Parents

You can be my driver

[font=Tahoma]My mom didn't believe me when I told her that I didn't have a passion for my college classes. I would do my work, but once a group project or essay would come up, I would procrastinate and end up getting overwhelmed the night before it was do and end up crying while staying up to the wee hours of the morning doing the work, lol
Anywhoo~
It started with me dropping a class my first semester.
And then a couple more my second.
I think my third one I dropped a class.
And, due to a bad habit of once I miss a class, I continuously missed it...I completely failed my fourth semester.
My mom called me when she found out.
Completely pissed off.
And said "I college isn't for you".
But I know she was really disappointed that I didn't work harder. She still brings up me going back from time to time.[/font]

My parents are good parents and I love them, but they don't like the fact that I'm on the computer most of the time I'm home.

I can relate, I struggled in school and my parents never put forth the effort to help me out nor did my teachers, and I had a hard time making friends, That's why I ended up having to do everything without help. When I was close to failing, all my parents could say was "what the hell are these grades?" I was told things like "you're worthless!" or "be more like your brother." I ended up passing everything on my own and finally said fuck it as far as asking for help and went out on my own.

My parents used to put a lot of pressure on me; however, a lot of it was self-inflicted, as my younger sister was super academic and overachieving (still is). Now that I'm older, they let me decide how my schooling will affect me: make the best of it or not. I need to improve in many ways but they know I try.

So sometimes they'd even stand up for me in cases where I was clearly at fault; now I often have no way to save my own ass from my own foolishness. Not that I'm not glad for what they did, but I could have used better discipline in certain aspects of life.

How is being a driver a bad thing? A job is a job, what matters is what you want. I believe that a Parents role in your life is to guide and instruct you, but not to force you to do anything. If they've raised you right, you'll do what's right and you'll make your own choices happily. So you are on your last chance at school? You can always re-enroll at another school, you can go to technical college, there are still options. You don't have to go to College, you can get an apprenticeship, or do vocational education, you can do anything. It's tough to make your parents understand, but they aren't living your life. You are. They might say they know what's best for you, but ultimately it's up to you to decide what's best for you.

My advice, keep on keeping on. It's not much, but stay strong and don't give up. You'll make some ground eventually.

You failed in school more than once and you got caught with alcohol in your room. I wouldn't trust you either if I was your dad.

Get your act together man.

I never knew my parents. They died before I had a chance to disappoint them.

All in all, life isn't all about school... but finishing High-school does make a lot of things much easier.

Simple fix (Note: Not easy), don't fail any more subjects and you should be able to slide through and at least finish School.

In any case, you can't let other people have TOO much influence over your life. Sure, they can suggest stuff and throw advice your way but ultimately, if you want to be a Cab-Driver or a Mail-man then that's your call.

But if you want to be something "better" (like say a Doctor or whatever you think counts as a "success") then at least finishing School + other things would be a good base to start off on.

You still have a chance dude just don't listen to some of these negative comments because the sink in your head and tear you apart inside...

Well, I love my mom and I miss my father, but my mom is a closed-minded one. She says it's bad to judge people, yet she does it. She sees a bit of fat in you, and already says you're fat. My father was nothing but funny, and he always used to tell me and my sister to just ignore my mom when she bitches. Oh, how I miss him.

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^That should summarize it pretty well.

Perhaps your parents just wanted you to be successful enough to take care of them and repay them for what they have done for you. Failing school will give you less options with what you want to do with life... unless you are perfectly content with what you have now, then go ahead, but still think about what your parents have done for you.

Shit...not complaining one ounce after reading half the posts here.

I really don't have alot to complain about. They're suspiciously patient, supportive, and encouraging despite all the times I've failed their expectations. I do think my dad's a bit disappointed in that I've developed some conservative views (still a net moderate, the right is balanced out by the left). For sure though my younger brother is the more successful/organized of my parents' kids.

[color=#ff0080]I'm kind of with the above poster. In the overall scheme of things, my parents are great and we have a good relationship. My mom is pretty much my best friend. My dad's an asshole, but he means well.

My issues come more from my sister. She kind of fucked up a lot and so I felt like I had to make up for it in my parent's eyes. So I kind of have a complex of never being good enough b/c I feel like I have to be successful enough for two daughters, instead of just one.[/color]