So does nice guy = gay?
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Oh boy, where to start. Ever since middle school I've had EXTREMELY bad luck with women. I managed to get lucky and date a few girls but it never worked out due to them cheating on me. Because of that I've been single for the past two years or so, focusing on things like school, gaming, friends, etc, and not worrying too much about a relationship.
What sparked this thread, was the fact that I had a friend tell me about 10 minutes ago that he had a crush on me and was asking me questions about how big my dick is, etc. I told him that I'm straight and let him down nicely. This isn't the first time something like this has happened either, I was hanging out with another friend who I haven't seen in a while that wanted me to give him a blowjob just to see if he liked it and wanted to confirm if he was bisexual or not, although I have had girls tell me their feelings too, so I know it's not just gays that are interested in me. I know it's not a generalization or anything, but this has happened to me twice in a year's timespan and it was just on my mind.
And yes, I have had sex with a woman, mildly enjoyed it(because it was my first time and I had no clue how to make her feel good), fap to straight/yuri/lesbian porn and hentai, for all you trolls out there.
What sparked this thread, was the fact that I had a friend tell me about 10 minutes ago that he had a crush on me and was asking me questions about how big my dick is, etc. I told him that I'm straight and let him down nicely. This isn't the first time something like this has happened either, I was hanging out with another friend who I haven't seen in a while that wanted me to give him a blowjob just to see if he liked it and wanted to confirm if he was bisexual or not, although I have had girls tell me their feelings too, so I know it's not just gays that are interested in me. I know it's not a generalization or anything, but this has happened to me twice in a year's timespan and it was just on my mind.
And yes, I have had sex with a woman, mildly enjoyed it(because it was my first time and I had no clue how to make her feel good), fap to straight/yuri/lesbian porn and hentai, for all you trolls out there.
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lmao!!!!! your friend reveals his mancrush and then goes straight into (pause) asking you how big your dick is?
and then you have another friend that just out of the blue asks you for a blow job?
thats not just you being a nice guy, you might be doing other things that make them think you might be gay.that might be why you are so unlucky with women and have so many gay friends.
I have had gay friends and associates myself and none have ever crossed THAT line before lol.
just take a step back and look you might carry yourself in a way that might lead them to think your homosexual.
and then you have another friend that just out of the blue asks you for a blow job?
thats not just you being a nice guy, you might be doing other things that make them think you might be gay.that might be why you are so unlucky with women and have so many gay friends.
I have had gay friends and associates myself and none have ever crossed THAT line before lol.
just take a step back and look you might carry yourself in a way that might lead them to think your homosexual.
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Quick answer no.
Long Answer, it does not make you gay but in your instance it apparently just makes you more attractive to both genders or more likely your personality. But the real question is; Is this causing you to question your own sexuality? If no then no real problem other than a awkward situation. If Yes then you have to explore for that answer for yourself, and go with what feels right for you.
Long Answer, it does not make you gay but in your instance it apparently just makes you more attractive to both genders or more likely your personality. But the real question is; Is this causing you to question your own sexuality? If no then no real problem other than a awkward situation. If Yes then you have to explore for that answer for yourself, and go with what feels right for you.
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Firstbornnyc wrote...
lmao!!!!! your friend reveals his mancrush and then goes straight into (pause) asking you how big your dick is?and then you have another friend that just out of the blue asks you for a blow job?
thats not just you being a nice guy, you might be doing other things that make them think you might be gay.that might be why you are so unlucky with women and have so many gay friends.
I have had gay friends and associates myself and none have ever crossed THAT line before lol.
just take a step back and look you might carry yourself in a way that might lead them to think your homosexual.
That actually brings up a point, aside from a few people I've never really flat out told people that I have dated girls before. If someone wants to know then they can just ask me themselves. But yeah, not like I do act gay or anything around people, I'm just a little antisocial. Will definately keep that last part in mind.
The Other Guy wrote...
Quick answer no.Long Answer, it does not make you gay but in your instance it apparently just makes you more attractive to both genders or more likely your personality. But the real question is; Is this causing you to question your own sexuality? If no then no real problem other than a awkward situation. If Yes then you have to explore for that answer for yourself, and go with what feels right for you.
No, I've known for years that I never feel anything for people that are the same gender as me. I'm friendly to pretty much everyone I meet and I do my best not to judge them, partly because I have two family members that are bisexual and partly because it's just something I believe in.
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Answer, no. On some other notes. lol your friends, turn them down nicely. Also, you consider what you have "bad Luck" lol. I can name myself+ a few people who I know has much worse luck than you.
Either way, I would say that two years really isn't that long of a time. If you have a lot of extra things/hobbies to do it passes fast.
On an unrelated note, Mitsuru is AWESOME. Favorite character out of those in P3. Barely beats out Aigis though...
Either way, I would say that two years really isn't that long of a time. If you have a lot of extra things/hobbies to do it passes fast.
On an unrelated note, Mitsuru is AWESOME. Favorite character out of those in P3. Barely beats out Aigis though...
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Lughost
the Lugoat
Nah, bro, it just means people think you're gay. This kind of thing has never happened to me and I play the nice guy role from time to time.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
No, being nice does not equal to being gay. Your friends are either tripping, or from some combination of the attitude and looks, they think you're gay.
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ToyManC
Forgot my safe word
Similar things have happened to me, mostly because I've always been rather shy about approaching women I like. And since people don't see you flirting, they either assume you are already taken, or gay.
As a perfect example of the 'Nice Guy,' I am also more often put in the friend zone, rather than considered as a boyfriend material. This, unfortunately, makes many women also think you must be gay. For some reason, women seem to like collecting gay friends.
I would suggest a few subtle changes that will help alter their perceptions, without having to change your image too drastically. If you are with your friends, make a point to notice nearby women where they can observe it. A casual look and an admiring gaze should suffice, without being overtly chauvinistic. Your gay friends will quickly get the hint, and it will likely become a non-issue.
Feel free to be a 'Nice Guy,' but be prepared for having to fight your way free of the friend zone. Work on your flirting skills, and keep putting yourself out there until the right woman decides to check out what you have to offer.
As a perfect example of the 'Nice Guy,' I am also more often put in the friend zone, rather than considered as a boyfriend material. This, unfortunately, makes many women also think you must be gay. For some reason, women seem to like collecting gay friends.
I would suggest a few subtle changes that will help alter their perceptions, without having to change your image too drastically. If you are with your friends, make a point to notice nearby women where they can observe it. A casual look and an admiring gaze should suffice, without being overtly chauvinistic. Your gay friends will quickly get the hint, and it will likely become a non-issue.
Feel free to be a 'Nice Guy,' but be prepared for having to fight your way free of the friend zone. Work on your flirting skills, and keep putting yourself out there until the right woman decides to check out what you have to offer.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
I'm a nice guy, or at least I try to be, and I've had offers from "those inclined" before. I'm also often placed into the Friend Zone. That, coupled with a string of horrid relationships which I seem to like bitching about, right now I just wanna take a break from relationships and just focus on friendships instead. Because women be bitches, although not all.
The right one will come eventually.
The right one will come eventually.
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Nope. If it did, all sensible women seeking kind partners would be either lesbians or have unrequited love. It's just that gays are given the stereotype of being kind and helpful, so anyone who isn't a jackass or neutral may be considered gay solely for that reason.
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Does being nice equal having romantic/sexual interests in the same sex?
No. Not at all. It could coincide, but it's not the causation.
No. Not at all. It could coincide, but it's not the causation.
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Lol Then I guess I must be a straight up homosexual.
No man, the fact you're a nice dude means that you're just a nice dude. Nothing more, nothing less.
No man, the fact you're a nice dude means that you're just a nice dude. Nothing more, nothing less.
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Your buddy asked how big your dick is?
That's not very romantic.
I think you just hang around with the most interesting people.
I don't think being nice means you're a homosexual.
That's not very romantic.
I think you just hang around with the most interesting people.
I don't think being nice means you're a homosexual.
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NO.
The fags I know aren't even that nice.
Maybe you just appeared to be a little less masculine to those who proclaim themselves as a "true man"
Anyways, you're doing fine.
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I've had plenty of gay friends, though curiously none have ever wanted some of me lol.
I have had the occassional random homosexual man try to hit on me in various situations; the boldest one actually wanting me to come and "play" at his house the very first day we met. I let him know that I'm straight and that he should push the idea out of his head. He made it clear all he wanted was my booty (the nerve! lol).
So anyway, NICE is NOT = GAY. You can be a nice person and be straight, or a douche and gay. Flavors are varied and suited to all tastes.
I have had the occassional random homosexual man try to hit on me in various situations; the boldest one actually wanting me to come and "play" at his house the very first day we met. I let him know that I'm straight and that he should push the idea out of his head. He made it clear all he wanted was my booty (the nerve! lol).
So anyway, NICE is NOT = GAY. You can be a nice person and be straight, or a douche and gay. Flavors are varied and suited to all tastes.
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As many of the other people have already said being nice does not make you gay. These people might have been attracted to you duo to how you are and the way you are being nice but theres nothing wrong with that.
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You might be behaving not just 'nicely' so to speak, but ambiguously. But in my experience, people do confuse those who are extremely nice as gay. Also... this is more of a personal subjective observation, but it also depends a lot on how you look. The more 'manly' you look, the more likely people are to misconstrue your nicety as you being homosexual.
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devsonfire
3,000,000th Poster
I've been playing the nice guy route from time to time and of course thanks to that some ended up seeing me only as a friend, which hurts but at least they don't think of me as a nuisance, but no man. It's just they thought you were gay, nothing more.
