Your #1 courting tip? (or myth debunk?)

I so wanna call bullshit on this.

Sorry man, but I ain't lying. I'm a foreigner in Japan. You instantly go up, like, 100 points on the attractive-ness meter. On that same walk, a girl on a bike stopped me and asked if she could take my picture.

Well, it would be the same here in the Philippines most probably. Foreigners are wanted here as husbands LOL well most of the female population here want a foreigner.

That's it, its my life's mission now to go Japan and then Philippines...
/drumroll music
/me walking away in sunset whit a single mantear.

Don't be a prick.
Be yourself but also be nice.
Not everyone will like you.

I'm with you, time to start saving those pennies. Oh, and get a passport.

Whip it out first date. Always works.

Bitches love to be called nice things.

This is so true. But if a guy suggested to watch a horror movie, I would just back out to begin with.. I am the biggest chicken when it comes to scary movies, and I'd cling to him so much that he'd probably shoo me away. Not to mention the fact that if he decided to play a trick on me and scare me, I would probably start crying. I hate scary movies...

I agree milkpocky! I don't like going on dates with scary movies. Its only makes me feel like not going. The time I have I felt embarrassed for jumping in my seat at noises. I never felt a need to cling to anyone during it either ! Although I have known a few girls that are lovers of horror movies.

You're wrong.

This may work and may not work. But if it does, you're sure you put the basis for a strong relationship because you won't have to hide anything.

My gf got to know that I was a fucking perv after 1 month of relationship, which started after 2 months that we met for the first time :P

And then she told me that she would sometimes look into furry Pokemon stuff and gore hentais LOL...only after I told her I like hentai with futa, nipple fucking and other stuff :D

If you see a red flag, address it and do so with a quickness. I'm serious, I've overlooked so many red flags because I've been worried about the effects later on and every time I do I end up in a shitty situation. If things genuinely aren't salvageable, don't try, you're better off cutting your losses and taking a life-lesson over the inevitable destruction of an unstable relationship's delay.

hmm... i was talking more on the scale of first - second date. After 1 month time its safe to be yourself. This, as you say will build strong relationship.

And if after month of seeing each other they don't like you then that's just it and its better to move on than trying to act or lie to present yourself as something you are not.

Heck i wouldn't even last 2 weeks of presenting myself as someone im not. Its hard job and not worth it.

Well, I was still myself while dating her. I just thought it was useless to build up a character trying to conquer her.

If I were to conquer her with that character, it would have been impossible to keep the act up forever and everything would have gone to hell once or then.

If a person is not interested in how you really are, what's the point of being with her at all?

Agree

PS: bah rep is disabled, cant plus

Being the TC since this kind of became a conversation, I suppose I should contribute more? I'll just act like these are all dead-critical.

1. If you happen to find yourself in bed with someone who is begging for you to make lots of babies and is not under any influence of any substance, ask yourself, "Did I remember to check what was written beside her name on that plastic bracelet?"

2. Here's a huge one: Learn how to hang out and do nothing. Seriously, it's not possible to emphasize this enough. If you're both the types that read, read together in silence. If it's a hot Summer day and you want nothing more than to bask in the AC, lay on the floor together.

3. Learn how to love through your hands. If you can read that no other way than sexually, this applies especially to you. Yours and your lover's hands are more sensitive than you can imagine, and so are the most important affection tool you have. Learn to show affection nonverbally with your hands by spontaneously taking their hands in both of yours just to look them in the eyes and smile. You don't have to kiss.

Run your hands through your lover's hair, caress their cheek if they're stressed, wrap your arms around them from behind, and just do things that are reminders that you enjoy your time together and feel the desire to show it. You don't have to be constantly making out all the time (nor should you, that's gross), but make no mistake, your hands are something your lover will remember and cherish.

I will just point out that the greatest thing I have ever done with a girl is spontaneously take her hands while we were in a pretty setting and silently lock eyes with her, until she smiled and put her hands on my shoulders and we got as close as possible without kissing. After a time, we quietly continued on our way.