Should I tell her?
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Umm after reading that... it all depends on your structure. The question isn't should you confess, but rather can you take a rejection and possible termination of a friendship. If the answer is yes then go for it, if no then drop it.
Life is all about taking risks, if it wasn't, we wouldn't be here today. The choice is all yours once you can confirm if you can deal with heartbreak and rejection. And let me tell you, heartbreak is one of the most, if not, the most emotionally painful thing you can feel. The only thing I can think of that hurts more is loving someone and never telling them always wondering what could have happened for the rest of your life. You have your two routes, think my question over and what I have said and the final decision is up to you.
Edit: ok, so you just posted right before I typed this mini wall of text.
Lol, Good luck on your date, don't mess up :P
Life is all about taking risks, if it wasn't, we wouldn't be here today. The choice is all yours once you can confirm if you can deal with heartbreak and rejection. And let me tell you, heartbreak is one of the most, if not, the most emotionally painful thing you can feel. The only thing I can think of that hurts more is loving someone and never telling them always wondering what could have happened for the rest of your life. You have your two routes, think my question over and what I have said and the final decision is up to you.
Edit: ok, so you just posted right before I typed this mini wall of text.
Lol, Good luck on your date, don't mess up :P
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744268 wrote...
Well guys, I've decided to tell her. I asked her out on a date for this Friday and she accepted. I'll be taking her to some of her favorite places and maybe to watch a movie. I'll make sure she has a great time and when I drop her off at her house, that's when I'll tell her. I'm hoping for the best and thanks for the great advice guys, I really appreciate it. Wish me luck!Congratz man. Here's hoping you don't screw up the date~
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744268 wrote...
Edit: Well guys, I've decided to tell her. I asked her out on a date for this Friday and she accepted. I'll be taking her to some of her favorite places and maybe to watch a movie. I'll make sure she has a great time and when I drop her off at her house, that's when I'll tell her. I'm hoping for the best and thanks for the great advice guys, I really appreciate it. Wish me luck!
just as I thought..she's wating for you..good luck...
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If you want some further encouragement I keep my best friend at arms length for 14 years! I didn't want to be the only one to say it out loud and he's horrifyingly shy but I could tell. I got sick of waiting and dated an idiot for a while just to force it out of him. It failed miserable the patient nut just wouldn't crack. So I sprung a hypothetical "what if" on him and squeezed the confession outta him.
Now were married and he's still the same and I'm still wringing things outta him. Long story short: No doubt she's waiting for you if she's bringing YOU ho,e to the family and telling YOU how she rejected 7 guys she's waiting for YOU to say something. Girls are weird, shy, violent and sneaky things we'll wait forever for the right one even if their to scared to say it.
Good luck dude she been patiently waiting.
Now were married and he's still the same and I'm still wringing things outta him. Long story short: No doubt she's waiting for you if she's bringing YOU ho,e to the family and telling YOU how she rejected 7 guys she's waiting for YOU to say something. Girls are weird, shy, violent and sneaky things we'll wait forever for the right one even if their to scared to say it.
Good luck dude she been patiently waiting.
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Well..I told her. Unfortunately, while she accepted my feelings, she said that she did not want me as her boyfriend. She said that she thought that it would be best if we could just stay friends for a while. That maybe in the future she might consider it but for now we should not date. I'm really not sure how to feel right about now. My feelings are all mixed up right now and I don't know what to think. It's a bitter-sweet feeling of sadness due to the fact that she doesn't want me as her boyfriend, and a some relief due to the fact that I finally told her. Unlike the other guys, I wasn't ripped apart and she still wants me to talk to her even though it is only as friends. I'm not sure what this means( if it means anything at all). It's been 3 days since I told her and I'm still in a kind of daze so sorry if some parts of this post don't make sense. I just felt like telling this to somebody that doesn't know her directly and you guys were my best option for that. I hope it doesn't seem like I'm here to mourn or something.
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744268 wrote...
Well..I told her. Unfortunately, while she accepted my feelings, she said that she did not want me as her boyfriend. She said that she thought that it would be best if we could just stay friends for a while. That maybe in the future she might consider it but for now we should not date. I'm really not sure how to feel right about now. My feelings are all mixed up right now and I don't know what to think. It's a bitter-sweet feeling of sadness due to the fact that she doesn't want me as her boyfriend, and a some relief due to the fact that I finally told her. Unlike the other guys, I wasn't ripped apart and she still wants me to talk to her even though it is only as friends. I'm not sure what this means( if it means anything at all).
It's been 3 days since I told her and I'm still in a kind of daze so sorry if some parts of this post don't make sense. I just felt like telling this to somebody that doesn't know her directly and you guys were my best option for that. I hope it doesn't seem like I'm here to mourn or something.
Aww... Hey, good job, first off! It takes guts to confess. :)
And you haven't been turned down entirely! Hell, my boyfriend turned ME down at first saying he'd rather just be friends, but later totally went back on that!
It's possible, but don't focus all your thoughts on her for the meantime. Do what she says: be a friend. If she sees you're a worthy male friend, she's probably also considering you as bf-material. :3