Should I tell her?

So Basically there is this girl that I have been in love with for almost a year now( and I've known her for 4) and though I've been trying to take things slowly and trying to get her to fall for me little by little, I think I've come to a dead end with this. True, we've gotten closer over these last few months and have even been rumored to already be a couple, but she either doesn't seem to notice my feelings for her( which I find hard to believe) or she just wants to completely ignore them. I've been invited to her home for dinner many times now and even her mother and brother seem notice my feelings and approve of me being with her. Still she just sees me as a friend and doesn't notice my "more than friendly" feelings for her. She will be leaving for college soon and since it will be in another city, I will not see her again until she comes back for vacation or a holiday.

So I have decided to finally tell her directly how I feel before she leaves and I loose contact with her. Normally , this would only a nerve-wrecking thing to do but in this situation it could also be a bad thing because she doesn't take confessions easily. In all the time that I have known her, she has had 7 people ask her out...only to be torn to shreds by her ruthless rejections. Every single guy got rejected almost immediately after the confession. Some of them were like me: Started off as her friends and then fell in love with her.

The thing that worries me( and the thing I want you guys to help me with) is that after the confession, she never talked to those guys again and I'm afraid that if I tell her, she will reject me and I will never be able to talk to her again. This worries me but I still feel that I have to tell her how I feel, no matter what the consequences might be(which I'm sure wont be good).

Before I do, however, I'd Like to ask you guys at Fakku...Should I tell Her?

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Edit: Well guys, I've decided to tell her. I asked her out on a date for this Friday and she accepted. I'll be taking her to some of her favorite places and maybe to watch a movie. I'll make sure she has a great time and when I drop her off at her house, that's when I'll tell her. I'm hoping for the best and thanks for the great advice guys, I really appreciate it. Wish me luck!

You should do it man. Even if she rejects you, you can't keep walking through life not taking chances take the gamble man.

If it's bugging you enough to write to us about it, TELL THEM! :3

Telling isnt easy. It especially isnt easy if your friends know her and her friends know you. Now, you can choose. I would tell her if I really liked someone. I mean REALLY liked. Im talkin bout as far as marriage here. Ive failed tho hahaha.

My fellow brother that fights the war called love.
Tell her how you feel. If you don't you will be haunted by what could have been for the rest of your life. You must approach with caution. Take her out for a date. After displaying your feelings to her through your actions of the date finally tell her.
hopefully she will she that you are the one for her. If not then to bad for her from what you tell me she might live a lonely life if she rejects so many advances.

I wish you luck my friend that you succeed.

+1 rep to you my friend. That is something ill think about the next time I like someone.

Go For it nothing to lose if shes moving anyway!

=_= Tell her. Trust me when I say that waiting to say what you feel is worse than actually confessing. Im in a similar situation to yours and Ive taken way to long and now this summer she's moving away due to something family related. Dont hurt yourself by postponing this, just do it and dont end up like me.

in my humble opinion...tell her...maybe she rejects all of those guys because she wants you to tell your feelings to her...just think positive...good luck...

Tell Her. Don't be like me man...you do not want this.

In one way, it seems like she's waiting for one certain person to ask her out. *Raises one eyebrow*

If you don't get what I mean, I think there's a chance she may be waiting for the certain people (YOU, YOU OBVIOUSLY YOU!!) to ask her.


The answer is YES.
Who knows what will happen, but honestly, does the answer really matter?

If you tell her, you will get the answer to the question you've been asking yourself for the past year.

If you don't tell her, that question will be remained and you will then regret why you didn't ask her.

It is best to tell someone how you feel directly. That is the most honest, and maybe the best way to start out a relationship.

Well Good Luck! I hope you listen to me and most of the users on this thread ;)

It all depends on your true intentions. is sex more important than her friendship?

perhaps she is so afraid of rejection she feels it's safer to strike first. perhaps she's gay and waiting until collage to explore, and/or come out. perhaps she's been waiting for you all along(don't count on it).

time for some covert recon. 'randomly' bring up the ripping apart of confessors. i would first drop a hint about a friend who liked someone*, but say that after seeing the way she reacted, it's too scary. then, ask her why she's so cruel and final. subtlety is key. choose your words carefuly, or she might see through it, take it as a confession, and then destroy you.

maybe even go back to Jr. high style and have someone else ask her who she likes/would want to date.

[size=10]*details are important. you must be ready with real names. she should know who at least one of them is, and that it is a secret and to keep quiet about it.[/h]

You should confess! You will only regret it later if you don't(trust me, it has happened to me and I regret it dearly). Even if you get rejected you will still have the answers that you sought after.

And about the rejection and breaking contact thing, if she is a true friend she will not break contact with you :)

I'll be rooting for you.

Go for it man. You won't get the girl by just procrastinating things.

Who knows, maybe it's like GoodDay said and she's waiting for you to ask her out, just cross your fingers and hope for the best.

Well guys, I've decided to tell her. I asked her out on a date for this Friday and she accepted. I'll be taking her to some of her favorite places and maybe to watch a movie. I'll make sure she has a great time and when I drop her off at her house, that's when I'll tell her. I'm hoping for the best and thanks for the great advice guys, I really appreciate it. Wish me luck!