Polygamy relationships? What do you think?

Polygamy, as defined by google, means "The practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time."

It can also be having more than one gf or bf. OR even both if you like both sex.

My thoughts in the matter is that I would like to experience this kind of relationship. For many that might come to mind is sex, sex, and even more sex. Did I mention the sex? I mean that is what comes to my mind when I think of polygamy. But that was the old me. Through my experiences in high school, I have come to learn that what really makes this kinds of relationship to work is just simple things, in my opinion.

*Communication- This is the key to every and all relationships.
*Understanding- We must know the person before we can accept who they are.
*Space- Do not always crowd people, too much of a good thing can be bad.
*Trust- We must first show that we are trustworthy, and they also must prove themselves.
*Fun- If we are not having fun, then it is not worth doing. (And if it is not fun, then find a way to make it fun.)
*Balance- If we have arguments and they keep coming up, then first talk about it and if they keep coming up then maybe it is better to separate.

Basically I like a lot of people, but I mostly go for girls or guys who look very very feminine. But my wish is to take care of those people I can truly see a future with. Even though, if they may be more than one person my heart calls out to then I will try my best to make this kind of relationship to work.

I do find this kind relationships unique, fun, and very challenging. Maybe one day I can have a true experience one day and share what I learn from that. But for now all I can say is this.

So Fakkutonians, tell me what you think?

I know people who've made this work, so why not, I guess. It's not something I'd do myself, though.

I'd do it if I can do the ff:

> find people willing to be my wives
> find enough money to support them and the children to come
> get a big house for them to live in

other than that it's fine.

Through your experiences in high school? What the hell high school did you go to where polygamist relationships were the norm?

Polygamist relationships work great in fantasy. The majority are fucked up situations in real life.

What I meant is the relationships I was in. The couple relationships. Learning what worked and what did not work. Hopefully that clears it up for you.

Relationships in high school aren't a good basis for the reality of a polygamist dynamic. I'd suggest when you get to college to look up some research papers and journal articles on the subject.

You forgot one thing:

MONEY.

One relationship is already bad enough when it comes to the financial aspect of it. Unless you can support both of your spouses equally, then polygamy relationships are gonna fail. High school relationships don't count. You're looking at things in a limited way here.

My love is BOUNDLESS FOR ALL YOU FOXY LADIES OUT THERE!

Jealousy. I can't think of how that would work. I saw some trulife episodes on MTV about this and the people who were being documented always showed jealousy. There is even a reality show about some man who is married to 3 sisters at once http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sister_Wives http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/tv/sister-wives . I could never get myself involved in a relationship like that. I could only want one partner i want to be her man and i want her to my woman.

If everyone involved in the relationship is okay with it, fine. If it's by law, no.
And if anyone's underage, NO.

I would kill myself if i had to listen to another wife. If it's ok with the other then why not.

I was actually in such a relationship for a few months. It was fine at first but over time umm...yea issues came up and I had to end it before it got any worse.

Basically, I've tried it, it's not as special as it might seem to be to some people, I wouldn't do it again if the relationship was "serious". Threesomes are something different though.

One thing many people fail to keep in mind for a polygamous relationship is that your partner is free to have many partners as well. So while you're dreaming up being with many ladies or men, your partner is capable of having the same. I've had guest speakers who were in such a relationship and it is surprisingly stable; they sort of banded into their own community that is very open. Of course, this sort of thing isn't for everyone.

I don't think I would like this kind of relationship though, I'm a pretty jealous person and like to keep my personal stuff exclusive to myself.

I'm not particularly fond of polygamy. I have never really fanaticized about it either. I’m the classic type of guy and expect from my relationship the same they'd expect from me. I think it’s self centered to do this; not considering the feelings of your spouse is inexcusable. However, if I’m not involved and both sides agree to it then I am indifferent about it.

True, but some groups that practice polygamy (while used as the broad definition for multi-person union, actually means "multi women" hence the 'gamy' root) pretty much say men can have more than one woman.
Women usually can't have more than one guy, except in cases of polyandry... and very very few cultures or even groups practice that.

I think that the commitment is just too enduring on multiple levels (finances, time, etc...) but is very much possible depending on the who the person is. Personally if I had the option I would definitely say no. I can accept others practicing polygamy, but I find that kind of stuff to be a real turn off on multiple levels and definitely not something I could ever be comfortable with. Basically, whatever floats your boat, just leave me out.

I see what you all mean. And everyone does bring a good point.

*Many cultures and beliefs systems have used this method and in where I do not like it.
*Jealousy becomes a great deal in this kind of relationships.
*And my high school experience truly does not count into the real matters of the real world. Cause as we all know high school is not really living. But hey it helps.

Basically I am trying to understand more into this kind of relationships. The good, bad, and of course the ugly. Basically people will get jealous and of course if it becomes serious than the whole money deal to provide for every partner and child they have.

So I have heard the negative and bads. So what about the goods? What kind of good comes out of it. In theory, the bond is stronger, have more experiences, and having the thought of having more than one person to love.

Like I said before I do want to try one of these relationships out and see how it can work. Point being is I want to thank you all for you comments.

Keep 'em coming.

Hmm.... I think that polygamy, even if you have money will ring in issues, jealousy may play a part as well. And I've seen a giant family where the man had many wives, and some of his children were not fond for him, because of him fights, divorcing, etc.

Point is that you may find yourself in a big mess if you go down this path.

If you don't have to worry about financial issues, legal issues, or even religious issues then there are still some major blockades preventing this from working. In a relation, I can only assume the people want meet each other half way right? I sincerely doubt that the man or woman in the center of the relation can truly reciprocate the feelings and even expectations for each member of the relationship.

Inter-Harem ( well...it is right?) relations would be darn near impossible to maintain evenly as well, the center will inevitably like a single person more than the rest, thus leading to more issues. Eventually, I think the biggest problem would be this, the inter-harem relations, unless the center has magically acquired several spouses who love each other as much as they do the center, then there exists a large possibility that the stress and tensions would probably drive the center insane.

May or may not be true, but it makes sense to me.