pathetic if he is friends with a woman particularly if she has rejected a romantic advance a correct one, or have I just stuck myself in a box?
ok i'm a girl and i have a lot of guy friends and they know they have no chance with me at all right now but we're still friends. i think your mom is kinda telling you to use this girl no offense. but guys and girls should be able to be friends without prior motives.
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Wow, you think you have it bad? All of my friends are girls. ALL OF THEM. I seriously have no idea how that keeps happening to me. When I'm become friends with them, I'm never looking for a relationship. I usually hang around with them because I find them interesting and viceversa. However, when I really like someone, most of the time they already have boyfriends or like someone else, so I never bother. It's not pathetic, but it does manage to break your spirit from time to time.
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In general, there's nothing wrong with a guy being friends with a girl. That's just f'd up stereotypes in media making you think there's a problem with it. Guys and girls make awesome friends, and I've had both great and terrible friends from either gender.
In your situation, it might be kind of weird and clingy, because you did ask her out first. Then to try and stick around her and be friends just so you can get at her other friends...well if I was that girl, I wouldn't want you around.
If you guys were friends first though and then you asked her out, then it would be fine to go back to being friends.
In your situation, it might be kind of weird and clingy, because you did ask her out first. Then to try and stick around her and be friends just so you can get at her other friends...well if I was that girl, I wouldn't want you around.
If you guys were friends first though and then you asked her out, then it would be fine to go back to being friends.
