Long-Distance Relationships
Should We Start Dating?
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So yeah. I've never had long-distance relationships, and I can't tell if I really want to be in one or not...
So I met this girl who lives about 2.5~3 hours away from me on public transit. She's not one of the girls with big "bazongas", but she's more like a cute and cuddly type. (My favorite :D)
She likes me and I like her, but since I'm a grad student, I am quite busy... loaded with schoolwork... I'm guessing we will be able to see each other 0 to 2 times a week.
Because of the distance between our homes and my education, I hesitate to think carefully if I should date her.
There's part of me saying that it will only do her harm if I start dating her... I am really confused right now and I need an opinion from different people's point of view.
What should I do?
So I met this girl who lives about 2.5~3 hours away from me on public transit. She's not one of the girls with big "bazongas", but she's more like a cute and cuddly type. (My favorite :D)
She likes me and I like her, but since I'm a grad student, I am quite busy... loaded with schoolwork... I'm guessing we will be able to see each other 0 to 2 times a week.
Because of the distance between our homes and my education, I hesitate to think carefully if I should date her.
There's part of me saying that it will only do her harm if I start dating her... I am really confused right now and I need an opinion from different people's point of view.
What should I do?
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Long distance relationships are always a tough call since it really boils down to the amount of time you will be seeing each other (and if it satisfies both your needs/wants) versus the trust issue. I think most LDRs end due to a trust issue. If you both feel confident in your ability to trust one another, I don't see the harm in giving it a go.
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Ofc it's possible, but also very very hard.
I had a long distance relationship once, my girlfriend of about 5-6months moved to the other side of the country (About 8h away) to study. It didn't work out.
I say date her, it works out if it does, you really got nothing to loose(Do you?). Either you try to see if it works and loose it or you'll never have had it.
I had a long distance relationship once, my girlfriend of about 5-6months moved to the other side of the country (About 8h away) to study. It didn't work out.
I say date her, it works out if it does, you really got nothing to loose(Do you?). Either you try to see if it works and loose it or you'll never have had it.
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2 or 3 hours isn't that far, especially if you guys meet in the middle. I don't think you'll be doing anything bad or harmful by trying to see if you can make it work. It isn't a day's journey, so just make sure on your days off you get up early and head over to be there before lunch.
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If you can love her for a long period of time without ever really seeing her or being with her, go for it.
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Its a gamble. From what I've seen of long distance relationships as long as you guys get to see each other and the level of trust is there then it will work out. My friend sees his girl only on special occasions (birthday, vacation, holidays) and once every few months when he goes to her house (which takes over 2 hours). They've been together for roughly 6 years (the first two she lived close to him or us should I say since we are all childhood friends).
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Long distance relationships sometimes work and most of the time doesn't. Since she's only 2-3 hours away from you, then I'd say its not so bad. You can try it out and it might work out.
I have friends who are in a long distance relationship where their partner is like halfway across the globe. The only reason this works is because they were able to spend alot of time with each other in the beginning and see each other every summer and winter (well skyping everyday ofc).
I would say that if you really like her then go for it. There is always a way to compromise for the long distance between both of you. You should also consider yourself here. If you think that you don't have time for her at all since she lives so far then just stop. But if you feel that your willing travel quite a distance every so often to see her then I think a long distance relationship is worth a shot.
I have friends who are in a long distance relationship where their partner is like halfway across the globe. The only reason this works is because they were able to spend alot of time with each other in the beginning and see each other every summer and winter (well skyping everyday ofc).
I would say that if you really like her then go for it. There is always a way to compromise for the long distance between both of you. You should also consider yourself here. If you think that you don't have time for her at all since she lives so far then just stop. But if you feel that your willing travel quite a distance every so often to see her then I think a long distance relationship is worth a shot.
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neko-chan wrote...
2 or 3 hours isn't that far, especially if you guys meet in the middle. I don't think you'll be doing anything bad or harmful by trying to see if you can make it work. It isn't a day's journey, so just make sure on your days off you get up early and head over to be there before lunch.Meet in the middle. Excellent!
OT: Sometimes they work, at times not. Depends on the effort the couple put in the relationship.
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Two to three hours isn't 4 countries wide. As long as two think you can trust each other, and think it'll work out, than go for it. You're best bet is talking to her about it, and she what she thinks. If she thinks it's a good idea, go for it. Like I said, a couple hours isn't that far, so it wouldn't be so bad.
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Nice and easy is the way to go. Just have a gentle slow relationship, with letters if you're a hopeless romantic. There's potential for something really good in the future so give it a shot. Who knows where it'll lead? Don't close any doors prematurely.
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I'm in a long distance relationship with someone 4 hours away, in another country. It's about $60 for me to visit her. I knew about the distance, as well as other issues, when I got into the relationship, but I didn't let that stop me. We only see each other once every couple months, and she's usually too embarrassed to send me pictures in between ^^; However, we've gotten around it by excessive use of Skype at almost all hours of the day though, and things have just been getting better. We both get really lonely sometimes, but know what we will get in a couple years (14 months now?). I think if both sides are willing to work with the distance, there's nothing to worry about.
Also, she's somewhere on this forum, maybe she'll be able to give her feelings on it too.
Also, she's somewhere on this forum, maybe she'll be able to give her feelings on it too.
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Jmac
"I'm a boob man"
It doesn't seem like ya'll live on opposite sides of the country. If you do your best I'm sure things can work out.
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i know this couple who had a really tough long distance relationship and still made it work. He was in the USA and she was in Eastern Europe. They would chat and talk on the phone and send pictures and e-mails. The girl used to fly to the US every summer and winter(around the holidays). They totally kicked-ass with that relationship, now they live together.
But yeah, everyone experiences it differently. I think 2-3 hours is not that bad if you really like the girl. Talk things out with her and figure out a solution. Good Luck ;3
But yeah, everyone experiences it differently. I think 2-3 hours is not that bad if you really like the girl. Talk things out with her and figure out a solution. Good Luck ;3
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Yes, go for it. You'll never know if you never try. Time and space matter little in matters of the heart. Hopefully, you two will be able to develop the emotional fidelity and cherish everything that LDR brings with it. Good luck!
Side note: Been in an LDR for over 2 years. It is a 14 hours flight for us to see each other. Singapore - Netherland LDR.
Side note: Been in an LDR for over 2 years. It is a 14 hours flight for us to see each other. Singapore - Netherland LDR.
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Thats up too you, in my opinion its not worth being in a relationship if your worlds apart, but if shes close enough to you that you don't need a plane to go to her then by all means go for it.
