education and sex...(the rest of the title is too long)

well its basically about telling children about the "birds and the bees". let me ask you all a question: what do you think is the best age to educate teens at? the teenage pregnancy rates, from 10 to 19, are going up, and not coming down. so it is a good idea to educate younglings on sex. sometimes teen boys dont know how to get a girl pregnant, and some teen girls dont know how to get pregnant. but then they end up finding out the hard way. so think, what do you all feel would be the right time to talk to your kids about sex?

Note* i am not using teen pregnancy rates as an excuse to educate teens about sex. i am using it just for example. so please do not think that i am saying that all teen age pregnancy is due to ignorance of sexual knowledge, cuz im not. i know teen pregnancy can happen for a number of reasons besides not knowing how to do it.

EDIT: i didnt even know what a vagina looked like until i was 13. and my mom left it up to me to learn about sex on my own. i guess she got scared about teaching me, and was afraid she would give me inaccurate info, so she avoided it. although she has like the ultimate knowledge on sex, she didnt tell me...ANYTHING. so we should either teach kids on our own, or we should let them learn through porn. cuz statistically kids learn what they learn about sex from lessons they learned, other kids, and/or from the internet, wether it be porn or just regular looking up the meaning of sex. for me personally i had to watch porn and look at that stuff to learn what i know. and i didnt learn about how to get a girl pregnant till 13 also. just puttin that on the table.

i d say prepubescence

Definitely. I hate having to say that, but kids are having sex younger and younger nowadays, and a lot of "exploration" is going on. Even if only one out of every hundred kids below the age of 12 does anything even remotely sexual, it's not like we can pinpoint which kids are likely to do something. It'd be better to teach all kids about it, to ensure that they all know what it's all about.

Besides, it's not like teaching kids about sex at a young age is going to scar them or anything. Society refusing to be frank about sex to kids, that's what would scar them. Still, I don't think we should be giving little kids condoms or anything. They just need to know what genitals are and that their actions can have consequences.

Sadly, sexual education at a tender age nowadays is far from a reality. Even if, lets say, the government anounces that it'd be necessary, many parents would protest. It's just like gay marriage or abortion, or even further, like the stem cells, that could be a solution to a lot of heath problems, and a great improvement in the medicine BUT, all of those things have a strong relucance by religious conservators.
It's a big taboo. Parents not only avoid talking about sex with their children, but also don't want anyone to talk with them about this. It's illogical, i know, but it's true.

I'm totally in favor of sexual educaton, but it's very unlikely that we'll have it, and i'm talking about worldwide, in less than 30 or 40 years.

really? i mean, we had (basic) sex ed in primary school, maybe aged 8 or 9 and then more extensively later on at age 12-14

yeah, but where do you live? i live in Brazil,
i had sexual orientation when i was abou 8 or 9 too, only because it was a private school. And what about africa, middle east, colombia, etc...?

i was in peru as part of a social project having sex-ed talks in schools, although they were mostly in their midteens...(i also worked a bit as an english assistant for the younger ones), either way, i could tell some of them already have had sex, probably more than me at that time...kinda embarassing...

I remember having Sex-ed in 6th grade. Not a big deal for me because my parents never fed me that old stork bringing babies to the world crap. I use to ask a questions regarding sex and they always gave me an honest answer. No sugar coating for me or my sister. I grew up knowing sex was just a natural part of humans. I never though it was wrong at all.

Good parenting is all your need. Seriously, parents today really need to stop shielding their kids from everything. The world is not always a happy place and the sooner kids know that, the better.

same here. and it seems education is already heading towards that direction, but at a slow pace ._.

never, i found out myself.

my old high school needs one student to take at least 1 semester (half-credit) of Health.
[size=10]just high school. only. [/h]

i didnt really learn from Anybody, i learned from the Internet. :P
i say teens should learn during their freshman year to when they get their driver license.
[size=10](some of them actually try to listen)[/h]

I'm not sure really. In 4th grade I remember having class about when I get a little older I'll get my period and stuff and that other girls will be going through it and that no one should be made fun of for growing up. They also told us what we can use, like pads and stuff, and that if we saw a girl with a little bit of blood on her pants to just let her know kindly what happened and to not make a big scene about it.

I remember going on a field trip to a health center for kids to learn about STD's and sex and I also remember the lady teaching us that if we have sex we'll get AIDS. I seriously was under that impression that by lunch I had to ask my friends and they were just as confused and slightly scared. The lady said we shouldn't have sex because we would get aids.

I finally went to one of my teachers and she looked a little shocked and explained it better.

That's what concerns me about the public teaching my child (if I even have a child).

My friend's mom was always open to her about sex, and got her on the pill once she got active. My mom said the same thing but I always felt like if I had told her I was having sex she wouldn't let me see my boyfriend (now ex) anymore, this was back when I was 16.

I just don't want the school to be telling children any religious bullshit. I'd rather just sit the child down and tell them - look, you're gonna get older and you're gonna start to get urges, it's normal and that's fine - but to just keep in mind you should save those urges for someone you love. My mom never gave me that talk.

Schools should just keep it to what I received minus the crazy lady at the health center.

*Edit*
Those of you who say 12-13 -- I think it needs to be a bit earlier, just because girls get their periods at a young age. I think I was 13 when I got mine and studies show that girls are getting them earlier and earlier. I don't know when balls drop.. but I'd imagine at a similar age?

The involvement of the parents is very important, because sex is not the sort of thing you should just trust a school to teach well. Even if the school does an awesome job of teaching sex ed, a child's parents still need to talk to the child and make sure the child understands exactly what he/she heard. Unfortunately, that "Sex=AIDS" sort of thing is a bit common, from what I've heard, and I'm sure it will always happen, because some people have no tact, but that's why the job of the parents is so very important.

It's not even the fact that people have no tact - it's the fact people think kids will listen more if you use the scare tactic.

just to let you know ive had my first when i was 13 and by that time i know the consequences already and i think that the parents should educate their sons/daughter at the start of the teen practically 13 since its the start of overflowing desires

i totally agree with you. kids should know what sex is early, but that doesnt mean they should have it cuz they know what it is. now ur kids HAVING sex is a totally different discussion. but TEACHIGN them is what the topic at hand is, and i think they should know at a good age. it would help.

I've known several people who "explored" with another person when they were very young. One person even said that technically, he lost his virginity to his cousin when he was eight years old, because they were messing around without really knowing much.

Teaching kids straight up what everything was would help with that sort of thing. Especially since it's easy for kids to see people having sex nowadays, what with the internet and all.

alright, since we were all kids once..
doesnt anybody remember the times where we really never paid attention to anything and wander off to do something else? (young age)
[size=10](well sometimes kids dont give a shit. some even disregard what was taught and do it anyways) lol, adolescence.[/h]


if someone said this already then damn.
if not! then yay! :3