Is bullying really that bad a thing?

that's kind of the same as me.. well not the part where you didn't notice bullying because it wasn't a threat but pretty much everything else yeah...irl anyway..

I'm a little too tired to come up with a complex opinion about this, but I do think that the adverse side-effects of bullying are sometimes blown out of proportion. I hate this media-caused concoction that everyone who is bullied as a child is going to either grow up some sort of introverted, social reject or bring a gun to school and start some kind of massacre.

I'm not trying to condone bullying, since obviously nothing good can come from it, but I think the amount of harm that bullying can do is a lot less than some would choose to believe.

I was bullied a lot in elementary school because I was the "smart kid" who happened to be a loner and didn't have any friends until Junior High. I hated it, I always played alone, but never did I have suicidal tendencies nor did I ever want to exact revenge against those that did it to me. I was easily able to keep myself entertained and happy enough as a child that I never gave much thought to the bullies.

Although, some might consider me a social reject, but those are for entirely different reasons. XD

I think (thought I admit that it's a bit optimistic) that news reports treat bullying as something that destroys every person that is bullied so that people will take bullying more seriously. It's easy to say, "So you're bullied, a lot of people get bullied, big deal" and not try to help the person at all. That person could turn out to be one of the few who gets very harshly bullied or cannot handle it at all. That person could kill him/herself or seriously hurt others.

It's better to assume that a child could be severely damaged due to bullying than to believe that a child could not.

I cant say if its a bad thing or not, but from grade 1 to grade 5 I was bullied a lot. They bothered me and beat me a lot. After grade 5, I somehow changed and when I went to school the next year, it was completely different. I beat the crap out of the guys that tried to bully me again (cause they got angry for me smart mouthing them and attacked me) and next thing ya know, the guys that bullied me tells every single OTHER bully that they shouldnt mess with me. Funny how that happened. But now that I think about it, bullying IS a bad thing, cause it feels bad and hurts you when your the victim.

The answer to this question depends on various factors. This includes whether or not the victim has a strong family/peer foundation to support him/her, the nature of the bullying, the victim's perspective, etc. Obviously the more intense the bullying is, the more damaging the results are for the victim. I've been picked on to some degree during my time in school, but like you I found that ignoring those people is the best solution (at least for me). I was the quiet/loner type kid in class, so it was only natural that I'd be a potential target for the people who crave attention and control. Nonetheless, I experienced more good/neutral relationships with my peers than bad, so I should probably consider myself lucky in that regard.

I don't know whether or not bullying is being over exaggerated, but I do know that it's an inevitability whether you're the victim or the bully. Not everyone is gonna like you, and you're not gonna like everyone. That's just how it is so long as we all have differences in our personalities, appearances and behaviors. What's truly important is how you feel about the relationships in your environment as well as how you cope with the ones that are particularly stressful to you.

I believe it depends on (among many other things):
The victim's personality.
Whether or not he victim has friends/support.
If bullying is physical and/or verbal and to what degree.

Depending on the victim's nature/personality can influence whether or not he/she will stand up to, ignore, break from, learn from, etc. the bullying. Which can determine whether or not the bullying had an entirely negative effect on that person or if there were some benefits.

If the victim has family or good friends, and depending somewhat on his/her personality, then he/she may be able to see that the reasons (e.g. "Your weird", You don't fit in", etc.) that the bullies bullying him/her aren't true. And thus the victim will probably have a higher chance of being able to take this experience and learn from it.

Depending on the type and degree of the bullying also influences whether or not a person can benefit any from the experience because physical bullying tends to create stronger emotions than verbal bullying. And the strength of those emotions can effect the victim's perspective, will, resolve, etc.

Last thing I'm going to say but there's a saying that I learned from my uncle a long time ago that went something like this:
"Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
So while a lot of negatives may have resulted from bullying there is going to be some positive. Also the positives and negatives may not necessarily be lessons learned, changes in maturity, etc. but can also be something like a change in your position or how you are viewed by others.
So basically "stronger" can mean a lot of things and you have to remember that with most strengths come weaknesses and Vice-Versa.

For me, it's a bad thing.

If you enjoy bullying..
How would you like it if you were being bullied?

Well all through-out elementary and half of middle school i was not bullied to an extent, being completely ignored was the big thing, so i became very withdrawn. At the time I was changing schools a lot so what friends I did make didn't last. I know how it feels which is why i try to be nice to everyone but i truly hate any and all forms of bullying.

Bullying is bad, can change a persons view of life and cause social anxiety. Though I'm surprised that I'm small but strangely not bullied. If worse comes to worse if anyone does bully me in a secluded area ill just whip out my curved dagger and threaten them. I'm the type of crazy person that would do that lol, and people are scared of me for some reason in real life.

not really.
depends on the object. If s/he likes/don't mind to be bullied, then why not? as long we have fun together by bullying someone...

but if s/he doesn;t like to be bullied, then we shouldn't do it...

What person likes to be bullied?

Masochists.

Me, so I have a reason to beat the crap out of the bully later >.>

I use to be a bully..of a kind. There's this ass who everyone hate and I made it my responibilty to piss him off. To this day he still thinks I do it because I have the time.

Here's what I am trying to say, sometimes bullying is necessary for the greater good

Then the victim is even more messed up than the bullies. What do you mean by have fun together bullying someone? "Hahaha, look at him, he's bleeding" kind of fun?

The victim is a masochist?

Well, I'm not gonna judge anyone, but that just plain freaks me out. Maybe the bullies are just fail-bullies.

EDIT: I also think bullying someone because they like being hurt just isn't a good enough excuse... If you like sex, you can still get STDs. Bad example, I know, gimme a few moments to try to come up with a better one.

If you can learn from it, then i suppose it can be transformed into a positive experience. But that shouldn't be used as a excuse to bully. Some people have a really hard time getting over it, and not everyone can just get over it.

Problem is, that probably just makes him more of an ass.

I've been bullied myself and maybe it's just cause I'm too fool hardy but, if some one says something, say something back. Some one does something pay them back full and well. (I like self defense.) Also I'm going to kind of quote a visual novel here but I frankly think it's true, if you can't find friends in your school or office, why not look elsewhere? People of your age and group aren't limited to just that one spot, it's a wide world out there, find yourself by yourself.