Do men want a serious relationship w/ another secret women.

I personally think that cheating is a disrespectful and ugly thing to do. if you are in a serious relationship then there should be no reason for a man to even think about screwin around with another girl. (im not saying that it's bad to look at other women while you're with someone else, but you would be ridiculously stupid to try and pursue. for some guys that like to flirt and find it hard not to flirt, like me, i see it as a test of man power. its kinda like... there's a glass of milk, but wait, next to that milk is a big, warm, and chocolaty cookie; you're going to find it hard to resist it. you just have to look deep with-in yourself and think, i already had a cookie...

Guys when ever you think about screwing with someone else, please think twice. i usually think of two things, then i add an action to it.

1. ( keep in mind im a jealous fool) Think about how you would feel if u caught her in bed with someone else. then realize she's not cheating on you.

2. All i have to do is think about her. keep her image in my mind and everything is all like... WHOA wtf am i doing here. PSHT bitch im taken get outta here. ( but much more politely)

then you add the only action that will ever work in a situation where you cheat. YOU GET THE FUCK OUT OF THERE!( or make her leave by: doing something or saying something stupid) for instance. if a girl comes to you at a bar and says "hey you, i think your hot (smashed or not she's coming on to you.) STOP! think about your gal then. you can get up and leave. or say something stupid like. ( you don't look like my girlfriend or *while laughing hysterically* I JUST SHIT MY PANTS.)

...avoid the last part... what im trying to say is don't cheat... you will get caught and unfortunately you will lose something good.

I actually think that more girls cheat on men than men cheat on girls. T-T thats sad! i personally would never cheat. not only because im loyal, in love, and don't feel the need for alot of sex. but because it's degrading to both the male and female. I know that there are more men that think like i do than men that disagree.

im sorry i didnt mean to steal the cookie thing...

men are simple creatures to women? all we do in your mind is, eat, sleep, reproduce, take advantage, etc. are we basically predators to some women?

why don't women ever think that men have feelings. they are delicate, sensitive, loving. in other YES WE HAVE FEELINGS!most of us act like hard ass,juggernaut, manly men to impress you!we fight because of you. you can compare us to many animals.but you can say the same about some women. everything that has been said about the male compared to some sex driven, careless, animal; can be reversed on to women equally.

the thing is, serious relationships scare both partners in the relationship. that's why we take it slow. Im still a virgin and my anniversary is in 9 days. and guess what PompusMeatHead111 ( im guessing that you have a thing against guys)but your wrong

I STILL WANT MY COOKIE!!!

don't compare some of us honest loyal men like catcher, theDarkStarAlchemist, and i with the scum that would cheat. it's an insult.( i am assuming that you are both men. forgive me if i am wrong)

Agreed well said my man!

i dont know about other men, i dont care about other men, seeing as i am not gay. when i'm in a relationship, i'm committed.

Before I get labeled as an unfaithful bastard, I have a good reason to vote yes.

I've had my fair share of experience with "girls on the side", and I can honestly say most of the time it ain't worth it. I cheated on my last girlfriend more than twice. Sure it fulfilled some base desires, but it left a bad aftertaste. Then why still do it?

This may sound more like a justification, but I'll admit that I'm more mistake-prone than your average man. I'm the type of guy that starts off real good, but ends up fumbling a lot. You know, kinda like Rex Grossman.

So in summary, what I'm trying to say is most of the time it just happens. Spur of the moment. "Cheat on girlfriend" wasn't on my list at the start. It just happened.

Just sharing my point-of-view, no offense intended. :)

I must say, I haven't been pissed off at a post for a long time till this. To say that men are hungry, fickle beasts who use women as tissue (you're somewhat implying this, though I'm exaggerating) is flat out wrong. Not only it's wrong, but you diss the male sex of which you and I are part of, and I don't be wanna be labeled as a person who likes to eat new cookies every time something else shows up. Not only that, is that kind of relationship even fulfilling? From what you've described, it seems there's no real basis of trust, something that if lacking, you won't have a meaningful relationship.

@BLZebub51: there's something called sexfriends - no strings attached relationships, and no bad aftertaste. However, if you're a guy who cheats, don't get a girlfriend at all. You'll hurt her and yourself.

THANK YOU! it's about time someone agrees! i enjoyed reading this.

sex-friends are for when you don't want to get in a serious relationship for the time being but u still kinda, maybe like a friend who is willing to have sex with you. ( maybe just to blow off stress etc.)

my friend you deserve random rep!

@g-money
I'm familiar with the sexfriend concept, had a few on-off partners. I think they're an entirely different thing, but maybe that's just me. :) I do agree with your point of don't cheat while in a relationship. Though I still think that it's a spur of the moment thing. :wink:

Killing someone can be a spur of the moment thing, too. It's called a crime of passion. But most people are still able to hold back and keep from committing murder.

If you tell yourself that you cannot keep yourself from cheating, then you'll certainly be unable to stop yourself. You're defeating yourself before you even begin. But if you tell yourself, "A lot of people are tempted but don't cheat; I can resist the temptation, too," then you might be able to hold yourself back.

Nice point of view, ShaggyJebus. I can certainly attribute lack of effort to my past mistakes. I pretty much didn't try to keep it from happening. Well, I guess I learned my lesson the hard way. :)

I myself (although am not masculine at all) would never cheat on a woman that I love.. I would never lie or do something so bad at all... One woman's love would be enough for me to consider me the happiest person alive and I would not abuse it one bit.

Me, personally could never do such thing. I won't even fuck a girl unless I'm seriously in love with her. I have friends who do, but I will never support their habits.

The only reason i can see being unfaithful is to fulfill sexual desires. If my physical needs are being met then i see no reason to seek out more.

No I'd rather have one true love who I can stay with forever, and devote all my love to and in return get the same.

It would be so good if it was so simple...

Anyway, i was planning on expressing a groundbreaking opinion and all but, well, got too late, everything i would say was already said >.>



Shaggy, that is beautiful, really, but



I do have a girlfriend that is all that i've always wanted, is great in bed, i love to spend my time with her, (she even plays videogames like a man!) she's beautiful, she's gorgeous, she's the kind of girl i never thought i would be able to be with... anyway, we're together for 2 and a half years now, and at first i thought exactly like you Jebus, "If I have everything I need, why go get more?".
I didn't cheat on her until now, but i'll tell you, the temptation grows day by day, and fuck it when you're alone, nobody wants you, but when you are in a healthy relationship, it seems 40% of the girls around you are flirting with you, i don't know how to explain, but what i mean is, althought i didn't cheat on her, i still do feel the urge to. And why? Since i love her and she's everything that i wanted, why would i want to be with another woman?

IMO the answer is that we are just males. It's written on our very genes to reproduce and spread our "legacy" around the world... I'm not talking about having children, i myself don't even want one, and i'm also not saying that i plan on cheating on my gf anytime soon, i'm talking about instincts. I can't tell if a girl would be the same because, well, i was born a guy, but no matter how hard we man are loyal to our partners, we still feel attracted to other girls. Cheating or not depends on each man, but i'm pretty sure that every single one would be attracted by other girls, even if they have "the perfect girlfriend".

And also, Jebus, that's not a critic about your post, your opinion or even yourself, i just used what you said to illustrate my opinion.

@Aya-senpai: the concept of, "I have what I want, but I want more." Understandable, but if one starts heading down that path, you'll lose something that you might never find again. I've experienced this in my life, but not in romance, so I know very well that the first chance you get might be your only best chance.

@g-money: I know that, that's why i avoid any situation that would present an oportunity to, well, you know what. But what i'm implying is that, loyal or not, every man feels the need to fuck every attractive girl (each one with theyr own taste) in sight.

Quoted for its mind-boggling truth. It seems men in healthy relationships discharge pheromones which attracts females other than their partner. ;-)

That and maybe jealousy.