Dealing with the death of a loved one

For every minute of pain you feel is 60 seconds of happiness you had.
The more someone means you to you, the greater the loss.
Nothing lasts forever people come and go, all you can do is reminise on the good times because it is better to have had you uncle in your life then never having him there at all.
I know you are going through rough times now, but hey the sun shines after a rainy day staying positive is all you can do for now until you find a way to cope.
hope his helps

Dealing with the death of a loved one is a hard thing to go through especially in my case, My grandma got diagnosed with stomach cancer in early July of last year and by early august she was in really bad shape. I got a phone call from my mom telling me that my dad is going to pick me up and bring me out to see her since she is not doing good, So I go and when I got to my grandparents house I see my grandma lying on a hospital bed in the living room just barely holding on, I held her hand for quite a while and reminisced about all the good times I had with her and then later on I left and we were half way home (which is about 45 minutes away from where my grandparents live) when my dad got a call on his cellphone and I knew right then that she was gone and then he told me she had passed away he then offered us a kleenex but I refused since I was in shock but my little brother was just tearing up and I couldn't blame him for that. It took me awhile to finally let out all that sadness and once I did I felt a lot better and I've been able to move on with my life in just a short amount of time and it's only been 1 year since she's past away.

If you weren't economically dependent on that person (which seems to be most likely in your case), it is only "emotional pain" which you need to deal with. Emotional pain occurs quite often in Joe Public's life, whether it is because you lose your job, your girlfriend leaves you, or a "loved one" dies. The best way of dealing with it is rationalizing it:

Was that person really important for you?
If so, how can you replace it?
etc...

Was that person important to you, then it's like in a strategy game; when you lose an base/ army without any gain, you must think of a way how to replace it, f.e. by utilizing your remaining bases/ building more cost effective units, etc...

This may sound harsh, but thats the way life works. Many humans have died before your uncle and many more will die after him, not to talk of the higher organisms or life in general that has passed away.

Besides, your uncle would have died eventually, so you wouldn't have been spared of the "pain" anyway.

Think about it. And live the NOW, or how it is said in chess; play the position - how it came to be is insignificant. It could also had happened that you never had an uncle at all.

Alternatively you can get yourself lobotomized, or become a sociopath, that would also serve the purpose ;)

In High School I would just keep to myself if a loved one died so no one would come up to me and ask if I was okay. In college when I got a text from my brother that my Uncle died I punched a locker, then a wall, then the ground and finally just sat there looking at the reactions on my friends faces.

The reason for all of that is because my Uncle was a heavy drinker and when ever i got him to stop he would start up again so for the 4 weeks before he died I stopped talking to him and left it for my family to deal with.