Gambler Posts
Old - Jenkins wrote...
Just feel proud of yourself, Bear. At least, you were able to express your feeling to her; It's much better than never trying at all.
There is no such thing as "grown men shouldn't cry", if you think you need to release it, then do it; "just do what you think is right and you feel the need to do". Your sudden loss of motivation is only a temporary after-effect, it will be gone soon enough. Just think of it a life-lesson. It doesn't mean you won't be able to find better ones sooner or later, just do your best and look forward; You will always have my support.
OT,
I never got rejected before, but my first love accept me because she only wanted to know the feeling to have a lover, she has no special feeling for me at all; It's only to satisfy her curiosity. That makes me think even rejection is much better than this.
Bla bla, relationship ends soon enough because I asked her to just end this "empty" relationship. Well, I was very depressed, I always tried to gain her attention, and I really wanted her to smile when being with me, but all is shattered because of my confession. Our relation never be the same anymore after that.
I take that as a lesson, and I decided to just move forward since I have my own dreams to fulfill; I didn't/don't want it to be interrupted by a silly love matter.
It's not worthy enough.
Thank you for your support all this time Jen.
You are right; I do feel like crying and will most probably do so soon after. The tears are already welling up. More importantly, the most difficult hurdle right now would be to pick myself up, isn't it?
I see you have experienced your share of heartbreak previously too. Thankfully, you have gotten over it.
menolly-hime wrote...
[size=12]wow, i cannot believe i didn't post in this thread before! mind if i pop in here sometimes, gambler?on topic, though, i'm really sorry to hear about what happened. like mitsu said, you're a gentleman and a great guy, in my opinion. the "no electricity/spark" thing has never made sense to me, so i can't really give any input on that. :c
i've very rarely confessed to anyone, since even the thought of it makes me feel faint, haha. but the few times i did, i was rejected a few, yes. it's depressing, it's hurtful, it made me loathe on myself. "what's wrong with me?" i felt inferior to their standards, whatever they were.
but you have to remember that that's not true. you have to accept that you're going to be hurt; don't fight it, don't brush it off. like mibu said, just live with it for now. grow from it. c: i know it's cliche to say, but things will get better in time, your heart will heal and you'll like someone again. telling her was a good decision, feel proud that you could go through with it. good luck~[/h]
Of course, your presence is welcomed in this thread, though I may not be in my usual cheery mood.
Maybe the "no electricity" reason is just an excuse for the girl to reject me politely.
Exactly. The feeling of rejection is extremely depressing. It makes me wonder why I am unable to meet their expectations. Furthermore, unlike other aspects of life, we may not be given a second opportunity to prove ourselves.
Likewise, thank you for your concern. I hope that with the support of everyone, I should be back to my usual self... soon.
Dr Shaneman wrote...
I have to agree with this.
I think one thing that stops me talking to girls is fear of rejection.
I would not know how to cope with it since I'm the type who gets easily upset and I don't have any friends around to fall back on for that either.
To a certain extent, we may be similar in the sentimental aspect.
Dr Shaneman wrote...
Sorry to hear that Gambler.You're a true gentleman in my eyes so I'm surprised to read this.
As for the question, I've never asked a girl out before so I do not know what rejection feels like.
Thank you for your kind words.
I suppose feelings for another party cannot be forced, but it makes me feel a little helpless. No matter how hard one tries, it is to no avail.
mibuchiha wrote...
My first confession ended with her slapping me. I didn't try to overcome it, I just lived on with the feelings that you're feeling now. Luckily my cousin was there to cheer me up so I didn't take too long to be all okay again. I'd say just live with it man, time pass and you'll be all good to hunt for another chick.
As for the rejection itself, I think you did well. It's better than to regret having never tried. She rejected you and there's nothing you can do about it. It's her choice, what mattered is that you tried.
Sounds like you have also experienced rejection previously. Is there any way science can explain why things turn out in such a manner? Can science help us feel better?
As mentioned previously, I know it is definitely better to try than to regret not doing so later, but I just can't help experiencing these negative emotions. T_T
For those of you who remember, I have been going after a girl whom I first met in my Japanese class. After going out with her today, I finally mustered enough courage to confess my feelings to her.
Unfortunately, after reading my letter and poem (yes, I know its kinda old-fashioned), I was rejected. I wouldn't say I am not disappointed; in fact, I feel demoralized with no motivation to do anything. Deep down, I really hoped that she would give me an opportunity, but "no electricity" is the reason cited by her, so I suppose it is difficult to proceed further.
I told myself my main aim would be to confess rather than regret not doing so in the future. Still, I am unable to overcome these emotions of disappointment and sadness.
Some people say grown men shouldn't cry, but I really feel like doing so right now...
Have you people ever been rejected previously and how did you overcome this difficult period?
Unfortunately, after reading my letter and poem (yes, I know its kinda old-fashioned), I was rejected. I wouldn't say I am not disappointed; in fact, I feel demoralized with no motivation to do anything. Deep down, I really hoped that she would give me an opportunity, but "no electricity" is the reason cited by her, so I suppose it is difficult to proceed further.
I told myself my main aim would be to confess rather than regret not doing so in the future. Still, I am unable to overcome these emotions of disappointment and sadness.
Some people say grown men shouldn't cry, but I really feel like doing so right now...
Have you people ever been rejected previously and how did you overcome this difficult period?
I finally mustered enough courage to confess my feelings to her.
Unfortunately, after reading my letter and poem (yeah, its kinda old-fashioned), I was rejected. I wouldn't say I am not disappointed; in fact, I feel demoralized with no motivation to do anything. Deep down, I really hoped that she would give me an opportunity, but "no electricity" is the reason cited by her, so I suppose it is difficult to proceed further.
Some people say grown men shouldn't cry, but I really feel like doing so right now...
Unfortunately, after reading my letter and poem (yeah, its kinda old-fashioned), I was rejected. I wouldn't say I am not disappointed; in fact, I feel demoralized with no motivation to do anything. Deep down, I really hoped that she would give me an opportunity, but "no electricity" is the reason cited by her, so I suppose it is difficult to proceed further.
Some people say grown men shouldn't cry, but I really feel like doing so right now...
Mod Note: I received a report that this particular topic may be similar to the following thread: https://www.fakku.net/viewtopic.php?t=27057. However, after some consideration, I have decided not to merge them.
One focuses on all things cute, while the other narrows it down to only cute girls.
In addition, I have edited the title of this topic to make things clearer for everyone.
Thank you for your kind understanding and I apologize for the inconvenience caused.
One focuses on all things cute, while the other narrows it down to only cute girls.
In addition, I have edited the title of this topic to make things clearer for everyone.
Thank you for your kind understanding and I apologize for the inconvenience caused.
Things might be a little different locally. ^_^;;
I tend to eat fast-food for supper, either when I am at my friend's place or after a late night run, when no other food is available.
I tend to eat fast-food for supper, either when I am at my friend's place or after a late night run, when no other food is available.
Dr Shaneman wrote...
Do you eat healthily though Gambler?
I suppose I do. The food sold at these food centres are cooked food, not fast-food. In fact, I find fast-food kinda expensive. :D
In b4 cheapskate.
jmason wrote...
Spoiler:
I always enjoy your long replies. If only I had more time and energy to write such replies too. Maybe when I am on leave...
Some people call me miserly at times. For lunch, a simple and cheap, but yet filling meal will suffice. I don't mind walking further to pay for cheap food.
As for transport, I attempt to walk whenever I can, instead of paying fares.
Hmm... now brainstorming for a new topic...
- A big fan of "My Little Pony", or is that an understatement?
- Not much green in his avatar or signature right now
- Another great user to speak with
- Not much green in his avatar or signature right now
- Another great user to speak with
[font=Arial Black][color=blue]Mod Note:[/color][/font] Similar, if not identical, topics have been merged.
Sorry for the inconvenience caused.
Sorry for the inconvenience caused.
Wait... am I too late? T_T
I am not sure why you left, but if you ever need a listening ear or someone to speak with, you have my MSN. Hopefully, everything will be resolved soon and you will be active on the forums once again.
In the mean time, do take care.
I am not sure why you left, but if you ever need a listening ear or someone to speak with, you have my MSN. Hopefully, everything will be resolved soon and you will be active on the forums once again.
In the mean time, do take care.
Just when the Cafe is getting crowded and lively, I have to leave.
In any case, *bear hugs* to all in the Cafe and may everyone have a perfect weekend!
In any case, *bear hugs* to all in the Cafe and may everyone have a perfect weekend!
Lizlet L. Chelsie wrote...
That got nothing to do with popularity is it?... It's just about talking to many people at the same time.
I suppose so. It might depend on the situation.
Getting back to speaking with many people at one go, it can be enjoyable when the atmosphere is lively, but it can also be frustrating when one is unable to keep up with the conversation.
Due to my typing speed, I tend to fall into the latter category.
Lizlet L. Chelsie wrote...
Gambler wrote...
I don't think many users know who I am on MSN. Either that or I am a boring person to speak with. ^_^;;That reminds me.. I have you in my contact list... But you're hardly ever online yourself.
I will attempt to speak with you in future.
SamRavster wrote...
[font=verdana][color=green]Get Skype. Everyone is going on Skype nowadays.
Mangaexpert wrote...
Exactly
Indeed, Skype is one of the most popular chat programs these days. However, I have doubts about my current laptop being able to support the program, given its age and specifications. ^_^;;
luinthoron wrote...
Hello again! ^_^*Bear Hugs* to a user whom I have spoken to on MSN. :D
