Becoming a shut in/hikikomori
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hey peeps! Has anyone experienced being in home for a prolonged period of time due to certain circumstances or by choice?
Eever since 6/19/11, I've been stuck home due to my injury-(tearing muscles that are used for breathing = intercostal, diaphragm, abdominal muscles). Since moving around makes my injury worse, I am being forced by my body to stay home and not move much.
I lost contact with my friends over time. In fact, Netflix became my good friend, and I am actually feeling okay with this situation. I've learned to order food online, and get canned goods from Amazon.com for basic survival.
I was feeling so lonely in the beginning, but I am getting used to this isolation. I understand Neets and hiki's more now that i've been mostly home for about 70 days now.
Eever since 6/19/11, I've been stuck home due to my injury-(tearing muscles that are used for breathing = intercostal, diaphragm, abdominal muscles). Since moving around makes my injury worse, I am being forced by my body to stay home and not move much.
I lost contact with my friends over time. In fact, Netflix became my good friend, and I am actually feeling okay with this situation. I've learned to order food online, and get canned goods from Amazon.com for basic survival.
I was feeling so lonely in the beginning, but I am getting used to this isolation. I understand Neets and hiki's more now that i've been mostly home for about 70 days now.
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Back when I still went to junior high I had a little circle of friends and we saw each other and went out to do stuff regularly, then after high school we lost contact with each other and everyone went their separate ways. I myself, being someone who doesn't mingle easily with a group and who doesn't relate easily with other people, began staying home most of the time, glued to the pc or reading or whatever (and doing this for three years straight took quite a toll on my health, so don't try this at home kids).
Currently I'm trying to build up a social life again (a real one, not a virtual one like Facebook or the like), but it's quite difficult.
So yeah, I guess I could consider myself a shut-in, though not an extreme example. Basically, most of my free time is spent at home.
Currently I'm trying to build up a social life again (a real one, not a virtual one like Facebook or the like), but it's quite difficult.
So yeah, I guess I could consider myself a shut-in, though not an extreme example. Basically, most of my free time is spent at home.
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Im Beginning To Become A Shut In I Think. I Now Get More Scared Of The Outside World. Staying At Home With My Comp Always Is The Best Place For Me. And I Think That Being A NEET Is Not Problem, As Long As They Have Their Ways To Survive
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70 Days?! Do you have some vacation pay or something?
The longest i've been shut in for was probably 30-38 days, I tore out some muscle in my neck, I also got it while working so I did get Workers Comp. The only time I see many poeple is at work, and I have old friends on Xfire, It wasn't to bad, hated the first week of it, but after that it wasn't anything unbarrable,
I've also had family help would with food, since no way to get order-in... way up in north Canada.
The longest i've been shut in for was probably 30-38 days, I tore out some muscle in my neck, I also got it while working so I did get Workers Comp. The only time I see many poeple is at work, and I have old friends on Xfire, It wasn't to bad, hated the first week of it, but after that it wasn't anything unbarrable,
I've also had family help would with food, since no way to get order-in... way up in north Canada.
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Not sure how long it's been exactly, but about seven years.
the area i was living before was quite expensive and i couldn't find a roommate so i had to quit my job and move to my parents new place. they bought some property way out in the middle of no where. there is an extra house behind theirs where i live now. it's about five miles just to get to a bus stop, and about 30 miles to the first suburban/commercial area. for money i do odd jobs and work my trade under the table, but most of the time i'm dead broke. i do work around the property to cover my part of the utilities, but i have to pay for anything else i want(food, beer, weed, etc.). because of the distance to anything, and the lack of cash, most of my time is spent on the couch watching tv or online. living on pennies a day is not as hard as some people think.
the area i was living before was quite expensive and i couldn't find a roommate so i had to quit my job and move to my parents new place. they bought some property way out in the middle of no where. there is an extra house behind theirs where i live now. it's about five miles just to get to a bus stop, and about 30 miles to the first suburban/commercial area. for money i do odd jobs and work my trade under the table, but most of the time i'm dead broke. i do work around the property to cover my part of the utilities, but i have to pay for anything else i want(food, beer, weed, etc.). because of the distance to anything, and the lack of cash, most of my time is spent on the couch watching tv or online. living on pennies a day is not as hard as some people think.
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Aren't you lucky, you get to stay home. I gotta work all day 2 jobs is not an easy task. Fuck the real world.
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I lived for about three months only leaving the house for work (part time) and every three weeks or so i'd go out drinking with a few friends, and they were the most boring days I have ever lived, I just don't understand how anyone could actually live that way, real life is just so much better.
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I'm not gonna be able to leave the house for 17 more days. I do petsitting jobs, and some are high maintenance, so I can't leave at all, but the pay is good(Getting 475 after this job). When I'm not, I do door hangers for my mom's work($10 and hr) till I find a decient job. It doesn't bother me that I'm becoming a shut in. Got me a laptop, 2 consoles(Soon to be 3) and a shit loaad of games. But hey, great ppl to chat with online.
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pihip wrote...
Back when I still went to junior high I had a little circle of friends and we saw each other and went out to do stuff regularly, then after high school we lost contact with each other and everyone went their separate ways. I myself, being someone who doesn't mingle easily with a group and who doesn't relate easily with other people, began staying home most of the time, glued to the pc or reading or whatever (and doing this for three years straight took quite a toll on my health, so don't try this at home kids). Currently I'm trying to build up a social life again (a real one, not a virtual one like Facebook or the like), but it's quite difficult.
So yeah, I guess I could consider myself a shut-in, though not an extreme example. Basically, most of my free time is spent at home.
This is basically what happened to my life. I'm usually home when I'm not at work or school. I'm kind of used to being alone, but I too long for other people. I'm still trying to slowly get some more friends and build up my social life little by little. It's very difficult though, because my social competence is so far behind. During summer holidays I could spend weeks at home playing games/watching anime without ever leaving the house.
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I go to work, go to school, and come home. Lather, rinse, and repeat ad infinitum.
While I work with people, none of them no me for anything other than my abilities and work ethic. At work I talk about work. At school I talk about school. I have my work "friends" and my school "friends" but I see neither outside of work or school related issues.
My human contact is kept at the bare minimal level where people are not worried about me not being around people. Always remember a smile attracts less attention than a frown.
Its not that I intend to close myself from other people. It just stems from low self-esteem where I believe that I am not worth getting to know. Coupled with fear of rejection, I simply do not get close to people.
As for any none essential excursions outside of my house. I went to a natural history museum about a year and half ago.
While I work with people, none of them no me for anything other than my abilities and work ethic. At work I talk about work. At school I talk about school. I have my work "friends" and my school "friends" but I see neither outside of work or school related issues.
My human contact is kept at the bare minimal level where people are not worried about me not being around people. Always remember a smile attracts less attention than a frown.
Its not that I intend to close myself from other people. It just stems from low self-esteem where I believe that I am not worth getting to know. Coupled with fear of rejection, I simply do not get close to people.
As for any none essential excursions outside of my house. I went to a natural history museum about a year and half ago.
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rx7b9er wrote...
I go to work, go to school, and come home. Lather, rinse, and repeat ad infinitum.While I work with people, none of them no me for anything other than my abilities and work ethic. At work I talk about work. At school I talk about school. I have my work "friends" and my school "friends" but I see neither outside of work or school related issues.
My human contact is kept at the bare minimal level where people are not worried about me not being around people. Always remember a smile attracts less attention than a frown.
Its not that I intend to close myself from other people. It just stems from low self-esteem where I believe that I am not worth getting to know. Coupled with fear of rejection, I simply do not get close to people.
As for any none essential excursions outside of my house. I went to a natural history museum about a year and half ago.
Wow, I have to say I just met my identical twin. I feel you man. I'm exactly the same.
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Unfortunately the government is still making me go to school so I have never really been shut in for very long, even when I have off it's usually not for long.
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MrShadowzs wrote...
Unfortunately the government is still making me go to school so I have never really been shut in for very long, even when I have off it's usually not for long. How old are you?
Governments making you go to school? WTF
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dragonsheart967 wrote...
MrShadowzs wrote...
Unfortunately the government is still making me go to school so I have never really been shut in for very long, even when I have off it's usually not for long. How old are you?
Governments making you go to school? WTF
I was held back... don't really want to talk about it.
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There was a time about a few years ago when I was technically a shut-in.
It was when I was in college and I had saved up alot of money to live on my own.
It was a pain to find a job at the time and I didnt end up finding one till a few months before I went back to my hometown.
So I wanted to make sure I didnt waste too much on recreational stuff, so I stayed cooped up in my apartment, unless my douchey roommate or school friends had dragged me out to do something. Once I had found work though, I still didnt come out that often I had a date or something pressing that required me to go out.
It was when I was in college and I had saved up alot of money to live on my own.
It was a pain to find a job at the time and I didnt end up finding one till a few months before I went back to my hometown.
So I wanted to make sure I didnt waste too much on recreational stuff, so I stayed cooped up in my apartment, unless my douchey roommate or school friends had dragged me out to do something. Once I had found work though, I still didnt come out that often I had a date or something pressing that required me to go out.
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MrShadowzs wrote...
dragonsheart967 wrote...
MrShadowzs wrote...
Unfortunately the government is still making me go to school so I have never really been shut in for very long, even when I have off it's usually not for long. How old are you?
Governments making you go to school? WTF
I was held back... don't really want to talk about it.
KK, I under stand.
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From a different perspective, I guess I was a forced shut-in.
My parents were extremely overprotective of me when I was a child, seeing as to how I was the only male child in the household and with male birth running low in my family for some reason. Playing football with friends or hanging out playing Nintendo had to be planned weeks in advance. All my summer vacations, when a trip was scheduled, were always family outings visiting relatives I cared little for and cousins I shared no interests with. If not, it was video games or TV for 3 months straight.
Right after entering college, I broke free of that shackle and devoted myself to becoming an active member of society. Meeting new people somehow came naturally and still does. Though people I consider true friends are scarce, I have enough relations to always have a good laugh or to go out for a drink. In recent years, the most I've ever gone shut-in was a week long stint to finish a computer program due for a class, and even then I was in constant contact with my fellow group members.
I guess I can understand being a shut-in, but in reality I can't see myself embracing that lifestyle. Humans are social beings after all, but I do appreciate some alone time to organize myself and my projects.
My parents were extremely overprotective of me when I was a child, seeing as to how I was the only male child in the household and with male birth running low in my family for some reason. Playing football with friends or hanging out playing Nintendo had to be planned weeks in advance. All my summer vacations, when a trip was scheduled, were always family outings visiting relatives I cared little for and cousins I shared no interests with. If not, it was video games or TV for 3 months straight.
Right after entering college, I broke free of that shackle and devoted myself to becoming an active member of society. Meeting new people somehow came naturally and still does. Though people I consider true friends are scarce, I have enough relations to always have a good laugh or to go out for a drink. In recent years, the most I've ever gone shut-in was a week long stint to finish a computer program due for a class, and even then I was in constant contact with my fellow group members.
I guess I can understand being a shut-in, but in reality I can't see myself embracing that lifestyle. Humans are social beings after all, but I do appreciate some alone time to organize myself and my projects.
