What would you do if you were the subject of "NTR"?

Couldn't figure out how to word the title. I apologize for that... I'm also sure this kind of thread will be a sore spot for a lot of people... unfortunately, my curiosity will probably kill me at some point...

From my understanding so far, "NTR" (netorare) happens when two people are in a loving relationship, then an interloper comes in and attempts to steal one of them away from the other...

Now suppose you're in a relationship (if you're not in one already). You two have what you think is a strong bond between each other.

Now here comes another person who's looking at you two... except this person is looking at YOU specifically. This person happens to be your perfect type, has all the qualities (and then some) that you've always wanted in a lover, seems better than your current lover in every single way. And now they've expressed interest in YOU.

At its mildest, this person will befriend both of you and slowly convince you that he/she is better than the person you're currently with. At worst, they'll find a way to take you by "force" (blackmail, forced intimacy, etc...) and do everything they can possibly do to break you until you finally acknowledge that they're better than your current lover, causing you to break off your current relationship in favor of the interloper.

When and how do you think you'll react? Do you think you'll be able to figure out what's going on before things get too far? And how do you think your lover will react if they can clearly see what's going on? Or what would you do if a friend comes in and tries to warn you (because that friend can see what's going on while the interloper has blinded you to their actions)?

I would probably notice before it goes too far.. i can usually tell when somebody likes me xD and i'll try my best to reject any advances from them..

But, if my girlfriend saw me in that situation, she would probably lose it.. either, rush in and break something one of our heads, or just sit in the shadows crying, silently.. then break up with me and never speak to me again...

But, given if it was the other way around (the gf got the interloper) i would have to say, i'd probably figure it out before it happened.. but if not, and i came and saw them in the act, i'd get really cut.. probably do one of two things: A) Enter and rage and do stuffs (eg: WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TWO DOING *flips a table* I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME etc etc) OR B) sit in the corners, run away, never talk to her, leave her to feel like shit for cheating.. as i told her, if she were to ever cheat, i'd probably drop everything, and move to the mainland, and never see her again. things would be over... y'know.. I imagine her side would be the same :D

Or she'd be wise about what's going on and counter her by warning you that she may be up to no good... Or not. You know here better than I ever will.. :)

She probably would, yeah lol. just saying if she didn't xD

If my girlfriend is happier with someone else, I'll let her go, no hard feelings. It has never happened and I don't think it ever will.

Besides, you should able to spot something like this coming from a mile away. When you're close with someone, any change in behaviour is very noticeable.

First rule of relationships: Don't cheat.
Second rule of relationships: Don't break up unless you have a good reason to dislike your current lover.

Don't be a moron, please. If you follow these rules you'll stay out of trouble.

But what if it happens to YOU? I mean... what if someone came in from the outside and tried to entice you into hooking up with them and dumping your girlfriend? That's basically the question I'm asking here. :)

It's only NTR if i care if my woman is fucking another person.. vice versa on the other...

blow up the house there doing it in and laugh like a psychopath >:D
jk id rage and cut off his balls, later break up with her

Catherine


Does this game explain your general scenario?


Hm...

Also, If this happened to me, I have to think, if you truly loved the girl you are with, then there are no problems, but if I had thoughts of cheating on her, I'd tell her before doing anything stupid that could destroy what we have and depending on what she says, I would act upon; because we all have those days where the grass is greener.

Seriously the first thing I thought when I read the OP

Can't blame ya, the ending is very unusual. It was basically

If it's that easy to tempt me away emotionally, there was probably something significantly wrong with the relationship to begin with. My attachment to the current relationship is probably not worth the future hassle. That being said, the new person is obviously not going to be showing their true face and that relationship is probably destined for the toilet as well.

The truth... You speak it well.

What she said. Seriously, if I wanted to be stolen from my relationship by someone I find more interesting than my current lover, then I wouldn't be in the relationship in the first place. If simple interest in women was my only goal, I'd wear a suit everyday and remain single.

So, yeah, as tempting as it would be, a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, as long as I'm still happy with that bird. If I ever broke this trust and went with the interloper (worst case scenario, of course), I wouldn't be surprised if she never even wanted to see me again, let alone just break up. That would put me on a guilt trip, and I do not cope well with guilt. At. All.

If that's the case, things of this nature has happened before, but it's easy to stop it before anything develops. I'm only in a relationship if my partner can satisfy all my needs. Under these conditions, I'm not receptive to that kind of female attention from others. Besides, it's easy to spot a person with an agenda. There is always a reason to why someone is paying a lot of attention to you.

I would stay with my current relationship, unless I have doubts about it

I had a moment when I felt a little like this.
There was a guy I was friends with and found super cute, but was already in a relationship with another guy on campus.
We three would always hang out in the same group anyway, so I always was fine with just having him as a friend. We'd all hang out in my bf's room and play video games and such almost each day.

One time, it was after lunch and the guy and I decided to head to my bf's room to hang out with him. We couldn't get into the room because it was locked and he was out, so we were let in by their neighbors in the adjoining dorm room. We get in there, and my bf's roommate is sleeping as usual lol.

We were kinda laughing about it and horsing around a bit and I considered that hey, this guy would be awesome to fool around with.
But then I realized I could probably never handle having done something like that and live with it... plus, I'm not sure the affection was mutual.
If it were... well, maybe NTR may have happened. D;

If I'm the one cheating, knowing the girls I know, I would probably get excommunicated. Probably be in the hospital for a few days.

If she's the one cheating, I would probably just immediately stop the relationship and see what is up with her. Completely excommunicate even the other person if they are a very close friend.

I'm the slow-quiet girl type, so that person would probably get really close to me as a friend and then take advantage of me when I least expected it. (It's a miracle I know this as my weakness, thank you Hentai and Manga.)
So... Hopefully my boyfriend would swoop in and save me (if he has the balls to admit we're actually in a relationship, no matter how much I know he loves me. <3;;)

What would I do though if he didn't... hm. I'd probably try to become really detestable in his (the person trying to NTR me? How to describe this...) eyes. For example, doing things I normally wouldn't that would disgust or anger the person that liked me. Maybe that would scare them off temporarily so I could talk it out with my boyfriend, and we could tackle it together...

But if it's hentai, then yeah, I'm screwed.