[Locked] Sex keeps getting younger!!

BIG BOB here and I got a personal question.
Before we start. I'm 19, still live with my parents.
Well my sister is 15 years old and she's having a friend over as I type this. I was pretty suspicious of this guy with his skinny jeans and aero postal? jacket. They then walk in her room and close the door. As soon as I walk her room to get my phone charger I see my sister quickly getting up and this guy covering his face in shame in my mind I knew I interrupted a blowjob. After that i told my other sister and she just didn't care that her underage sister is making the wrong decisions like her. What should I do?!? I don't want my sister to be a whore and I really can't do much without my parents threatening to kick me out?

Honestly, there's not much you can do. No matter what the age, your sister is going to want to try things for herself. That's including all things sexual. You're just going to have to understand that. The best thing you can do for her, is sit her down with someone far more experienced in the matter, have them answer any questions she may have, and go over with her the concept of protection and safe sex. After that, it's up to your sister what she wants to do, and how she wishes to treat herself. To restrict her to anything is just going to want her to explore it further, so best just to tell her how things are in the nicest way possible, and then leave her to own devices, hoping she learns from those wiser then her.

Some girls/guys do more than that at even younger ages than that. Lets just hope she is smart enough to make good decisions in the future.

The best idea that comes to mind is from How I Met Your Mother - the speech Ted gives to Robin's little sister, Katie in Season 2, Episode 12: First Time in New York. He explains what all teenage boys are like, and talks about how he had his first time with a girl and then walked out on her right after, and said 'I love you', without meaning it.

Other than that... all you can really do is educate her about safe sex practices and advise that she wait for someone she really loves, trusts, and cares about, and who cares about her.


But ultimately, kids will do what they're going to do.

You could always do the "american" brother thing and beat up all her boyfriends

You do realize a whore is someone who sleeps around with a lot of people, right? Usually at once? All you know is that your sister just blew that one guy. No evidence to say she's a whore as of yet. You can prevent this path, though, by doing what everyone else says: talk to her about it, and make sure she knows what she's doing, and how to do it safely. She's already become interested enough in this dark and dangerous path to walk it. All you can do now is make sure she has ample supplies and a flashlight to guide her through it.

All this talk won't accomplish anything, as teens have it in their mind that adults around them just wanna jank their chain and boss them around and they won't have any more of that...

My advice? Buy a pack of condoms, give them to her and tell her to keep 'em on hand. You've just done ten-times more for her actual safety than all the sermons in the world.

As for turning into a slut? Get real... she's 15, more than old enough to be sexually active, heck in most of the world she's soon gonna be over the age of consent (16). Girls don't turn into sluts by being sexually active, they do if they do so without any shred of responsibility or personal commitment to their partners.

If you actually want to help her, ask her about her boyfriend and take it seriously. It's *not* make-believe, puppy-love or just fooling around. It only becomes such if everyone tries to treat it as such.

By treating her relationship as something serious you give her a chance to deal with it in a responsible, adult manner. Sex goes hand in hand with relationships and what you should aim for is not abstinence, but responsibility.

On the flip-side, you should also hold her boyfriend to a similar demands: He's to treat your sister as a person, not some conquest or easy fling. This means keeping confidences and being honest to one-another.

Likely both of them will screw up, as they're young and inexperienced, but it's way better to do that and try to apologize, to amend, to work at it and learn about things, then just to throwing consequences to the wind and moving on without having learned a thing from their experience as things burn.

So being intimate with your bf/gf (15/16) makes you a whore now? She is not a whore because she is sexually active.(that's idiotic)
Try being an older brother and make sure she has protection and knows of the uses of birth control to prevent pregnancy. Do not treat her like your parents would because she will not listen to you. Also try talking to her about it.

What I want to say has been said to death already, but giving a blowjob doesn't mean she's a whore, it means she's sexually active and curious.

First off, if you really want to help her, get out of the mindset that what she's doing is the worst thing since Adolf Hitler, because sex is the sole reason the human race still exists. She's at an age where she wants to experiment with somebody, and it's going to happen sooner or later whether you like it or not. She might like this guy and really trust him to do this sort of thing, and if you fuck it up for her she will hate you.

Your older sister's got the right idea, and evidently she's experienced the exact same thing when she was her age and knows a little better about the situation than you do. Follow her lead, do what she's doing and let your younger sister make her own mistakes and don't intervene. Be the supporting brother when things do go tits-up, I mean it's a whole lot better than being the overprotective brother who instantly wants to punch all of her boyfriends in the face.

You're sister is not a whore, nor will she be a whore. Slut shaming isn't right and it's offensive for a young girl to be told or hear that about herself.

Be understanding that she is curious. Don't try to intervene just have your sister or yourself give her a short talk, tell her to be safe, and give her condoms if it seems like she is having sex. What you caught was a blowjob, honestly that is nothing to be too freaked out about. As most have said above me - have a talk, and if things are serious with her boyfriend then give him a talk as well.

Slut shaming her is not the way to go. Instead direct her to resources where she can learn about having sex safely and how to determine if shes doing it for the right reasons. Personally I think pointing her in the direction of a youtube channel called Sex+ is a good place to start.

Remeber girls are just as curious about sex as guys are, be understanding and nonjudgmental, we ladies get enough of that from the rest of the world.

what nobody has asked that is are they going out or whats the deal there?and do your parents are cool with him coming over?if they just met and he was getting a blowjob I,if i had a younger sister or daughter i would beat his behind and send him outside naked but thats if thats the case and tell him to sleep with one eye when it comes to mesing with your sister
and i would think if i had a younger sister i would sort of have a casual talk about sex because really I would think it would be sort of difficult for a parent to do cause thats an akward talk one that i didnt have(sex ed in school i had that)which is why i went to porn but if everything is on the level if they want to to that id have that dude take a shower ,make sure there isnt nothing on his cock,and maybe a STD test idk but then also get some flavored/scented condoms(they are real i saw them in a bathroom vending machine) but i would think its all ok if its all intercruxal cause if it isnt anything intercruxal go a head and say ITS Clobberin time!!!!!

good luck with the situation
i would also have a man to man with that dude with a knife in your hand as your slicing sausages or you could threathen him with a reenactment of a movie scene(id use the dude with the tattoos in crank 2)aka shotgunbaseballbat/golfclub or anything usable up the ass dont forget the jerking up and down to go further in

I hope for the best for you and your sisters.

P.S let him in on the legal ramifications too.and your younger sister isnt a whore
tell that guy to wear some normal jeans and some boxer so his cock doesnt end up being tiny i want the best for your lil sister even though idont know her i wouldnt want him to make her expectations realistic rather than fictional cause of his tight jeans(wouldnt it be painful to have a boner wearing skinny jeans if there really tight)

Well I got a little more info now that really pissed me off.
When this guy came over they were friends and they're still "friends." My sister said he was 19 and he now takes my sister out alot after that day. Just yesterday he took her to the movies and my parents didn't know about it.
I'm still trying to figure out how I can talk with her about this.

ok yeah that fool has to go really this just looks bad from so many angles this dude is possibly hopefully in college right this is like if she was 14 and him 18 he ought to go meet girls in nightclubs or maybe he should join a frat or something to party now if she was 20 and him 24 thats different but cause you never know what might happen now knowing that you might want to consider whooping his ass cause it just sounds bad and you have to consider the scenarios this prick might do which i could be overthinking and now you have to figure out how do i break the bond between them cause if you tell her she cant see him she'll want him more i suppose and you never say no to teenage girls and pregnant women(9 months and after only applies to pregnat women)cause theyll throw a fit id do some recon on the guy find out his situation and is this fool ugly or what why is he wanting to get blown by your sister?is the guy in college,or he could be a lolicon maybe see if he has any skeletons in the closet if you get my drift....

P.S- does this guy not know about the 5 year rule or what?in his case 17 18 19 20 21
its obvious the guy has some money(clues being aero postale and taking her to movies)
i dont think you would bring his parents into the mix well this maybe a bad idea somehow(if he is in college)coerce him to leave your sister alone otherwise his parents will stop paying tuition and let hime see how he'll deal with it

Then you need to have a conversation with him and her because he can get in trouble with the law since she is still a minor.

you could always ask if he wants to have to blow someone in prison which would be ironic

15, i remember a buddy of mine who had the same thing goin on when he hit 14. He (obviously on the recieving end) and his girlfriend did it quite it bit from what was said. And funny thing (not bad, quite awesome actually cause it doesnt happen anymore really) Him and that same girl are still together. So maybe its gateway to a lifetime of romance? IDK just some extreme open minded thoughts haha

Oh wow, i really gotta finish reading all comments before i go and make a post. Its time to use the big brother card. Id say kick his ass for taking advantage of your curious 15 year old sister. And try and talk with her about it. Explain the situation. If the cravings and curiosity are too much she needs to at least try and stick with her age group before she puts herself in a situation she cant get out of. Safe sex and truly feeling comfortable with the person. She will have plenty of time to go after older guys once she hits 18. And TBH at that point she will be running the show anyway lol.

This.

Seriously, if you DO want to say anything to her, just remind her to practice safe sex, and tell her to make sure her partners ask for her consent (and likewise, she of them). There is nothing inherently wrong with an adolescent having sex: don't be the one to add shame to her perception of it. However, do remind her that age of consent is important and will factor in if she is "found out" by someone who may not take it too well.

If you feel somehow the "situation" is escalating, or she's in actual danger due to increased activity, talk to a trusted adult if you don't want to tell your parents.

Buy lots and lots of condoms. Keep them in a safe place where your parents will unlikely find them. Remind her about safe sex and offer to drive her to a free clinic for birth control, and give her condoms. Worse comes to worst, you're helping her successfully avoid STDs and teen pregnancy - a win that few big brothers get these days.

Also... you may want to subtly create a standard of a healthy relationship with her. I.e. be respectful and kind to her, you don't need to be lovey dovey or anything, but .. well, if you're good enough to her, it'll make the worst of her boyfriends look even worse. She needs to know how to be treated, and the best way to do that is to show her how she deserves to be treated. [If this is getting weird, I mean.. by being a good older brother, and subtly showing her what a good boyfriend looks like - either by letting her see how you treat other girls, or how considerate you are to her], she might have a better chance at being able to differentiate between the guys who really respect and care about her, and those who are just jerks waiting to happen.

All this advice is wonderful but the fact remains she is with a man that is 19. Something needs to be done. This is not a Fakku doujinshi where banging that 14 year old is hot (which is still disgusting). I'm not saying be controlling and she is going to do what she is going to do but she needs to be shown that is unacceptable. Again when she hits 18 there will be PLENTY of time for that.