[Locked] Pretty sure my girlfriend is cheating

she never accepted it... it is not cheating!!!

honestly, you dont have a say on who she is seeing on sleeping with. and if you are gonna be difficult about this, when youre not even together, its not a good thing... believe me

>It was already stated they were together.
>Not accepting a status on facebook, does not determine whether or not a relationship exists.
>Not everyone is going to share your opinion on monogamy, love and relationships are subjective to the individuals involved, only they can determine what is infidelity and what is not.

>This kid is in highschool, any and all serious advice is pretty much null and void anyways. Adolescence is for ignoring all rational advice and making stupid mistake after stupid mistake until you realize you know absolutely nothing about the world.

mustve been outside the OP, my bad or i misunderstood it...

and, whats FB got to do with anything to begin with right. i think as long as people know its enough

well, if she is your girl, and shes fucking someone without your approval... however we look at it then that is cheating? even i would say it is

as for him being in highschool, them,... oh -_- ... >_> ... <_<

To add: I think the girlfriend is a slut.

Also, I once had a gf, she never accepted my status update invite to 'in a relationship' with me, but it wasnt coz she was cheating. she was just ashamed of her family seeing my picture for a while I think. so its not always cheating people...

Final UPDATE: She broke up with me on sunday i was pretty sad about it and she knew and then i find out later she went around the next day talking shit about me after she dumped me. i get pretty pissed we got in an argument and i doubt im ever talking to her again but whatever i dont care too much anymore xD

Why'd she break up?

i decided to talk to her about me still thinking she was cheating or well more like not inspiring confidence that she wasnt cheatign and she got pretty upset i would still think that and broke up with me

Your highschool relationship ended abruptly and resulted in back-talking?

No way.

Pffffffft. That actually made me laugh a little.

OT: Dude listen to me, I've been there before, listen to me as I've been through quite a few (easily avoidable (and I didn't because I'm stupid)) bad situations. That girl wasn't right for you, 99.99999999999999999999999% of high school relationships aren't. It's a practice field, get your training in, take it kinda seriously, but it's really not. Learn, adapt and overcome. This is where you'll learn about forming interactions, starting relationships, approaching potential partners, it's all there for you to learn, but that's just it. Don't be bummed out, it's an experiment to find the correct formula to a successful relationship. When trying to invent anything, barring incredible luck or skill you lean thousands of ways not to do it and a few ways that do work. Continue testing.

Read the updates.

Posting to ask that the OP request lock, as he is no longer with her. [shockingly!]

Do you always have to be sarcastic and rude? Dude posts asking for advice, you give the guy advise but don't make light of the guy's experiences for your own kicks.

Or should I remind you that you too, were once a "stupid high schooler"? We all were.

The situation clearly resolved itself, but let me give you some advice anyway: There are many women, who are rude and have a weird complex in which they are both egotistic and yet insecure. To them, relationships are a play thing. They're usually called "bitches".

Avoid them like the plague, nothing good comes out of dating someone who can't even take the prospect of a relationship seriously. Girls like your EX GF for example, fit this characterization. She wasn't willing to talk things out with you, GOD FORBID you question her.(But she has all the right to question you)

Avoid those women, they aren't worth it. Its because they put such low value on even themselves.

Everyone told him it would end, and it did. So.. yeah. There were red flags everywhere.

His relationship ended, several weeks ago. O_o

Yeah, there were red flags but that doesn't necessarily mean that you can or should harp on it. How would you like it if I harped on your relationship ending with some guy, taunting that it never worked out.

Red flags are seldom enough, especially in matters where emotion is high. It took bright red flags mounted on a bright red neon sign with bold and underlined text for me to actually do anything. Some people just need an additional push, and more than likely several other guiding pushes from other directions. Someone always necessarily has to be the blunt point of reality, but even so there is no malicious intent. LolliKittie fulfilled that niche this time, it's or jobs to help out in whatever way we can to assist in whatever method we deem necessary. OP should be moving on with his life and I wish him the best, I'm almost completely certain that Lollikittie and you share the sentiment, no need to be unnecessarily argumentative. In other words, chill bro, we're all on the same team.

OT, OP I hope that you're moving on and are doing better.

It wasn't a highschool relationship, and it was based on a friendship. This kid thought his chick was cheating after a month. -shrug- Really hard to compare the two.

Does it really matter? We all make mistakes and we're all fallible, I'm sure everyone makes bad choices and occasionally they repeat, but that's not the important bit, what is is that OP learned something from the experience and that we help alleviate whatever issue there is. Anyway, don't perpetuate this argument any longer than it has to be.


For the record I'm not trying to start a fight myself, nor am I looking for enemies, I just wanted to try to calm things down a bit and once they're settled see how OP is doing and what he learned from all this nonsense.

Dude, I ain't even mad. He just waltzed in and decided to say that.

People are dumb, sometimes more than others. Just go about your day when you encounter such nonsense.

I simply think there's a level of respect to be had when discussing another person's problems. To make snide remarks here or there, isn't becoming IMO.