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Only missionary and cowgirl? WEAK!

Jokes aside (again), if there's any sign at all that medication he's taking might be the cause of a low sex drive, I think some consultation on the matter and the medication might be needed. In the mean time, there's nothing wrong with investing in a sex toy to keep yourself occupied.

Age and experience gap is not really going to have much to do with it, especially if you guys have been together for this long, if the sex wasn't as good as some of his past experiences and it bothered him that much he wouldn't have stayed with you.

Lots of things you can do during missionary and standard cowgirl, lots of hand movements and such you can do, stimulating yourself while he's on top is something that men sometimes like, caressing him while you guys are having sex always works too. There's a lot of small things you can add into your sex life like that, have you ever tried different variations of the cowgirl, backwards, "asian", and so on. There are also other ways you can go about missionary sex, just slightly altered.


Blowjobs aren't going to be a reason for lack of sex, fyi.
Low testosterone could definitely be a factor, which still is something you guys should look into checking out. Medication could also definitely be a reason for less motivation in the sex field.

The last thing you stated, sounds like you're making up excuses for him now. There's not much more advice that anyone can really give, but don't start blaming yourself as the cause, wanting sex more than twice a month is not being hypersexual, and is completely normal. Don't just settle with getting a toy or something to satisfy yourself, your relationship will still dwindle. You have to adress this issue and not hold back, if you do, than posting this and asking for help was useless.

You'll only find a solution if you properly deal with the problem.

I wonder, if maybe he was sexually abused as a child and has a mental issues about it that makes him hesitant about it, its possible isn't it?

Maybe you should read the thread more carefully.

OT: Pretty much what's been said. State your needs to him, see if he has a reason himself, and look into the medication he's taking I guess.

Does he drink cranberry juice?

I just came out of an almost 2 year relationship with a man (I'm female, although i know you said you were looking for guy opinion...) who didn't want to have sex. It seemed like he was all over me in the beginning and then came to a grinding halt. He told me he was terrified of getting me pregnant and therefore would be stuck at the job he has. We tried many times but he either didn't have a condom with him or didn't have right size. I hated it. I stuck around cause other things in our relationship were going incredibly well until this year. He said he would get help on it. Which he got advice, but it didn't make that big of a difference. We started having other problems and suddenly the no sex thing felt like it was weighing even more than before. I broke up with him earlier this month.

Not having sex with your partner is hard. It makes you feel like there is something wrong with you, but really its in them whether its fear or something biological. You need to know what it means to you. To be honest, I know I don't want to have a serious relationship with someone that doesn't want to again. It does hurt to be sexually rejected and to have a lack of intimacy that is desired. Its also not fun :P

Well, is he a really good guy? Caring? I mean, it seems to me that he's holding back or something. Either that, or he's just not seeing you in an attractive way? Try putting yourself on him more. Well, not the best advice but, I've never known a guy to not want to have sex. I mean, c'mon. We're fucking animals.

It might be because..

1) he's gay
2) might have a problem with health
3) bored and loss interest
4) busy ( which is likely not)
5) might need space or the opposite
6) scared to impregnate you ( sorry for the word)

But the only way to know is talk

The medications used to treat nicotine addiction are very closely related to antidepressants, and can be responsible for a dropoff in, or total loss of sex drive.

Try wearing sexy clothes or get sex toys

Maybe he wants to get married first :D

Cut off his dick while he's sleeping and turn it into a very realistic dildo. The obvious solution. :D

He could be depressed. Or yeah something along with the medications.

I find it kind of strange that you don't already have toys. Do you depend on others for your orgasms that much? You can use this time to really find kinky ways to get yourself off without his help. Maybe he'll get frustrated knowing you're a sexy bitch without him and want to jump right in.

Communications yadda yadda. If this lasts for a LONG time and sex is REALLY important to you then well, you gotta do what you gotta do right?

It may not be anything more than he's saving himself for his big day.
You gotta talk to him.
Unfortunately if he is saving himself. You'll have to find an outlet thats not someone else. Because cheating on someone is NEVER the answer.

Um to tell you the truth, he probably isn't that sexually attracted to you anymore :(
Regardless of testosterone level or sex drive, if he's not wanting to have sex at all... there probably is something wrong.

That was blunt. Also, some kind of update from the OP would be nice, to see if this situation's been resolved.

It does also make you feel like they are doing it behind you back. Not a fun feeling for either.

Not to slam fakku, but I feel like a porn site isn't the best place to ask that. You said you were younger, right? And that you figured he had more experience, possibly better ones? To boot, you said that when you first met, all you ever did was have sex. Perhaps he needs to prove to himself that sex isn't all that he's after, and given that his younger girlfriend is asking for advice on a porn site, he might feel as though he's taking advantage. As much as I support actually, you know, asking the guy what's up, forcing conversation might make it worse. Try talking to your doctor or something.