relationship advice

There's a girl that I like but she is engaged to my brother in law.
She is engaged to him because she is pregnant with his daughter though she really hates him being alive let alone being his bride.
She got hammered one night and he took advantage of her. (that's why she is pregnant)
She likes me just as much as I like her but our families rules are (more or less) absolute.
So what do you guys (and girls) think we should do?
[u]Please help us!

Dude Do what YOU want to do, If both of you want to be together, then be together, Family rules be damned.
One thing I have to ask though is, how does your brother in law feel about her? If they both dislike each other then why be together. However if he does love her, then she should be honest and you should be there to support her on that, since you sound like you don't want them to be together.

Are you mentally, let alone financially, capable of providing for a developing human being?

Thay have this kind of ... not hatred but when ever thay are in the same room thay fight constantly.
When ever thay talk to me ( I'm Pretty much the family psychologist) thay express positive feelings for each other but get them in a room and its like thay lose all sense of self-control.
I really do like her but I want them to be happy as well.
I know. For someone who wants to be with a girl I'm pretty stupid for also wanting her to be happy with someone else.

1.) why did she not get an abortion?
2.) why didn't she lie and say that it was yours, not this guys?

My advice is this:
If you want to be together, and can support each other, then fuck family law or whatever. If you love her and she loves you, and you think you can both make it work for eternity, then do it. Be with her. Support her and the child. Do what you feel you need to be happy.

Or

If you can't make it work then you should just leave her be. It was her fault she got drunk and pregnant.

I really don't mean to be so judgemental, just voicing what'd I'd be doing. Don't really have complete details on the situation so I'm hesitant to give advice like this...

Sorry if it's not helpful.

if the answer to the above is yes, elope.

She would be hurting him in the future if he found out.

It would have been protecting everyone from a potentially bad marriage. That's if it goes all wrong.

1.Ask yoursel this question before you do anything.
2.To me I would step in to stop the marriage because she is marrying a guy who basically raped her and a guy she hates. I would also do what makes me and the girl I'm interested in happy.

what. She's engaged to your brother-in-law... Meaning he's already married to your sister?

My mother married his father.

That's a step sibling. Brother-in-law is someone brother of your spouse, brother of your sibling's spouse, or husband of your spouse's sibling.

You're still avoiding answering the question everyone is posing to you.

Can you financially provide for a child?

If you cannot, then you should not seriously pursue her at this time.

If you honestly feel she is making a mistake and they would end up with a crappy marriage, you can convince her to not marry him as it would be a mistake.

But if this is mostly because you want to be with her. Step the fuck back kid.

This.
I'm sorry but there are larger obstacles in your way than you apparently realize. She's an expectant mother... anything less than a heart full of love [real, by-your-side-forever kind of love] and a sizable CONSISTENT income simply will not suffice.

He "took advantage of her"? Sounds rape-y to me...

In which case she should by no means be/feel forced to marry this guy... or have his kid. Then again, the kid part is more up for debate (some rape survivors keep the child conceived without their will, for their own reasons).

if YOU can provide for the child, do it. If you can't, you had best find a way to provide for this damn child, or so help me son, I'll be pissed.

PHOQUE THA ROOLS.

No seriously, he pretty much raped her, he's pretty much forcing her to marry him, and she hates him... it's going to end up in the shitter anyway. If you don't do something, she's going to be the abused wife, he's going to end up either beating her, leaving her in a horrible mess after a wretched fight, or dead.. you never know.

My advice:
Get a job that'll provide for a child (assuming she has a job, and assuming you don't) Steal her from him, Tell him to get fucked, and to take the family rules and shove them up his ass.
Seriously, what would you rather see? A child brought up in a family where the mother and father hate each other an constantly fight each other, or where the dad and his brother hate each other? I know what i'd rather see.

Tl;dr, TAKE THE GIRL, SAVE HER FROM A SHITHOLE OF A MARRIAGE, GET THE PHOQUE INTO A JOB.
I mean no disrepect in any of this post, it is mostly speculative, so yeah.. do correct me if you have a job etc..
Etc etc.
Much love,
Drifter.

Seriously, answer us. CAN you financially provide for this child?! If so, then save her. If not, nothing you can do.

ya as they say.. if u can provide for the child and If u can accept the child that isnt yours... than go with it... cos most ppl cannot take accept this eventhought they said their ok wif it in the 1st place... cos i seen alot of my fren wif the same situation like the girl u like and her husband.. most of them end up divource and the 1 who suffer the most is the child..

Whether or not you can provide for the kid, you gotta stop the marriage. Not for your sake of wanting to be with her but for her sake of avoiding a shitty marriage that is already failing before the ring gets onto the finger.

All three of us sat down and discussed about our relationships and the three of us decided that it would be best if we raised the little baby girl together.
I know it may sound kind of strange but its what we have chosen.
Keeping the baby's father in the picture would be best for the little one.
Lying to her would be wrong so let's see what happens.