Mental health and romantic relationships

DangerouslyDia · 2012-11-21T09:39:24-01:00

This is meant to be a discussion of sorts, since it has been mentioned briefly in other topics about dating/relationships mostly in regards to those pursuing or interested romantically in someone with known depressive tendencies. It seems that there is a division between people who feel that it is best to steer clear of those with a history of poor mental health, and others who think it is best to judge on a case by case basis. I'm more in the later position - it is hard to determine for a whole group of people what they can or can not handle in a relationship, and there are so many individuals who suffer from depression, anxiety, and/or have personality disorders that it is hard accept that they are not relationship material simply due to that diagnosis. However, I was curious what the community here on Fakku thought of the topic. Would you date someone with mild depression? Severe depression? Anxiety only in direct situations, or frequent anxiety? Someone with a personality disorder or extreme phobia - what kinds do you find acceptable? Which ones are not? Is it alright only if the person focuses their symptoms inward (towards themselves) or outward (towards others) as well? Is one more acceptable then the other? Why or why not? Since these sorts of problems have a strong genetic disposition, would you worry that your significant other/spouse's condition might impact family life negatively - if it got to that point? Would this be a huge deterrent for you? Naturally, each person will have different specific symptoms, and some you might not be able to tolerate (recklessness/impulsiveness, drug/alcohol abuse, self-mutilation, eating disorders, schizoid personality types, extremely controlling behaviors), but do you believe that if you love someone then ultimately you could love them through extreme problems like these that could impact them as deeply as mental health issues often do?

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Would you date someone with known mental health issues?

Yes, gimme them yanderes!

Yes, but only if I knew (s)he was currently in treatment, and geniunely trying to better her/himself.

Yes, because I don't feel it is right to judge someone for something they can't necessarily control.

Yes, but only because I also have issues of my own,

Maybe, I would consider it. I'm not sure. It depends on the severity.

No, (s)he should focus on themselves first and foremost.

No, it would be too problematic/stressful, and I can't handle that sort of responsibility.

No, I also have mental health issues, and it would be a bad combination.

I would date them, but I would never consider a serious commitment.

Total Votes : 75

Please_don't_ban_me

12 years ago

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I'll be honest, I've been stabbed with a pen, wrongfully accused of rape, attempted to calm a schizophrenic, been pushed down stairs, been habitually cheated on, been controlled and been forced to physically restrain several people in the past. To be honest, no rational person wants that. Each of them has a unique story, but the common trend is an underlying cognitive issue. If you have an issue, solve it before dating. I'm dealing with a PDD, still dealing with issues that arose from my drug-addict step-dad traumatizing me and abusing me, general "father" issues, and an anger issue which was probably caused as a reaction to the aforementioned circumstances. It's hard and I wouldn't recommend it.

PublicRed

12 years ago

I have actually done this once. We have been in a serious relationship, I did not knew he was crazy though. crazy people, they can easily look so normal, theyre not like in TV where theyre raving mad or foam is coming out of their mouth. you can spend a day of talking to them and they can appear perfectly fine.

it looks cute and fun on anime but in real life, once the insanity starts, and in public, its not cute and fun - it is embarassing, frightening, horrifying, confusing and just so stressful

But this is a very broad spectrum.

from simple harmless things to a man raving and attacking people while covered in blood

panluxuria

12 years ago

I had depression for 3 years due to my living conditions and a few other factors but I wouldn't say it was obvious. I took meds and stopped recently and I don't ever feel the same again but I'm not too sure if the thing's out of the system properly as I heard it could alter the body chemistry and it could take more than half a year to go back to normal. I don't regret any of that though, I think I came out stronger and depression somehow really made me dwell on the meaning of life (I wasn't suicidal). Everyone has their own issues and I think everyone's disabled in some ways, whether mentally, physically or emotionally and I don't judge them by that, what's most important is whether their personality works with mine, if they're not murderous and if they have the same values as I do. I don't think I can go out with someone who has body image issues though because many of my friends and cousins are like that and I get annoyed about that stuff easily as well as being easily influenced by that sort of stuff and that really doesn't do me any good.

sherwin555

12 years ago

Fuck like you're 18, love like you're 81.

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