Your Dream Partner
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My dream partner would be some one that has a wide view on the world but has their own views in some form and doesn't think like the rest of society (I think my standard for the way they think seems high but it is actually kind of open).
Looks don't necessarily come into play but it helps for noticing them so I guess some one that tries to look good but not too hard. I'm not sure if my standards are high here because I've never met a lot of girls I fancied.
The only problem I have to ever get a girlfriend is my romanticized view on how a relationship starts. I've always felt a relationship falls in place like you become friends then you eventually fall in love with each other. I never got the idea of asking a girl out then you are in a relationship if she says yes and these kinds of relationships always seem to be with people they don't even know as friends before hand they just sort of know each other through certain circles.
Looks don't necessarily come into play but it helps for noticing them so I guess some one that tries to look good but not too hard. I'm not sure if my standards are high here because I've never met a lot of girls I fancied.
The only problem I have to ever get a girlfriend is my romanticized view on how a relationship starts. I've always felt a relationship falls in place like you become friends then you eventually fall in love with each other. I never got the idea of asking a girl out then you are in a relationship if she says yes and these kinds of relationships always seem to be with people they don't even know as friends before hand they just sort of know each other through certain circles.
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Don't care if you believe me but I was given what I consider proof that they're not alive currently. 'Dream partner' or 'soul mate' by the way, are not terms I think you can define by spouting out a list. It's just something that happens. I would say 'if you're lucky', but I'm not sure I believe in luck either.
Now, actual relationships come down to first, communication, and second, actual follow through. If one or the other doesn't happen, or can't happen, it's doomed. Most relations end because of inability to understand from one or both sides.
Now, actual relationships come down to first, communication, and second, actual follow through. If one or the other doesn't happen, or can't happen, it's doomed. Most relations end because of inability to understand from one or both sides.
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I found my ideal partner, so I'm quite satisfied! He's completely accepting of my perverted side, and doesn't mind that I'm a loud-mouth with a strange sense of humor. He doesn't ask me to 'change' to accommodate him, but rather thinks I am quite fine the way I am. We share plenty of common interests, but also have enough things to expose one another to as well - things we might not have considered beforehand. He is completely loyal, and I never have to worry that he might stray. He is goofy and lighthearted, but can also be strict, mature, and protective when it is necessary which is a trait I have always admired in someone. I like the fact that he balances me out - he is more quiet, considerate, and mathematically/logically inclined then I am while I'm a much louder, cruder, and more passionately, emotionally, artistically, and literary-bound person.
However, we're both able to make terrible jokes and laugh about them together. He has been there for me through thick and thin, but still manages to blush, his soft side coming out as he expresses his genuine feelings for me as though they're still fresh and new - even though he knows my bad, worse, and ugly. We communicate well with each other, and are therefore able to solve our problems diplomatically - compromising where needed, apologizing when it is appropriate to do so, and working to become better people for one another. The fact that we can talk about absolutely anything is really the solid foundation on which everything else has been built.
He is pretty much exactly like the person that I wanted in my life, even if beforehand I didn't know whether to expect my perfect match to be a boy, girl, or something in-between, or outside altogether. I was very dejected, because in past relationships I had to completely change myself in order to please my partner. By the time I found my boyfriend, I was completely resilient to change - I wouldn't! I had a "take me or leave me" attitude, and he embraced that, because I also wanted him to be himself. I was constantly saying - do what you want, say what you want, and let me love you for everything you are. Finding someone who thinks you're beautiful when you first wake up, who will clean your vomit off the carpet after you've had too much to drink and change your clothes for you, who will cheer for your accomplishments and comfort you during your failures, and who will still believe you are a worthwhile, wonderful person who they are proud to be with - that's the kind of person I always wanted.
However, we're both able to make terrible jokes and laugh about them together. He has been there for me through thick and thin, but still manages to blush, his soft side coming out as he expresses his genuine feelings for me as though they're still fresh and new - even though he knows my bad, worse, and ugly. We communicate well with each other, and are therefore able to solve our problems diplomatically - compromising where needed, apologizing when it is appropriate to do so, and working to become better people for one another. The fact that we can talk about absolutely anything is really the solid foundation on which everything else has been built.
He is pretty much exactly like the person that I wanted in my life, even if beforehand I didn't know whether to expect my perfect match to be a boy, girl, or something in-between, or outside altogether. I was very dejected, because in past relationships I had to completely change myself in order to please my partner. By the time I found my boyfriend, I was completely resilient to change - I wouldn't! I had a "take me or leave me" attitude, and he embraced that, because I also wanted him to be himself. I was constantly saying - do what you want, say what you want, and let me love you for everything you are. Finding someone who thinks you're beautiful when you first wake up, who will clean your vomit off the carpet after you've had too much to drink and change your clothes for you, who will cheer for your accomplishments and comfort you during your failures, and who will still believe you are a worthwhile, wonderful person who they are proud to be with - that's the kind of person I always wanted.
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Dream partner, huh? When I was a kid, I knew exactly what I wanted. A shy, bookish, intelligent and shota-ish (I'm a creep) sort of guy. I met one when I was 13. And I was obsessed with him. I openly admitted my feelings to him, grabbed him in the hallways and he thought I was freaky and weird and a pervert (I drew hentai at school as a kid and proudly showed everyone)
Needless to say, he rejected me. Multiple times. He was really sweet about it though, which stupidly enough, only encouraged me more. I could tell he hated me but I didn't want to give up. I don't know. We didn't even talk or hang out or have the same interests. I was just so infatuated with the idea of getting my dream guy that I failed to realize we didn't know each other at all.
I have a boyfriend now. He's intelligent, but not in a bookish way. He has manly features and is nowhere near a shota. But he's perfect. Not perfect in that superficial way I defined "perfect" as a kid. My boyfriend has seen me unattractively rage over petty crap, and fall asleep in the car with my mouth open. And he still thinks the sun shines out of my ass. Whenever I have a problem he's already there, by my side.
That's my dream partner. Someone who's always there, and not just for the pretty bits.
Needless to say, he rejected me. Multiple times. He was really sweet about it though, which stupidly enough, only encouraged me more. I could tell he hated me but I didn't want to give up. I don't know. We didn't even talk or hang out or have the same interests. I was just so infatuated with the idea of getting my dream guy that I failed to realize we didn't know each other at all.
I have a boyfriend now. He's intelligent, but not in a bookish way. He has manly features and is nowhere near a shota. But he's perfect. Not perfect in that superficial way I defined "perfect" as a kid. My boyfriend has seen me unattractively rage over petty crap, and fall asleep in the car with my mouth open. And he still thinks the sun shines out of my ass. Whenever I have a problem he's already there, by my side.
That's my dream partner. Someone who's always there, and not just for the pretty bits.
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Found mine about a year ago, but she's taken, dating a friend, and is my best friends sister. So I just focus on being there and all that sappy shit.
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Tsujoi
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I have hope, but I wouldn't deny myself a relationship with someone who doesn't fit into my "dream girl" stereotype.
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Well, I've never been much of a pessimist, so I'll keep my hopes up for now.
Ideally, I'd like a she-otaku who is intelligent, can empathise with me and has an interest in starting a family.
Ideally, I'd like a she-otaku who is intelligent, can empathise with me and has an interest in starting a family.
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I don't believe that there is someone who is my "dream" girl. I always thought love and relationships to be more about a developing growth. In the long run, the person you're with and you should change over time. I think a lot of people might argue, "you shouldn't change who someone is" and you shouldn't, but all long term relationships are about adapting. It doesn't necessarily mean you have to change someone's overall character.
In the end, if you love your partner enough, you'll willingly want to make yourself a better man for them. Not because they don't like who you are, or forcefully try to make you someone else. But a mutual desire to see each other happy. So, i don't think your ideal partner is just sitting out there waiting for you.
It'll take work.
In the end, if you love your partner enough, you'll willingly want to make yourself a better man for them. Not because they don't like who you are, or forcefully try to make you someone else. But a mutual desire to see each other happy. So, i don't think your ideal partner is just sitting out there waiting for you.
It'll take work.
