Meeting girls

So i recently got through some stressful romantic situations where in the end the girl i love is dateing my best friend. So i want to move on meet another girl. But my problem is im teribale at talking to pepole until iv grown comfortable with them. So what should i do.

Are you by any chance in school? School is a great place to meet girls(Even if there all horrendously petty bitches).

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Now for real life.

Get a club. The first attractive single female you see, club on the head and drag back. That's right, you're going old school today.


Now in all seriousness. You're just going to have to learn how to talk to people.

Clubs and stuff are a good way at doing so. If you're in school, look up different types of clubs you would be interested in doing so.

If you don't have a job, try finding one that will make you interact with people but not too directly. Something like a cashier and such.

Not only will this be helpful to looking for a girl, but it will also help you gather social skills you'll need later in life for when you get a more serious job.

No im not in school 18 and thats another problem most woman are horrendously petty bitches.

If not in school, try getting a job where you have to deal with random people. something like a server, or customer service. it will help you to get over shyness by forcing you to talk to people. it helped me some what.

Gettting a job has been a issue for me because theres no work where i live.

The Best advice i can give is go places where alot of girls gather then you have alot of options, then try asking a friend or associate who is actually good at talking to females and others for advice on how to be more aproachable.

just where do you live? no jobs, no woman...

Book stores and library's can be a good place to pick up chicks. Theirs no lack of pick up lines. If you see a chick your interested in just ask her what she reading. Book stores and library's can also help you to determine the girls taste. Books can tell you a lot about people. Or mayhaps this is my meganekko fetish talking.



If you don't have a job you can't treat her or buy her gifts.

Not to say that your intentions are not honorable, but it sounds like you're looking for a rebound girl. Don't. Trust me. It's not worth it. My advice for meeting girls actually follows along that vein. Just don't. Or to be more specific, don't make that your focus.

Instead work on improving yourself, and not in a superficial, I need to change this and this in order to be more attractive to the opposite sex kind of way. I mean evaluate and establish personal meaning and fulfillment into your life. Through this you will develop confidence and chicks dig confident fuckers (literally and figuratively). It also helps you establish healthy relationships with more interesting people when you yourself are a more interesting, healthy person (not to say that you aren't already, I don't know you, but you're young. There's always room for improvement). Truth be told meeting people is easy, while meeting worthwhile people is not.

I've always been of the mind that if you're actively looking for love/attention in the outside world you won't find it. You have to establish it within yourself in order to find it. And really, isn't that a better way to move on?

Why dont you get a wing-man, your wing-man can help you.

All right man you have to stop being negative in order to move forward, that is your first hurdle right there. I agree with the idea that you need to get a job, relationships are very expensive. If you can not find work where you live then go where the work is. I know what you are thinking "I can not just get up and go somewhere else to work", or some other random negative reason which is stopping you.

My point is stop drawing negative reasons for why you can not do something and start FINDING the positive actions to take towards your goal. Do whatever you have to do.

As for wanting to meet girls, the fact is they are not going to come by your door. You need to go out and hunt! Develop better communication skills, work out if your not satisfied with your body, go to public places, etc. Just overcome every single one of your negative obstacles. Nothing is free, work for your goals whether its a job in the future or a pretty lady you encounter.

You made a post on here clearly because you seek advice, but do not just give us the reasons why you can not do something after we make suggestions. Instead seek more advice of how to deal with your issues, there is plenty of information everywhere that can help you it is just up to you to find it.

And remember..."In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women."
-Tony Montana



Metaphorically speaking, that is exactly what I mean! lol

i like a wing man(or woman) who is in a relationship. since they aren't also looking for someone, they tend to be more relaxed about it, and they aren't any competition.

i also find that female friends are quite helpful over all. most of my relationships came about due to a female friend hooking me up with someone she knew. and sometimes just starting as friends with no pressure or expectations can grow into something more.

heh, my cousin has my gay uncle as a wingman once.

Bad move. My uncle cockblocked my cousin from some hawt married ass.

Hook ups work sometimes too. An introduction goes a long way. Then you work your game from there.

If you're looking for a serious relationship a club or a bar is not the place to go. The best way to meet someone who wants to be in a relationship is through other people, friends, colleagues, peers, etc.

I'm in despair!! for being focused in his question I totally ignored the moral part of the problem that you just stated and that made me despair!!!

Just be yourself and you can handle it somehow.

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