Do men want a serious relationship w/ another secret women.

This has been bugging me... Are there really men who want to stay in a serious relationship and have a another women on the side to play with? Men to me is mysteries and not pure. Is there some truth to this and if you are with a women that gives you all that play time, would you even still consider looking for another women for the side? Thank you! Your men comments will help a lot. LOL! (^_^)

Of course there are men who will find themselves in a wonderful relationship and then still feel the need to keep some other girl on the side. I don't really understand what's up with that, but it happens all the time. Guess they get bored. If I seriously found some girl I'd actually want around, I'd stick with that. Not just because I'm loyal, but also because it seems pretty unlikely that there are two girls out there that I would actually want around to begin with.

I remember Chris Rock saying, "Men are only as faithful as their options."

There is truth to it, but you can't generalize it to all men.

The same for you. Yes there is truth to it. Some guys fuck around, but that's their problem.(Or the woman's depending on whether she knows or not.) Don't take the answers that we give you as a serious fact, it all just depends on the guy you're with. Personally, I've never been in a serious relationship so I wouldn't know much about contemplating to myself about having a woman on the side.

No. As little as a word from some potential geek on a hentai forum is worth - I would never search elsewhere while maintaining a relationship and I'm fairly sure that I ain't the only one of my kind.
Some time ago a relationship that I was in (for around a year) ended, though I tried to hold it together till the very last minute, never seriously looking sideways. The perspective I gained since then tells me she wasn't worth it BTW but I acted according to my self and I regret little on that part...

It all depends on the guy (and the chick) and I'd advise not to generalize based on one (or few) experience.

seconded :arrow:

I'm not too sure about others, but I am the type that will remain truly loyal in a relationship. I do not like the thought of going with another girl when i already am in a relationship regardless of whether or not the girl is worth it. It pretty much goes against my principles =X It's somewhat a test of willpower, and i somewhat enjoy doing that =P call me weird

Claiming that men are not pure - like we are somehow more primal than women or we lack morals - bothers me a bit. I personally have a very strong set of morals, and I wouldn't cheat even if the girl I was with didn't give me the 'play time' I wanted. If I was really bothered by it I would break up with her first before looking for someone else.

I did a little bit of google research (lol) just before making this post, and it seems that most surveys actually point to women being more unfaithful. Obviously I wouldn't cite this as hard evidence, but its something you might want to think about.

No.

And none of my male friends I know cheat on their girlfriends. But most of the women I know are cheating on their boyfriends.

???I think it's odd too???

Women can do it too. I know some.

It doesn't have to do with men.
Though in sociology class, during mid life crisis's - if a man goes out to a club to see if 'he still has it' - he'll be more likely to cheat on his wife with a younger girl.

Girls go out to clubs with their other middle age women, and feel satisfied if they're flirted with by a young guy.

That's just statistics speaking.

I'm almost 19, and my dad told me several months ago that he was 'seeing' this woman who was 20. I said 'doesn't that make you feel weird?' and he said what? and I said 'that you have children older then a girl you're sleeping with' (my brother is 5 years older then me)

He said no, and I announced he was going through a midlife crisis and soon will be craving to buy a boat. He didn't like that lol

Anyway, some people do it to see if they still got it. Others do it because they want their cake and tea too.

Most are happy with a single devoted partner.

I wouldn't, most likely just out of laziness. I don't really make an effort...ever. At least not in that area. So if I'm not really trying to find a chick when I'm single, I'm sure I wouldn't go out looking for one if I somehow ended up in a relationship.

There are some guys who feel like sleeping around is just what men do. They don't really see it as cheating when they have a one night stand with a woman who isn't their wife or girlfriend, because it's just sex, and just in their nature.
But there are other reasons a person might cheat.
It's entirely dependent on the situation.

But I'm personally just to lazy to cheat, is my answer.

Morally, I wouldn't cheat because I don't want a woman burning my bed (especially if I'm still in it) or chopping off my dick. To me, it's immoral to put yourself in that sort of danger for a little bit of fun. Not all women are like that, but I've met and heard of enough who are to make me never cheat on a woman. I'd rather break up with her on our wedding day.

For example, a girl in one on my classes a couple of years ago told me a story about how her boyfriend in high school had cheated on her. The girl blacked out (so she said), and she kicked him in the nuts so hard that he went sterile. His family even tried to sue her.

But if my girlfriend/wife gave me enough sex, and I liked spending time with her, I wouldn't want to cheat on her. If I have everything I need, why go get more? And if it got to the point where I wanted to cheat, I'd probably break up with her, realizing that something was wrong. Maybe the sex wasn't good enough or we had drifted apart or we didn't really understand each other, whatever the reason, wanting to cheat is a pretty big indicator that something's wrong in the relationship.

It is a pretty big shock though. When someone just comes right out and says 'I cheated on you' or 'I'm leaving you for this person' - In my case it was the latter, and I didn't get violent, but I remember really breaking down. Like angry sobs, not just pity sobs.

Cause it makes the girl think what they did wrong, if that girl looked better, was nicer, was better in bed, etc, etc. Really puts a damper in your self esteem.

But to react like that is over the limit. I think I'd rather be told that someone cheated on me then someone to leave me on my wedding day. That's why I have an issue with marriage. Too afraid they'll up and leave or change their mind.

But I'm surprised by most of your answers. Generally 'if she gave me enough sex, I don't see why I would'

or 'I'm too lazy to'

Makes me think, well if the girl didn't put out enough, or if that person wasn't lazy - Not pointing you guys out directly, I just mean guys thoughts in general.

Fear of getting your dick chopped off is no basis for morals. I suppose your 'morals' are still in the right place though, even if the way you got there doesn't quite add up... or maybe you were joking. Humor doesn't always translate well.

To me though, morals and fears are entirely different. Having the courage to stand up for your beliefs/morals, for example, can overcome your fears. Of course some fears don't necessarly need to be overcome, as sometimes it is quite sensible to be afraid.

Sort of using your own example here, if you were in a relationship with a girl and you were worried about cheating on her because she might do something vindictive - that would be an example of when fear and morals might line up. Imagine now that instead you wanted to break up with her, because you were wanting to see other people and wanted to do the right thing by ending your relationship first. Morally you are doing the right thing, but its entirely possible she could still be angry about you dumping her to date other people. This is a situation where you would need to man up and break up with her despite your fears (rather than just cheating instead).

Not that any of that really has much to do with the topic at hand, I just like to get tangled up in the technicalities. :roll:

^ I like him.

Some people seem to morally object to it.
And it's not that I don't, I just didn't get that far in thought about it. I mean, for me to cheat, I would have to actively have a girl coming on to me while I'm already in a relationship. It just doesn't seem like a likely situation to me.

Also, I got left for another guy once. At least she didn't cheat on me with him. Well, not really, since I don't really consider kissing cheating. Plus it was in high school. And was accompanied by a lot of bullshit as high school relationships are.

Something similiar happened to me, but she left before leaving me...i.e. she moved away and then broke up because she found someone better. I can't really blame her, long distance really doesn't work. But yeah, it's just high school, hard to really take any of it too serious. I mean, real life isn't like 'School Days'. Mostly.

Thanks :) .

To reply to your post though, I don't think threads like this in general are a good indicator of what people would really do in a tough moral situation. I think they are a good indicator of what people *think* they should do, but it isn't always as easy as just knowing what you are supposed to do and then doing it.

I would imagine most people who do cheat know that it is unfair and wrong to their partner. Of course there are doubtless some people who don't feel the least bit bad about it, but I doubt they are the majority. People know what they *should* do, its just that when an opportunity develops they don't always make the decision they planned to when they were calmly considering proper conduct in relationships on the fakku forums.

That's why I said I was surprised. Generally I expected a bunch of hell no's and a lot of "I'd be loyal" or I would never hurt another person like that.

Because that's generally what people do. They announce a problem and how they feel about a situation. But when the real situation arises then they're shitting bricks as to what to do.

My ex and I have talked for hours and hours and even argued for hours. He knew what he was doing was wrong, and he felt immensely bad for me, because he didn't want to hurt me and knew he was. Him and I get along better, but we don't spend time with each other. We just talk once in a while.

It's on the same line as pregnancy too with abortion. "Hell no, that's a human life. I would never' - but when you get that scare and going through college and barely making ends meet. The idea sure does tempt you a bit.

I suppose you're right. Replys have been rather wishy-washy even though the poll is a pretty firm no.

I've only had two relationships... and I'd say only one of them really counted. I mannaged to stay friends with both of them afterwards, but it could be thats where I went wrong in the first place. Nice guys finnish last and all that hehe.

I'm really not sure where I stand on abortion to be honnest. I would probably leave the decision upto her. I'm still in college myself though, so I think it would be best if she gave it up for adoption if she decided she wanted to have it. Of course guys don't really have alot of say anyway, if she decided to keep it I'd just have to pay child support. I think the best solution is to avoid a pregnancy in the first place if possible.

Also, thanks for the rep point if that was you =).