[Locked] Pretty sure my girlfriend is cheating
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Ok well basically im just asking for advice on what to do but heres basically how its going:
Overview of us/our relationship:
for an overview on us shes slightly older then me and were both still in highschool we go to different schools though and i met her at my friends halloween party and weve been dating for like a month we havent done anything special together besides kissing and watching movies
Full story:
Basic points for why i think shes cheating:
1. She hasnt accepted the relationship thing even after i made it pretty clear i really want her too and fed some bs excuses as to why she didnt accept it the first time
2. the sketchy planning on hanging out with her friend this week
3. the profile pic of the guy who shes flirted with several times before and the guy has the exact same picture of them as his profile pic too
4a. the fact that the last couple days shes been pretty against kissing me and stuff of that nature
4b. more on a personal note she wasnt even remotely grateful or happy when i spent like 40 dollars on us for a valentines date and bought her a huge 30 dollar fluffy teddy bear but idk might that just be me :I
5. the fact that even while dating me my friend tells me that he sees her with other guys around her and with their arms around her and shit.
Thats literally it ive been pretty upset about the whole ordeal and im quite positive shes cheating i just dont know what to do. Im having my friends really try and figure out if ses cheating or something but its like idk ive never been cheated on what do i do like i dont even know how im supposed to feel because it sort of feels like a mix between that feeling in your stomach when your about to do something that makes you nervous, complete sadness, and totally being pissed. Like should i get revenge for cheating, just blow it off and ignore her, or like tell the other guy and break up with her and just be spiteful about it. Idk just what you would do if the person you were dating cheated on you
Overview of us/our relationship:
for an overview on us shes slightly older then me and were both still in highschool we go to different schools though and i met her at my friends halloween party and weve been dating for like a month we havent done anything special together besides kissing and watching movies
Full story:
Spoiler:
Basic points for why i think shes cheating:
1. She hasnt accepted the relationship thing even after i made it pretty clear i really want her too and fed some bs excuses as to why she didnt accept it the first time
2. the sketchy planning on hanging out with her friend this week
3. the profile pic of the guy who shes flirted with several times before and the guy has the exact same picture of them as his profile pic too
4a. the fact that the last couple days shes been pretty against kissing me and stuff of that nature
4b. more on a personal note she wasnt even remotely grateful or happy when i spent like 40 dollars on us for a valentines date and bought her a huge 30 dollar fluffy teddy bear but idk might that just be me :I
5. the fact that even while dating me my friend tells me that he sees her with other guys around her and with their arms around her and shit.
Thats literally it ive been pretty upset about the whole ordeal and im quite positive shes cheating i just dont know what to do. Im having my friends really try and figure out if ses cheating or something but its like idk ive never been cheated on what do i do like i dont even know how im supposed to feel because it sort of feels like a mix between that feeling in your stomach when your about to do something that makes you nervous, complete sadness, and totally being pissed. Like should i get revenge for cheating, just blow it off and ignore her, or like tell the other guy and break up with her and just be spiteful about it. Idk just what you would do if the person you were dating cheated on you
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
Ask her. Either she lying or your friend is. You can't force her to commit. If she can't then your relationship is doom anyways.
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Not accepting the facebook relationship status in this case seems to be because she doesn't want others to see it; there's no chance someone can miss the notification. While it is unadvised to readily accept the advice of someone potentially very biased the situation (referring to the friend with expertise in this situation you mentioned), in this case he is probably telling you the truth. You should probably have a proper talk with your gf about what's going on. If she continues to dodge the topic and refuse to communicate, it is likely she is just stringing you along. To be honest though, neither of you seem very happy in this relationship.
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Same shit happened to me five years ago. My advice don't wait around till she gets a call and puts it on loud speaker to find out that theres more then one guy that shes been with.
Also another precursor for this kind of behavior is that she will have friends that you have never met but she will always taslk about, ask if you can met them and if she changes topic or says no etc, you have your answer.
Also another precursor for this kind of behavior is that she will have friends that you have never met but she will always taslk about, ask if you can met them and if she changes topic or says no etc, you have your answer.
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Anatomically speaking, the first four months of every relationship induce a hormone cocktail that creates feelings of love, lust, and attachment.
Yet yours is already showing signs of strain..
Dump her. You're both in highschool, this shit is far from serious, and she clearly gives little, if any, of a shit about you.
Yet yours is already showing signs of strain..
Dump her. You're both in highschool, this shit is far from serious, and she clearly gives little, if any, of a shit about you.
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I think you should move on man. Its pretty obvious shes cheating.
Maybe you should talk to her about it. Idk |: If she keeps acting like that, I would call quits and move on.
Maybe you should talk to her about it. Idk |: If she keeps acting like that, I would call quits and move on.
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What i gathered from this that you two aren't officially dating. I might be wrong but have you ever actually made it clear that you think she's your girlfriend. If not she might have thought it was a bit of a fling. I think you should lay everything out on the table...and keep us updated...
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monpekokero wrote...
What i gathered from this that you two aren't officially dating. I might be wrong but have you ever actually made it clear that you think she's your girlfriend. If not she might have thought it was a bit of a fling. I think you should lay everything out on the table...and keep us updated...well i asked her "do you want to go out with me" and she said yes so pretty sure were dating xD
also she just updated her status to say were in a relationship so maybe shes not cheating but idk im still not enitrely convinced i guess
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Tekn0x wrote...
She hasnt accepted the relationship thing even after i made it pretty clear i really want her tooYeah there's your core problem... you have different ideas about how you want the relationship to work.
If she doesn't want to be exclusive but you do... you're kind of out of luck, as she (to you? idk) made it clear.
TALK about how you will/do define this relationship. Make everything clear and spoken. Don't assume she came to the same conclusion after she said "yes" to your confession: she may have taken it as "ok, let's try dating", and not "i will only date you" as you seem to see it.
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Tekn0x wrote...
monpekokero wrote...
What i gathered from this that you two aren't officially dating. I might be wrong but have you ever actually made it clear that you think she's your girlfriend. If not she might have thought it was a bit of a fling. I think you should lay everything out on the table...and keep us updated...well i asked her "do you want to go out with me" and she said yes so pretty sure were dating xD
also she just updated her status to say were in a relationship so maybe shes not cheating but idk im still not enitrely convinced i guess
Updating your status to 'in a relationship' doesn't equate to being sexually faithful.
If you have doubts, you need to confront her with the evidence, the stories, and sort this shit out right now.
Or you could just ignore it, let it slide, and let your typical short-lived highschool 'romance' run its course. In all likelihood, it'll be over within a month anyway :/
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
Lollikittie wrote...
Tekn0x wrote...
monpekokero wrote...
What i gathered from this that you two aren't officially dating. I might be wrong but have you ever actually made it clear that you think she's your girlfriend. If not she might have thought it was a bit of a fling. I think you should lay everything out on the table...and keep us updated...well i asked her "do you want to go out with me" and she said yes so pretty sure were dating xD
also she just updated her status to say were in a relationship so maybe shes not cheating but idk im still not enitrely convinced i guess
Updating your status to 'in a relationship' doesn't equate to being sexually faithful.
If you have doubts, you need to confront her with the evidence, the stories, and sort this shit out right now.
Or you could just ignore it, let it slide, and let your typical short-lived highschool 'romance' run its course. In all likelihood, it'll be over within a month anyway :/
This.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
You've been together a month, are still in high school, are already at loggerheads over your apparent jealousy of her flirting with other guys and you got upset about her not accepting a relationship request on Facebook.
This "relationship" was doomed from the start. Looks to me that she was never interested in being in one in the first place.
Protip; Facebook shouldn't be central to a relationship. It's fine that you want the world to know you're together, but getting so worked up over the fact that she quite clearly didn't is overdoing it.
This "relationship" was doomed from the start. Looks to me that she was never interested in being in one in the first place.
Protip; Facebook shouldn't be central to a relationship. It's fine that you want the world to know you're together, but getting so worked up over the fact that she quite clearly didn't is overdoing it.
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The signs state she's cheating. I suggest what everybody else already has. And if you're in high school, the chances of the relationship lasting are slim anyway.
On a side note, high school? My underage senses are slightly tingling.
On a side note, high school? My underage senses are slightly tingling.
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Tsujoi wrote...
You should ask her to marry you.Best advice NA
Gravity cat wrote...
You've been together a month, are still in high school, are already at loggerheads over your apparent jealousy of her flirting with other guys and you got upset about her not accepting a relationship request on Facebook.This "relationship" was doomed from the start. Looks to me that she was never interested in being in one in the first place.
Protip; Facebook shouldn't be central to a relationship. It's fine that you want the world to know you're together, but getting so worked up over the fact that she quite clearly didn't is overdoing it.
I didnt actually care when i sent the request i noticed she didnt accept it but i wasnt worried about it i only worried about it when my friends brought it up as a possibility as shes cheating
crazr wrote...
The signs state she's cheating. I suggest what everybody else already has. And if you're in high school, the chances of the relationship lasting are slim anyway. On a side note, high school? My underage senses are slightly tingling.
I have literally no idea what you are talking about sir
UPDATE: So my friend was retarded and brought up that i didnt think she actually spent the night with her friend so i ended up just telling her everything and she actually got pretty pissed at my friends for convincing me that she was cheating and pissed at me for believing them (a reaction i generally did not see coming) She said it was fucking stupid that i believed them and that she was sorry but her friends came first becuase she needed her or something and idk. I apologized for believing them and said id make it up to her but i really feel like i shouldnt have because i think her feelings of being angry are misplaced. I feel like if i found out my partner thought i was cheating when i wasnt id just try to explain that i wasnt and show her i wasnt by being nice and stuff not get pissed at them :I
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xXShiki5683Xx wrote...
Just talk to her about it. But you can't force someone to commit. First Post :o
Anyhow
It as Shiki said. Ya just need to set some time together and talk about it. Communication goes a long way.
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MrMusical wrote...
xXShiki5683Xx wrote...
Just talk to her about it. But you can't force someone to commit. Communication goes a long way.
Communication is everything when it comes to relationships.
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Here's another tip: whenever you start a new relationship, put your significant other on a 90 day probation period. In other words, most problems arise within the first 90 days and if you can get past that, then it's a pretty solid relationship. For the first time, I'm actually in a solid relationship and nothing happened within the first 90 days. When I first read your post, it didn't exactly scream cheating, but it's certainly a sign of failure in communication, which is key in any relationship. Facebook relationship isn't binding and frankly, my FB relationship status does not state that I am in a relationship status with my girlfriend for private reasons. Again, I cannot stress enough that communication is key. It'll get you far for certain.