Look for a relationship, or friends first?

I'm a nice guy.

haha. aw. thanks for the hug, Kali. Reputation aside, was nice.

I'm a nice guy at heart!

Hold doors open. Wave at people I pass.

I hate to admit it, but I usually go for relationships first. I have a bad tendency to jump into a relationship with the first girl that shows me any affection. I got out of relationship recently- it didn't end on very good note- and I've decided to stop looking for relationships first. I think making friends first might open a lot more doors.

Starting out as friends first is fine. After a while, if things are going smoothly, let it progress a little to the point of "more than just friends". As it stands right now though, I could certainly use a friend.

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Friendship first.
Always friendship.

Problem with trying to do a friendship first is you run a high risk of falling into the dreaded friend zone. I can think of no worst place to be than in love with a girl who only sees you as a friend. Once you are there, it's nearly impossible to get out.

If I ever want to have a relationship with someone, I always want to be their friends first before progressing. This way, I know who they are, and once I want to progress the relationship to BF/GF I'll already know their likes, dislikes, etc.

I always start as friends at first.... But... I'm always the one that is always stuck either as the "big brother" or just as a good guy friend to all the girls that I hang out with. :P ...

*sigh*

It sure seems nice for the people who are in love huh?...

*sigh*

Yeah. Same issue here. I feel due to a lot of my interests, I just blend in as "one of the guys" even though I'm the only vagina in the room... which is frustrating. -3-' lol

1st question is definitely friends. Companions are needed constantly through our lives. It doesn't mean they have to be your life companion, that will come eventually. 2nd question is complicated, it matters on the person. I would definitely try to remain friends after getting rejected but how easy that would be probably relies on how much I talk/see that person daily.

Well so far I have a handful of good friends now and zero relationship prospects.

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Definitely friends first before a relationship. I've dated longer than I kept ties with friends. In high school I had a good group of friends but after I started dating I neglected them and spent more time chasing tail. After that one relationship was over and went back to them, they were like hey where have you been? Even after you are dating there's still that void you could only fill with the presence of people you enjoy hanging out with. I've only maintained one friendship and we are miles away from each other, there's facebook but it's not the same. Don't make the same mistake as I did.

i was going to say, focus on friends first, then if any of your friends seem like good bf material, have a crack.

^ This.

"Snookin' for love" probably isn't the best way to go about finding someone to fill the intimacy void. And it's always good to have a nice base of people you can just "hang out" with. Your options are pretty much:

- Meet people and if one comes across that's potential boyfriend materials, go for it.

- Go to bars and whore it up.

- Join an online dating site like eHarmony or ....there's one called geeklovers or something... x-x

I understand completely the want of having someone hold you or w/e other romancy thingies you want, but still...it's always best to not be something rushed.

My ultimate advice?

Get a gay boyfriend. Snuggle-factor, solved.

lol Garfunkle and Oates..

So far what I was going to say everyone else had already said. Though I do feel that you might be rushing.

Be chill and just hang out with people. Sure it might take awhile but its a whole lot better than trying something with people you barely met.

For a good relationship, you gotta be able to talk to said person like you would a friend. Best way to do that is to be friends first.

Id look for friends first TBH because id be afraid of becoming one of those guys that just gets locked down in a relationship that'll probably go bad quickly then im left high and dry with no mates for backup... LaLaLa recluse/dropout/shut in/death! (That would be just typical)

GET SOME... Good buddys first! :D

i would look for friends first because, it sometimes take time to create a relationship that will last longer than a relationship that only exists for a couple of days. Plus u would know more about the friend in which can boost you up for a nice simple relationship.
Who knows suprises and miracles happens

Friends first, know someone first before loving him. this would lead to less mistakes and regrets in the end.

The way i did it i slowly became friends with my gf and then we started to get real close where it was okay to hug each other goodbye. My friend noticed that i liked her and said "Act now and tell her how you feel before you just another friend". These words got to me and now I'm still with her and not regretting my choice. That was about 3 years ago.