Virgin guys?
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So....I guess might be going out this guy [It's complicated and irrelevant] As you guys may have concluded from the title he's a virgin [If not you did not meet the intelligence requirement and should leave]. Thus he is unskillful in some area, such as kissing. He's fine if we're just kissing but once we start making out and his hormones skyrocket, my face pretty much gets mauled.
So virgin guys [non may also answer]:
If you were the guy [stated above] what would you want me to do?
1. Stop mid-making out and tell you.
2. Tell you later when your back to regular hormone levels.
3. Give you subtle hints [A.k.a sending links such as "how to french kiss"]
4. Other? [if then you need to give me an alt]
Moi helping to practice is a given in all these choices.
Part Two: Would your feelings\ego get hurt if I told you straight up that you need to improve your kissing skills?
[I'm pretty damn straight forward usually, but seeing that I seem to genuinely like this guy I'm being more considerate / I'm being unusually shy...<- This fact also pisses me off].
So virgin guys [non may also answer]:
If you were the guy [stated above] what would you want me to do?
1. Stop mid-making out and tell you.
2. Tell you later when your back to regular hormone levels.
3. Give you subtle hints [A.k.a sending links such as "how to french kiss"]
4. Other? [if then you need to give me an alt]
Moi helping to practice is a given in all these choices.
Part Two: Would your feelings\ego get hurt if I told you straight up that you need to improve your kissing skills?
[I'm pretty damn straight forward usually, but seeing that I seem to genuinely like this guy I'm being more considerate / I'm being unusually shy...<- This fact also pisses me off].
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1. Stop mid-making out and tell you.
Be straight up with that kind of stuff, I hate when broads beat around the bush. (Not necessarily rude though)
That's your responsibility kitten.
Be straight up with that kind of stuff, I hate when broads beat around the bush. (Not necessarily rude though)
BLACK-Y wrote...
Part Two: Would your feelings\ego get hurt if I told you straight up that you need to improve your kissing skills? That's your responsibility kitten.
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A variation of the first option. Don't be brutally blunt about it, just let him understand that he should go easier on it.
Part 2: I'm pretty sure I would. Again, go easy on him, he should adapt to the pace sooner or later.
Part 2: I'm pretty sure I would. Again, go easy on him, he should adapt to the pace sooner or later.
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Tegumi
"im always cute"
Badguy wrote...
BLACK-Y wrote...
Part Two: Would your feelings\ego get hurt if I told you straight up that you need to improve your kissing skills? That's your responsibility kitten.
Uh? If you were on the one who wanted your significant other to tell you straight up that your kissing was overzealous, and she did so, why is it her responsibility if your feelings get hurt? (Also, you didn't directly address the question.)
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I am a girl, but I would tell the guy later when we are back to regular hormone levels and sometimes in mid make out.The stop mid make out only happens when its going to fast or I can't breathe. Afterward I would say it nicely in a calm voice say first all the things I like and then after that, I point out some stuff that I didn't like. and if he gets mad then he gets mad but then usually they get over it because they want to make out with you again and they end up using your advise anyway. I had that happen to me but maybe its cause it gets passionate and hot and heavy too quickly and they want to please us and forget about some basics sometimes. just a thought though.
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I'm a guy.
And i appreciate it when my fellow kissing and whatnot couplings go ahead and tell me what they like or not like.. what i should try and improve on - or generally show me ways to pleasure her / us both even more.
Remember.. His Pleasure will surely be yours to take.. and to give.. and to take.. and.. LOOK A DOUBLE RAINBOW!! :D
Seriously, learn to use your mouth.. for smth it's meant to be used ;)
And i appreciate it when my fellow kissing and whatnot couplings go ahead and tell me what they like or not like.. what i should try and improve on - or generally show me ways to pleasure her / us both even more.
Remember.. His Pleasure will surely be yours to take.. and to give.. and to take.. and.. LOOK A DOUBLE RAINBOW!! :D
Seriously, learn to use your mouth.. for smth it's meant to be used ;)
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
It part of being a cherry... eventually he will learn who to kiss and other stuff he need to do later... try to lead in the kissing deptment or make him watch romance movies to learn something... avoid pron it can fuck up in the non sex situation.
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Just tell him straight up, then show him the way you want him to do it. It's a lot more effective than trying to work your way around, and he learns from it too.
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Option 1.
Option 2 might give the impression that you're nagging. Whereas Option 3 is utterly futile; even experienced guys have trouble clueing in. For a virgin, those hints may as well be written in upside-down Chinese Braille read backwards.
Of course, this does vary from person to person- but I myself can be terribly blunt sometimes- so if a girl were to tell me right to my face that I'm way left field, I'd just take it in stride and try something else.
Option 2 might give the impression that you're nagging. Whereas Option 3 is utterly futile; even experienced guys have trouble clueing in. For a virgin, those hints may as well be written in upside-down Chinese Braille read backwards.
Of course, this does vary from person to person- but I myself can be terribly blunt sometimes- so if a girl were to tell me right to my face that I'm way left field, I'd just take it in stride and try something else.
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Practice makes perfect right?
Personally, I wouldn't say anything. Not because I don't think you should, but I'd handle the situation by trying to slow down the kissing and sorta take the lead with softer and slower kisses. If they are really bad, like smashing your teeth, I'd put my hand behind or on the side of their head and pull or push them.
He'll learn to adapt because these kisses should be more pleasurable and he'll want to have kisses like that again.
But if he is doing weird things like sucking on your chin or licking your eyelids, seek profesional help.
Personally, I wouldn't say anything. Not because I don't think you should, but I'd handle the situation by trying to slow down the kissing and sorta take the lead with softer and slower kisses. If they are really bad, like smashing your teeth, I'd put my hand behind or on the side of their head and pull or push them.
He'll learn to adapt because these kisses should be more pleasurable and he'll want to have kisses like that again.
But if he is doing weird things like sucking on your chin or licking your eyelids, seek profesional help.
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
neko-chan wrote...
But if he is doing weird things like sucking on your chin or licking your eyelids, seek profesional help.
O_o im not sure if this can or would happen outside of that 70's show or some other funny tv show, but to each his own.
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Ummm yeah. Thank god he's not that bad. He doesn't smash my teeth or lick my eyelids[okay seriously WTF?] Anyways...
No, no one is going to learn kissing skills from pr0n, terrible idea.
@Neko: your suggestion makes the most sense to me, but I think it's because your a girl, and this is how girl logic works....but I think most of the guys agree that I should just tell him straight up. Plus, what if he does like mauling my face? Then its never going to get better for me at least.
I guess I shall try tomorrow....
No, no one is going to learn kissing skills from pr0n, terrible idea.
@Neko: your suggestion makes the most sense to me, but I think it's because your a girl, and this is how girl logic works....but I think most of the guys agree that I should just tell him straight up. Plus, what if he does like mauling my face? Then its never going to get better for me at least.
I guess I shall try tomorrow....
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Well even if you do tell him, does he even have the capablity to have sloppy make-outs without assualting your face? He might just say, "oh, I'm that bad?" an then not know what to do to make it better. That is why I thought you should just show him. You can do both I guess.
My advice though is to basically train him, everyone does it anyways. You learn to kiss better the longer you kiss someone since you get familar with their subtle movements and you two eventually meld. You just might need to speed up the process.
My advice though is to basically train him, everyone does it anyways. You learn to kiss better the longer you kiss someone since you get familar with their subtle movements and you two eventually meld. You just might need to speed up the process.
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I may not be experienced enough to provide any good advice, but perhaps you should attempt to take the lead while making out. Tell the other party your preferences and what turns you on instead of doing things his way.
Communication is a key to making relationships work... and perhaps leading to good sex too.
Communication is a key to making relationships work... and perhaps leading to good sex too.
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Ughhh I don't even want to think about sex. Wrong site to rant about not wanting have sex, but I shalt rant. I've always found it interesting that at least with girls(IMO, and experience) when you actually like the guy you don't want to immediately have sex with them. I hope to perhaps in the future, if I do come to love him that much, but at this point I am not even going to think about it.
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You obviously didn't read the post above well. I don't plan to...............yet.
Thus not thinking about it.
Thus not thinking about it.
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BLACK-Y wrote...
You obviously didn't read the post above well. I don't plan to...............yet.Thus not thinking about it.
No I read it... I'm just giving you another reason not to do it yet.
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[color=blue]I'm a girl, but my advice would also be that you should just tell him. It's more of a problem of him not being able to control himself than him being a virgin. Not that I have a lot of experience with virgin guys, but I can imagine not all of them having an insane untamed lust. (although part of that is pretty hot)
What I'm saying is that you should tell him that he should back down a bit. Maybe it's a good idea to take some sort of dominant role in kissing once to show him how it should be done. You probably had more experience kissing so it's smart to lead the way yourself and let him follow. If he's a good guy, he'll probably see what you mean and find it much more enjoyable.[/color]
What I'm saying is that you should tell him that he should back down a bit. Maybe it's a good idea to take some sort of dominant role in kissing once to show him how it should be done. You probably had more experience kissing so it's smart to lead the way yourself and let him follow. If he's a good guy, he'll probably see what you mean and find it much more enjoyable.[/color]
