[Locked] She's only 18...
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HappyDia01 wrote...
Second_Prototype wrote...
To be honest it's really just the whole "still in highschool" thing. If she was on the other side of 20 and our age difference was the same then I would have no qualms at all.Looks like this isn't going to be an issue. I went out with her today, there's just no connection. She hardly had anything to say about herself while I practically told her my life story and I tried to get her to talk about herself many times.
Interesting... I went on a date exactly like this right before I met my boyfriend. He talked INCESSANTLY, and then turned to me like: "So, uh - do you have anything to say?" And I was humiliated and embarrassed, because compared to him - nope, I did not. In this case, I was younger then him by 2-3 years, and he had way more life experience then I did. I was just getting my first taste of freedom (high school graduation and car), and he'd been in the Navy for awhile now. We just did not click at all, because he intimidated me. Usually, I'm extremely extroverted and outgoing, and while we seemed to get along well online and over the phone... In real life, it was a different story. That's just your way of knowing that you're not on the same page and it wouldn't work whatsoever. Did you ask her why she had been interested in the first place? You could use that info to your advantage next time.
Aww... crap. Are you saying I scared her off? I'm not exactly good at this dating stuff myself. I felt that just coming out and asking: "What do you want from me and where do you want to go with this?" would come off as way too cold on a first date. (I save that for the third date.)
I imagine she was just taking a chance. I sat next to her on a train and she approached me. Although to be fair I've kinda been keeping her at arms length till I decide if I want to go any further with her (which it looks like I don't). And shit... I managed to follow up every little thing she said about herself with MORE stuff about my life.
Dammit Dia, you've got me thinking again. I was trying to do what everyone else said and just go with the flow but now the gears in my head are whirring round and round and making me all anxious and insecure.
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Flaser
OCD Hentai Collector
Dating tip: try to make new memories, not reminisce over your old ones. She's on a date with you, not the guy you had been a day, a week or a year ago... yes it does take effort, but that's life.
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Establish expectations early. Don't want to end up the bad guy who breaks a young girl's heart? Then find out as soon as possible what she's looking for and where she's at in her life right now. Once the parameters are set, try to keep them in mind.
When in doubt, take things slow. Watch for signals. Don't apply too much force, don't do anything she's not ready for or you're ready for for that matter [assuming it's a committed relationship she's seeking].
All in all, this seems like a kosher situation to me.
Edit: Wow, uh.. nevermind. Sorry about that man, sometimes an age difference really does have an impact.
When in doubt, take things slow. Watch for signals. Don't apply too much force, don't do anything she's not ready for or you're ready for for that matter [assuming it's a committed relationship she's seeking].
All in all, this seems like a kosher situation to me.
Edit: Wow, uh.. nevermind. Sorry about that man, sometimes an age difference really does have an impact.
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I don't see the problem here.
You're freaking out over nothing.
EDIT: I would say attempt another date, it might take a moment for her to really warm up
You're freaking out over nothing.
EDIT: I would say attempt another date, it might take a moment for her to really warm up
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You're on a hentai forum and think that we might agree with you about hesitating to date a completely legal girl?
You never know until you try man. She is into you, and you must have been interested in her if you gave her your number and email address. While 6 years is quite an age gap, it's not the worst people have made work out. At most she might seem like a little sister (and I dunno if you've read Oreimo or not).
Try it out. If it doesn't work then C'est La Vie. You don't really have much to risk other than potential heartbreak, and that in itself is a risk everyone has to take for a relationship.
You never know until you try man. She is into you, and you must have been interested in her if you gave her your number and email address. While 6 years is quite an age gap, it's not the worst people have made work out. At most she might seem like a little sister (and I dunno if you've read Oreimo or not).
Try it out. If it doesn't work then C'est La Vie. You don't really have much to risk other than potential heartbreak, and that in itself is a risk everyone has to take for a relationship.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
yummines wrote...
You're on a hentai forum and think that we might agree with you about hesitating to date a completely legal girl?You never know until you try man. She is into you, and you must have been interested in her if you gave her your number and email address. While 6 years is quite an age gap, it's not the worst people have made work out. At most she might seem like a little sister (and I dunno if you've read Oreimo or not).
Try it out. If it doesn't work then C'est La Vie. You don't really have much to risk other than potential heartbreak, and that in itself is a risk everyone has to take for a relationship.
Look at the top of this page.
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If she's really 18, I don't see why not. I feel pretty much the same as you, but from the opposite end. I'm 19 and the guy I like is 26. I've been asking myself questions like "does he take me seriously even though I'm much younger?", "would he prefer an older girl versus me?", and it has been driving me crazy.
But my advice would be to make it clear to her that you've been thinking and are uncomfortable with the age gap. Maybe she feels the same as you do. You just met each other after all, so it isn't anything to worry about. See how things go! Me, I'm into older guys because of personal preference and not because I think the guys my age are too immature (I like immaturity, even!), but who knows. Everyone is different.
But my advice would be to make it clear to her that you've been thinking and are uncomfortable with the age gap. Maybe she feels the same as you do. You just met each other after all, so it isn't anything to worry about. See how things go! Me, I'm into older guys because of personal preference and not because I think the guys my age are too immature (I like immaturity, even!), but who knows. Everyone is different.
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Age should have no bearing, she can make her own decisions. If you and her are attracted to each other, go for it!
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It's not a bad idea, she's the one who started talking to you she knows what she wants. hmm maybe she's a little nervous about it, why dont you tell her how you feel?
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I already fucked it up. One of the last things I said to her was "does your dad know where you are?" That probably communicated to her that I just didn't take her seriously and wasn't interested. She really did seem annoyed with me for asking that. Even if I didn't want to go any further with her I shouldn't have said that.
It doesn't matter. Like I said I felt no connection and I didn't really find her attractive.
Anyway it's been two days and I haven't talked to her. I think it's for the best that I just let this die.
I only share my feelings with people I trust.
It doesn't matter. Like I said I felt no connection and I didn't really find her attractive.
Anyway it's been two days and I haven't talked to her. I think it's for the best that I just let this die.
AVALaPetiteMort wrote...
It's not a bad idea, she's the one who started talking to you she knows what she wants. hmm maybe she's a little nervous about it, why dont you tell her how you feel?I only share my feelings with people I trust.
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Second_Prototype wrote...
I already fucked it up. One of the last things I said to her was "does your dad know where you are?"Yep, you fucked it up royally :D. She's 18, not some pre-teen or underaged lol.
But hey, it's a good learning experience for you: You're not one for the younger types.
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Waar
FAKKU Moderator
Dated a girl 10 years my junior. If it sounds like fun go for it, life is too short to avoid it.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
Legal age here is 16. Legal age there is 18. She's 18, legal, and possibly willing, yet you seem to have it in your head that she's jailbait.
The fuck is wrong with you?
Second_Prototype wrote...
I already fucked it up. One of the last things I said to her was "does your dad know where you are?"The fuck is wrong with you?
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Damoz
~Not A User~
*Internet High five*
A legal age girl younger than you is wanting you, i say go for it while you can~
A legal age girl younger than you is wanting you, i say go for it while you can~
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i would completely agree go for it just follow your gut if something feels off just back away there is a tiny gap but its cool but thats ok
Fighting *fist pump*
Fighting *fist pump*
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Gravity cat wrote...
Legal age here is 16. Legal age there is 18. She's 18, legal, and possibly willing, yet you seem to have it in your head that she's jailbait.Second_Prototype wrote...
I already fucked it up. One of the last things I said to her was "does your dad know where you are?"The fuck is wrong with you?
XDDD
I dont see a problem. 18 is completely fine and your not that far off from her age. You're only dating anyway. Its not like she's 15 and throwing herself on you. Just go for it I guess unless you already did fuck it up. xD
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Zakair
Paizuri connoisseur
It depends on your personal morals, she IS legal, but at the same time, she's so young. I'm actually in an equivalent situation with a friend of mine who is 23, with me freshly turning 18. She wants to date, but at the same time, we want to wait until the age difference dwindles. Technically, you're not wrong. You could change this girl's life, if you show her how a good relationship is. Same how I did with my ex. I showed her just what a loving relationship was. Now, maybe she'll reveal herself to be a really great girl; one that you're willing to go after. Give her a whirl, if you want. There isn't any harm in trying.
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Hint: The age difference will never 'dwindle', you two are gonna be 5 years apart. If ya wanna date, then go date :). Age is nothing but a number, once you get past all the legalities.
